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    India’s governing party has approved legislation to criminalise interfaith marriages in which one partner forces the other to convert to their religion. The legislation was passed on Tuesday [November 24] and applies to the state of Uttar Pradesh, the country’s most populous state.

    This controversial move comes after Prime Minister Narendra Modi’s Bharatiya Janata Party (BJP) campaign against interfaith marriages.

    India, a predominantly Hindu country, has a 14% Muslim minority. Some Hindu far-right groups consider interfaith marriages as “love jihad”, and accuse Muslim men of marrying Hindu women specifically to convert them.

    Under the new legislation, anyone found guilty of using marriage to force someone to convert to another religion may face a prison sentence of up to 10 years. According to Uttar Pradesh government minister Siddharth Nath Singh, criminalising this act will stop unlawful conversions and bring women justice.

    Couples of two different religions will be required to give two months’ notice to a district magistrate before tying the knot. They will be given the go-ahead to marry if the official has no objections. Once the Uttar Pradesh state governor has approved the decree, it will be made law.

    The new decree has received sharp criticism.

    Menaka Guruswamy, a senior lawyer in India said the law “seems to violate constitutional values of equality, non-discrimination, dignity, and very basic ethos that courts have always recognised, that adults can make their own free choice. All men and women should question this idea of their adulthood being questioned and their free will being second-guessed by the state.”

    “The effect of the law is to tighten the grip of religion over individual liberty and choice,” added senior lawyer and human rights activist Vrinda Grover. “It is yet another means to control women’s sexuality, agency, and right to choice. It also infantilises women and portrays them as gullible fools, incapable of making decisions about their life.”

    India has been gripped by controversy related to interfaith relationships for the last few weeks. Prime Minister Modi’s party registered a court case against two Netflix executives for their film ‘A Suitable Boy’, which they argue contains content that allegedly offends the religious sentiments of Hindus. The key scene they oppose is one in which a Hindu girl and a Muslim boy kiss against what appears to be a backdrop of a Hindu temple. Many Indians called for the series to be removed and for people to boycott Netflix.

    In October, jewellery brand Tanishq came under fire for their advertisement which featured a Hindu-Muslim family celebrating a baby shower. They were forced to withdraw the ad from TV and all social media channels.

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    As you look through your closet trying to find the perfect dress to wear to a wedding, there are some things that you need to be mindful of.

    Never mind the style of your outfit, it is basic etiquette to avoid certain colours.

    If you are not sure what those are, here are five colours you should avoid wearing.

    White

    80% of brides wear white to their wedding, and it’s important that a bride stands out on her special day. You do not want to look like you’re trying to upstage her. Only wear white when the bride has specifically asked guest to.

    Glitter (gold or anything metallic) 

    If not white, the bride I most likely to wear a champagne-coloured dress, which you won’t know until you see her.

    To stay on the safe side, avoid ensembles that are predominantly gold or champagne-colored.

    The color the bridesmaids wear

    If you can, ask the bride for a heads-up on what color the bridesmaids’ dresses are so you won’t look like the one that wasn’t included.

    If you don’t know the bride or any of the bridesmaids, use the wedding invitation as a clue—usually, an invite is designed to match a wedding’s colour palette.

    Overly bright colours

    Again, this could mean that you want the spotlight to be on you. Imagine rocking up wearing a neon dress. When choosing a bright colour, consider the season and where the wedding is going to be held.

    Denim

    This colour (fabric) comes across as too casual for a wedding. You can get away with wearing denim if it is a denim jacket as a coverup for a cold-weather event.

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    Algerian couple Ahmed and Doudou made a lucky escape after being rescued by fishermen after 48 hours at sea due to their boat capsizing. The boat contained 20 people of which five died, reports the Italian arm of Doctors Without Borders (MSF).

    When the incident happened, Ahmed and Doudou lost their rings and believed they were gone forever. A few weeks after the disaster, however, rescuers from the maritime rescue NGO Open Arms came across their half-sunken boat adrift in the Mediterranean on November 9. They found a red backpack that contained just a few items in it: a couple of shirts, a spare pair of shoes, a phone charger, and two wedding rings inscribed with the names Ahmed and Doudou.

    “In the first moments, we thought that it probably belonged to someone that was dead or lost in the trip,” Riccardo Gatti, the president of Open Arms Italy, told CNN. “The significance and the meaning of what this was like ‘Wow … here’s something that really belonged to someone and we do not know where they are or if they still are’.”

    Open Arms then shared photos of the backpack and its contents, including the rings, on social media. 

    Gatti reached out to the Italian MSF to help find the owners.

    “When (Open Arms) contacted us, I told them it was impossible to find the owners,” said Ahmad Al Rousan, a cultural mediator for MSF. “But they tried anyway, passing the photos of the backpack to some of the people who were on the same boat as Ahmed and Doudou. “And then they called us and said the backpack belonged to Ahmed.”

    “I spoke with Ahmed directly and he started to explain to me what’s inside because the photo I sent was just of the backpack and some of the things on the deck,” Gatti said.

    Ahmed had told him about the rings, explaining they were in the backpack because the couple was hoping to have them fixed after arriving to Europe.

