Disagreeing with someone you love is never fun. Having conflicting feelings and opinions can often leave you feeling misunderstood or unloved. Your feelings are valid, but it’s also important to remember that sometimes, having an argument is the best thing for your marriage.
While it’s not always pleasant, arguing is a healthy and necessary part of a relationship. People won’t get along 100% of the time, and things are bound to end up in a disagreement at some point. Conflict can help couples understand each other more deeply and gain empathy for one another.
Here are some reasons why you shouldn’t shy away from an argument:
Arguing prevents issues from building up
If something bothers you, the best thing to do is to bring it up with your partner. Otherwise, it will grow and grow as you bottle up your frustrations, which will ultimately cause you to become resentful and eventually blow up. This can make the situation much worse than it ever needed to be.
Fighting keeps couples honest and accountable
When we argue, we reveal new facets of ourselves. It can help you realise how much you care about a particular topic, which in turn will help your partner understand you and your worldview more.
At the same time, having disagreements also exposes our shortcomings. Something you do and doesn’t give a second thought could be causing your partner frustration, and by arguing about it you learn about it. Criticism can help you grow and become a better person.
Fighting is an opportunity to better your communication
An argument can easily become tense when couples lead with anger. Instead, use this conflict as an opportunity to communicate more effectively. The focus should be on how you resolve your arguments in a healthy way.
Avoid insults and screaming, and focus on listening instead. Laying down your thoughts in a calm manner will help de-escalate a situation and show maturity.
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