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    When you hear the words “diamond ring”, the first thing that comes to your mind is probably an engagement ring, right? These days, the gems are closely connected to love and romance. However, as with many wedding traditions, it has a not-so-romantic beginning.

    According to Marie Claire, the first recorded bride to have received the sparkling surprise for her engagement was Archduke Maximillian of Austria’s bride-to-be in 1477. However, this was not the inception of the diamond ring proposal.

    That achievement is attributed to the jewellery giant, De Beers. Insider reports that diamonds have become the world’s most popular choice for engagement rings as a result of a marketing ploy by De Beers.

    Early in the 1900s, diamond production was low. Engagement rings were often given to women for the purpose of marriage, however for the most part the gem was not a diamond. By 1938, the diamond had become more popular for this purpose. But, as its value dropped with the Great Depression, their popularity dropped once again.

    In 1947, De Beers launched a clever advertising campaign. The slogan for the campaign was “a diamond is forever”.  De Beers built their marketing around the idea that diamonds – with their brilliance, unbreakable character, and everlasting nature – are symbolic of the commitment of marriage, which is forever.

    De Beers’ tactics were elaborate, as they targeted the psychology of human beings. In 1982, an investigating journalist named Edward Jay Epstein wrote an exposé in The Atlantic about the campaign.

    In this tell-all, 20 000 word piece, Epstein revealed shocking truths about the advertising campaign. “Even though diamonds can in fact be shattered, chipped, discolored, or incinerated to ash, the concept of eternity perfectly captured the magical qualities that the advertising agency wanted to attribute to diamonds,” he wrote.

    According to Epstein, part of the advertising strategy included sending lecturers to schools to ensure children knew the value of diamonds. He said that they also created a weekly service called “Hollywood personalities” which  “provided 125 leading newspapers with descriptions of the diamonds worn by movie stars.”

    The campaign was so rigorous and aggressive that it spread across the ocean to other countries. It may, however, not be that surprising as they had spent millions a year on the campaign which even reached Japan, a country that had not included engagement rings in their traditions prior to this. The campaign lasted about 4 decades, and remnants of it can still be seen today in some advertisements.

    These days, however, diamonds are falling in popularity. Many refuse to participate in the diamond business for ethical reasons. De Beers is a massive, powerful company though. Who knows what their next ad campaign will achieve.

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    It’s never too late for more love, and once you find it nothing will stop you from keeping it! This 91-year-old couple proved just that as they tied the knot in the middle of the coronavius pandemic.

    Jeanine Sprague and Don Sandin made it official on Easter Sunday, (which also happened to be Sprague’s birthday) despite the worldwide health crisis. The St. Petersburg couple told the Tampa Bay Times that they wanted to ensure they were legally married in the event that one of them needs to be hospitalised.

    “We just decided a couple of weeks ago. Because of the circumstances that are going on in society, we just felt that we should legalise our relationship, so we would be protected,” said Sandin to the Tampa Bay Times.

    The couple had their first date on New Years Eve 2018. It was a five course meal, after which they viewed the fireworks over Tampa Bay from Spragues apartment. For their Easter Sunday wedding, Sprague wore the same outfit that she did on their first date.

    Of course the wedding was kept small. They held their nuptials in their pastor’s St. Pete Beach backyard. The announcement of their wedding however, was much bigger. Along with a photograph of the couple which was sent out, was a recording of Sandin singing ‘I’m getting married in the morning’ from My Fair Lady.

    “I had been singing it ever since we decided we would get married,” said Sandin.

    Both previously widowed, the couple believe they have a good understanding of each other. They said they have the same beliefs and have lived in the same times. “It’s a very easy relationship. We have the same stories. We lived in the same time,” said Sprague.

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    A destination wedding is probably one of the most difficult types of nuptials to deal with, under the current circumstances. Social distancing and international travel bans essentially ensure that these weddings can’t happen.

    At this point, you’re most likely extremely worried about what to do with regards to your destination wedding. Lisa Sheldon operater of I Do Island Weddings & Honeymoons in Janesville and president of Destination Wedding & Honeymoon Specialists Association, told Boston Globe that it might be a bit of a tough situation.

    She said that the honeymoon side of things can be quite flexible. However, “it’s a little bit harder when it’s a destination wedding. This is a day that a couple has dreamed about for a long time and planned and spent money on. It’s already an emotional trip — and then to have something like this come in and affect it. . . . That really is out of their control,” she said.

    Her advice was to cancel as much as possibly as quickly as possible, in order to get refunds. When the health crisis is contained and things go back to normal, everything can be rebooked.

    Many airlines and travel agents have adjusted their policies to allow for cancellations at this time. There is more flexibility now, as suppliers are aware that everything is not in the control of travellers.

    Some have advised to change the location to one that is more local. However, in South Africa, no gatherings are allowed so this would not be a viable option.

    Unfortunately, the best you can do is chat to all your suppliers as quickly as possible, and attempt to have everything postponed. People will be very understanding during this time, so we’re sure you don’t have that much to worry about.