    Gatti added: “He told me he was really happy to see the photo and he was very emotional about the rings, but he’s still in shock and said ‘I keep thinking about the five people who lost their lives in front of us.”

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    It turns out not even a wedding day can stop this committed sportsman from playing for his team. Soon after tying the knot, Queensland Lions football player Luke Borean quickly traded in this tux for his goalkeeper gloves to win a 4-1 victory over Peninsula Power on the very same day.

    Borean and partner Ellen Hepburn’s big day clashed with the football match after the COVID-19 pandemic extended the season.

    Lions coach Darren Sime told ABC News that he asked Borean to help him prepare reserve keeper Ryan Murphy for the match, but Boren told him it’s all under control.
    “‘There was never any hesitation. Soccer has always come first with us,” Ellen said. “And, come on, it’s Luke, so what else was going to happen?”

    The pair said ‘I do’ to one another on Saturday, November 21. Soon after exchanging vows, the pair headed out to Brisbane where Borean joined his team to compete in the match. Hepburn, still in her wedding gown, cheered her new husband on from the sidelines.

    “Obviously the club would never, ever stand in the way of a player’s wedding, you have to celebrate those moments,” said coach Sime. “But they chose to celebrate that moment with us, which we’re really thankful for.”

    “It is not every day you get to bring your bride and wedding party to a game of football!!” joked the Lions social media. “Tonight, Luke Borean our goalkeeper married his partner, Ellen Hepburn in a great ceremony. They enjoyed the reception and then all headed out to Peninsula to watch Luke play for a spot in next week’s grand final.”

     

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    Unfortunately for the newly weds, they’ve been forced to put their honeymoon on hold as the grand finals are this weekend.
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    Morning or afternoon weddings are increasingly popular and even more so in summer. Why not splash out with a delightful French high tea theme? Think sweet tartlets, fresh croissants and salty finger quiche. Add a splash of exotic tea, artisan coffee and sparkling Champagne.

    Tables laid out in pastel colours, porcelain tea cups and serviettes fit to frame. No one does cakes and breads better than the French.

     

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    Counselling might seem like it’s only for those who have been married for a while and are struggling. However, if you’d like to avoid this fate, it is recommended you try pre-marital counselling.

    This isn’t to say you need it because your marriage is likely to be doomed but rather, it can help couples identify their stances on some important things that many often don’t realise they even need to discuss.

    Here are some areas you should consider talking about with a therapist before getting married:

    Conflict resolution 

    While it is likely you’ve been together for a bit of time and had your fair share of fights, conflict is a bit different when you’re married. This is mostly because you can’t just break up, you have to stick it out.

    With your counsellor you can discuss how you can fight and resolve your fights in a more constructive manner than you may have previously been doing.

    Sex expectations

    Again, you may have been having great sex for a while but going into a marriage can mean different expectations, especially since this is the most time you’ll be spending together.

    A counsellor can help you openly discuss the expectations you have for sex in married life and work on ways to carry communication in this arena forward.

    Division of labour 

    Some couples move in together before marriage so discussing how to divide up the chores but for those who don’t or those who haven’t managed to communicate this properly, discussing it with a counsellor can help.

    Even though you could do this on your own, having a third neutral party makes it easier in the case you feel that the other person is being unfair or not shouldering enough responsibility.

    Finances 

    This is a big one. No matter what kind of contract you sign, discussing finances is vital. Money is a hard topic for most people and not knowing your partners’ financial situation and expectations is guaranteed to cause problems later down the line.

    Since money is such a touchy subject it is a lot easier to discuss it with another person who can help you set boundaries and find a common ground to build from.

    The kid question

    While the big overarching question of whether you should have kids might have been broached, more nuanced discussions on whether you want more than one and how you hope to raise them can be discussed with a counsellor.

    You can also look early at how kids will affect your life, without just being thrown into it.

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    To All The Boys I’ve Loved Before actor Jordan Fisher and fiancé Ellie Woods have been engaged for almost two years. The couple planned on getting married this year in July but the pandemic put a hold on their plans, forcing them to postpone by more than three months.

    To honour their initial wedding date, the pair enjoyed a five-course meal in their backyard on July 24 and looked forward to the rescheduled ceremony in November.

     

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    They got married on Saturday, November 21 in front of a few friends and family.  To confirm the wedding, Ellie changed her Instagram handle to @EllieFischer over the weekend.

    They went on honeymoon together in Florida and Jordan posted a picture of them together and captioned it:

    ‘Throwwwwwwback to the first getaway with my love. Couple years later, I would propose here,’ he captioned the photo of the pair near her parent’s beach house in Sandestin. ‘And a year and half later, we’ll be spending our first turkey day here as HUSBAND AND WIFE’

     

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    South Africa is blessed with stunning scenery wherever you go, making its natural beauty the perfect backdrop for a wedding day. If you’re looking for a wedding venue that is proudly South African, Mountainview Game Ranch is the perfect one.