    What’s most important right now is that you consider the health and safety of yourself and your guests. You wouldn’t want to put anyone in to harm’s way. It is an unfortunate turn of events, but things will turn out fine if you put your best foot forward!

    If your destination wedding is planned for much later in the year or next year, you may want to have a chat with some travel agents and keep your eyes peeled to the news. You never know, it may still be possible to carry on as planned if the situation surrounding the spread of coronavirus takes a turn for the better.

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    These days, soon-to-be married couples are desperate to find a way around social distancing in order to still safely have their weddings. These nurses got creative by filling pews with pictures of their loved ones.

    Louisiana couple, Clare Seghers and Mel Keefer, ensured that their wedding would go on and that they would feel the love from all the people they hold near and dear.

    Of course, it would be tremendously irresponsible to have a church wedding with guests filling up the pews. As nurses who are both fighting on the frontlines of the pandemic, the couple knew this. Instead, they set up a live stream (as many other couples have done in recent times) and to make it even more special they asked their loved ones to send them photographs of themselves.

    Before the ceremony started, the couple printed each photo and placed them on the pews in the church, where they would have sat.

    Seghers made her way down the aisle, with only ceremonious music playing in the background, seeing the smiling faces of her loved ones in the pews. They said their vows, and carried out the ceremony as normal. However, they had no idea that a surprise was in store when the left the venue and entered the parking lot.

    As they exited the church, all their guests sat safely in their cars and hooted in congratulations! A welcome surprise that they surely will never forget!

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    Congrats to the happy couple!

    Picture: Screenshot from video / Scottie Hunter WAFB

    Almost everyone dreams of having their favourite musician peform at their wedding. However, the chances of this are usually extremely slim. Now more than ever, a celebrity appearance at a wedding is one of the least expected things that could happen.

    This lucky couple, however, were one in a million. Hayley Pitman, a NHS nurse, and Harvey Skelton were forced to postpone their wedding like many others across the world. They decided they would hold their ceremony on Zoom, a very popular trend these days.

    Their online wedding organisers, For Better For Worse, organised a little surprise for them. A performance by Ellie Goulding was on the cards and the couple had no idea.

    Tammy Madge from For Better For Worse said to Metro UK: “It was really difficult to see so many couples having to postpone their weddings after spending months or even years saving and planning for their special day.”

    “To help bring a smile back to a special couple’s face, we took it upon ourselves to organise a virtual wedding.  With such close ties to the NHS, Hayley and Harvey were the perfect choice for us, and of course Ellie Goulding surprising the couple made it so much more special and beautifully emotional even if we were all sat behind our screens! We hope that people will get on-board by donating to our fundraiser page, to show how appreciated our amazing NHS is, especially during this unprecedented time,” she added.

    After the ceremony and the kiss, Ellie Goulding appeared on screen and said “Congratulations Harvey and Hayley, you’re both heroes and we all love you.”

    They had their first dance to an acoustic version of the pop star’s hit ‘Love Me Like You Do’.

    Watch it unfold here:

    Congrats to the happy couple!

    Image: Twitter / @ILoveGlosUK

    There’s a lot of debate about custom wedding dresses versus off-the-rack dresses. Many claim that a custom dress takes much more time and effort. Since we’re in a nationwide lockdown, perhaps now is the perfect time to consider a bespoke gown.

    With a custom gown, there are many advantages. Your imput is the most important thing, whereas with off-the-rack gows, you might have to settle for what’s available. The world is your oyster with a tailor-made gown, you can let your imagination run free to come up with exactly what your dream dress looks like. Not only that, you won’t have to spend hours in stores trying on dress after dress.

    Since you have two weeks (possibly more) left at home you can get to thinking. Start by searching Instagram and Pinterest to gather some inspiration. From there, you can note which styles are your favourites, what fabrics and colours you like, and other small touches to make your wedding dress truly unique.

    You could even spend some time chatting to dressmakers, offering them your ideas to see if they’re able to create something that you’d like. With the technology we have these days, you could have your entire first appointment online, as long as you can take your own measurements.

    Of course, with a custom dress you may have to spend a bit more money and have a few more fittings. However, these problems are easily turned into non-issues if you try hard enough.

    You may be saving money in other areas of your wedding expenses as a result of the coronavirus pandemic. For example, if your guest list is slightly trimmed to ensure that you have a smaller gathering (since we may still have some restrictions after the lockdown ends) then you’ll save money by getting a smaller venue, or by catering for less people. You’ll also save on printing and sending invitations. These savings could be used for your dress, if you’d like.

    A bespoke dress ensures a perfect fit, no style limitations and many more up sides, so it’s worth considering. After all, who knows you better than you!

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    Not all superhero’s wear capes, some deliver packages and come bearing a groom’s wedding band just in time for the ceremony.

    Savannah Kulenic and Dylan Perkins planned a big April 10 wedding in Hawaii, only to be forced to cancel due to the coronavirus pandemic. However, they didn’t let that get them down. Together, they organised a last minute ceremony which was held at a friends beach house in Surf City.

    Just when they thought nothing else could go wrong, they were left without the grooms ring which had not yet been delivered by the time they started the beach wedding ceremony. The photographer, Amy Fowler, documented the entire fiasco in a Facebook post.

    “The bride was waiting on the groom’s wedding band that was to be delivered by the time of the ceremony,” said Fowler. “We had to leave a note on the front door to ask if the delivery person would bring the ring down to the beach. We began the ceremony on the beach and at the end of the ceremony my friend, Brandy, yelled ‘LOOK, IT’S THE FED EX MAN!’ ”

    “This sweet man came running down the sand waving the package. It was amazing!” she added.

    Fowler joked that this was the perfect opportunity for a great FedEx commercial.

    Have a look at Fowlers images of the saviour in action below, you can even see the FedEx employee attempting to ensure he practices safe social distancing.

    Congrats to the happy couple!

    Images: Facebook / Amy Fowler Shores

    If you were planning on getting married in the next few months, you’ve most likely decided to postpone your wedding on account of the coronavirus pandemic. This can be an overwhelming task, and it’s easy to forget simple things like asking your vendors the correct questions.

    If you’re not sure where to start with the postponing process, then we suggest you start with your vendors. Make enquiries with them to find out everything you need to know. From there, it’ll be a much simpler task.

    Additionally, starting with your vendors could lead to some refunds if you’re lucky. Not all of them offer refunds, it often depends on individual circumstances. However, it is commonly said that the earlier you cancel, the better your chances of getting a refund.

    Here are some questions you should ask your vendors:

    – Wedding Planner 

    What are our options if we decide to postpone?

    Are you able to coordinate with our other vendors on our decision?

    If we reschedule, will you be available in the coming months?

    – Florist 

    What happens if we cancel or postpone our wedding?

    Is it possible to use the deposit for a new wedding date?

    Will there be an issue with sourcing the chosen flowers and if so will you be available to assist with choosing new ones?

    – Caterer 

    Are there any cancellation fees, and are they applicable for postponing too?

    Will postponing mean we have to redo the menu?

    If the number of guests decreases, will we pay the original amount or an adjusted amount?

    Will you handle food and serving of food differently as a result of coronavirus?

    – Photographer 

    Are there fees related to cancelling or rescheduling?

    Are we able to apply the deposit to the new date?

    Are you available in coming months if we do postpone?

    If you’re having a destination wedding, enquire whether vendors such as the photographer are still comfortable to travel.

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    Like many others, Alex Buckwell, 26, and David Collie, 36, were forced to cancel their wedding on account of the coronavirus pandemic. Luckily for them, they recently moved into the friendliest of neighbourhoods and were treated to a surprise wedding by the other residents.

    The couple from Eastbourne, East Sussex, postponed their ceremony which was supposed take place in a Scottish priory. Of course, they were heart broken by this. Instead of their big wedding, they planned to eat fancy steaks in their new garden on March 23, since they had just moved in.

    That evening, they heard the sound of bagpipes and a knock on their door. To their surprise they found that their new neighbours put together an impromptu wedding with champagne, bagpipes, flowers, and a bubble machine.

    “It was the most touching surprise,” said Alex, who works in HR for the NHS in Eastbourne, to the Daily Mail.  “To know that this was all organised by strangers made it even more incredible. I couldn’t stop crying.”

    “We’d moved into the house on the last day possible before house moves were banned and then we were in lockdown so we hadn’t met any of the neighbours.”

    She said she only briefly mentioned what would have been her wedding day because the woman who lives across the road had asked her if they could swap parking spaces.

    The couple danced to ABBA’s Dancing Queen as the neighbours applauded their first dance in the middle of the road.

    Congrats to the happy couple!

    Images: Unsplash

    You may think that with a world wide health crisis going on, now is not the best time to get engaged. However, it seems many would disagree as there have been quite a few engagements during the time of coronavirus.

    Of course, there is no single reason for this trend, but there are a few which are common. The most common reason is that these couples planned to get engaged before the coronavirus pandemic took over everyone’s lives and forced us all to change our plans. Like rapper Jeezy, who propososed to Jeannie Mai on a “quarantine date”, many are simply following through with plans they had already made but had reworked to cater for self-isolation. After all, we wouldn’t want to put our lives on hold for an undisclosed, or unknown amount of time.

    Many people are rushing engagements of marriages at this time for more logistical and technical reasons. Getting engaged and married means that you may have more authority to advocate for each other in medical emergencies, which is important at a time like this. It may also be on account of visa requirements, or to avoid conflicts about wills or estates.

    Then, there is the obvious reason. The one we hope is the strongest, most convincing reason for all those couples getting engaged. Love. Perhaps the health crisis has shown people how precious life is and how time is fleeting and that they have to seize the moment.

    For those who are religious, or at least more conservative in their beliefs, an engagement or marriage makes it more “acceptable” to stay together during the lockdown. If people don’t want to get separated from each other during this time, they simply get engaged and married to be together while keeping their families happy.

    No matter the reason though, we hope that all the couples getting engaged during this time are as happy as can be!

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