    Nestled in the foothills of the majestic Waterberg mountains in Limpopo, Mountainview Game Ranch combines luxury and unbridled nature. They are one of the most sought-after weekend, wedding and conference destination venues in the Limpopo province, and offer bridal couples everything from modern facilities and comfortable lodgings to a bridal salon and private open air wedding chapel with sweeping views of the surrounding grasslands.

    Only two hours from Johannesburg, the private 1000-hectare game farm is a bushveld paradise with an abundance of wildlife. This venue can be hired out for your big day, and includes exclusive use of the lodge and amenities for the whole weekend. The ranch can comfortably accommodate up to 126 people.

    Mountainview Game Ranch offers a hassle-free wedding experience complete with various accommodation options, a honeymoon suite, chapel, bridal salon and some of the most spectacular sunset photo opportunities in the Waterberg region.

    The spacious, high rise reception area, outside fire-pit and fully stocked bar comes with staff to cater for your needs.

    Exclusive use of the lodge ensures your guests can relax and enjoy the occasion while the couple can focus on their special day, knowing their guests are cared for and looked after.

    For more information, visit their website HERE.

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    Black Friday is fast approaching, and savvy brides should use this day of savings to prep for their big day. With the stress of planning a wedding, why not spoil yourself with some skincare? This way, you’ll be looking and feeling great come your big day.

    There are many local beauty and skincare brands offering special deals this Black Friday. Here are a few of our favourites.

    Swiitch Beauty

    Swiitch Beauty is a South African beauty brand born out of the internet. From blush palettes to brow gel, their products are designed to enhance natural beauty. They’re also incredibly affordable and aesthetically pleasing to boot.

    They are hosting Swiitch Week from 23-30 November, during which almost all their items are on sale. This is their biggest sale of the year, so make sure you don’t miss out!

    SKIN Functional

     

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    SKIN functional offers a range of products expertly formulated using optimal concentrations of effective and trusted ingredients to restore and maintain the skin’s ideal functioning. The brand was created to demystify skincare jargon and misinformation to deliver honorable “skintelligence”.

    Take steps to a better skincare routine by splurging on  SKIN functional’s 20% off sale, running from 22-30 November. At checkout, type sale20 in the coupon code text box, click ‘apply coupon’ and the discount will automatically be applied then proceed to checkout.

    Thoclor Labs

     

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    Thoclor Labs is a Biotechnology Company dedicated to blending the powers of medical science with the miracles of nature. They develop and produce the world’s most advanced skin aftercare treatments and revolutionary skin rejuvenation products.

    The GF Skin Series developed by Thoclor Labs, and backed by extensive research, makes the quest for youthful healthy skin a reality. Combining rejuvenation with healing means that our products are proven to give you the best skin possible.

    At Thoclor Labs you have an option to sign up for a 6 month GF2 subscription, where you receive 6 bottles of GF2 and pay for only 5. Your 6th bottle will be delivered for no charge at the end of your subscription. Free courier delivery included for every bottle. 
    In addition to the free bottle (you normally receive with your subscription) the Black Friday special is 15% off the subscription which basically equates to double the discount.

    Lulu & Marula

     

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    Lulu and Marula is a natural, ethically produced cruelty-free skin and body care collection developed in Cape Town by Jesslynn Shepherd. It focuses on clean, simple and sustainable ingredients that are free from artificial colours, fragrances, parabens, petrochemicals, synthetics or other harmful ingredients.

    They will be running their Annual Give Back Friday initiative over Black Friday Weekend. Lulu & Marula has partnered with their Marula Oil supplier to raise money from all online purchases over the Black Friday weekend which will go towards planting new Marula trees. They will be offering all online customers 20% off their purchase, and donating 20% of their purchase to the Marula tree planting initiative. The promotion runs from Friday morning (November 27) until Sunday evening (November 29). To date, Lulu & Marula has planted over 300 Marula trees through the initiative!

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    Japanese lawmakers are considering creating a new honourary title for female imperial family members who lose their royal status after marriage, in order to allow them to continue engaging in public duties.

    The Japanese Imperial Family is believed to be the oldest hereditary royal family in the world, and their traditions go back hundreds of years. Under the 1947 Imperial House Law, women may not ascend the throne. This law also dictates that the noble line may only run through imperial-born males. Even if an imperial woman is allowed to remain the royal family, her sons may not inherit because their father is not imperial.

    The law also states that while women who marry into the imperial family gain royal status, imperial women who marry someone of no aristocratic or royal background cannot remain official members of the family. As such, they lose their royal title and position in her family. This rule does not apply to male members of the imperial family.

    Over the years, many imperial women have had to leave the royal family for love, causing concerns that there will not be enough royals left to perform their duties. At least eight members of the royal family have been forced to give up their royal status for marriage since the law was imposed.

    The Japanese government are now considering giving married female imperial family members the honourary title ‘kojo’, which will allow them to retain a small status in the royal family. Instead of revising the Imperial House Law, government are considering creating special legislation to support this.

    This may be an easier pill to swallow for conservatives who are opposed to women ascending the throne or staying in the royal family after marrying a commoner.

    If this comes into effect, Emperor Naruhito and Empress Masako’s daughter Princess Aiko, as well as Crown Prince Akishino’s daughters Princess Mako and Princess Kako will be among those to receive the new title.

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