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    A wedding is often considered the ultimate show of unity, between a couple. Two people are taking the biggest step that they can, to show that they are committed to living a life together, no matter what comes their way.

    Some might say that a wedding ceremony on its own is enough celebrate this massive step. But what of symbolism and gestures?

    If you’re the type of couple who appreciates a good symbolic gesture, then read on. Across the world, different cultures have developed various wedding practices that indicate unity. These are carried out at ceremonies and celebrations.

    Here are some examples from around the world:

    Blanket wrapping

    In general, Native Americans partake in the practice of wrapping a newlywed couple in a quilt, to symbolise warmth and togetherness.

    However, when it comes to the ancient Cherokee’s specifically, each partner is individually wrapped in a blue blanket, before an efficient blesses their marriage. Thereafter, they are covered in one white blanket.

    The colour blue is said to represent their past lives and the white is symbolic of their dedication to ensuring there is peach in their new life.

    Lighting a fire 

    An old tradition in Africa uses fire to show the union of two families, by joining the embers of two flames from each family’s hearth.

    These days, newlyweds may use a modification of this tradition, by lighting a fire together.

    Circle the Groom 

    Or the bride, for that matter.

    In one Jewish tradition, one partner circles the other seven times to break down barriers between them, ensuring that they are unified. In the past, it was customary for the bride to circle the groom, however, these days each partner circles around the other.

    Handfasting 

    This ancient Celtic practice requires the couple to tie their hands together. The bride and groom hold opposite hands, which means their arms make an 8 (or infinity). Thereafter, their hands are tied together with a ribbon.

    Other

    Other practices, which are not connected to regions, cultures, or religions, can also be cute ways to show unity at your wedding.

    Couples have planted trees together, created time capsules and painted one picture on one canvas together,

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    The first thing you think when you picture a bride making her way down the aisle is “here comes the bride, all dressed in white”, right? It is probably the most popular wedding processional song out there. But did you know it wasn’t actually meant to be a wedding song, and in fact there has been lots of opposition to its use?

    The song was not written with the intention of it being a wedding song. “Here Comes The Bride comes from Richard Wagner’s 1860 opera called Lohengrin. At the beginning of Act Three, the song appears. In the opera, it is sung as members of a wedding party escort the bride and groom to their bridal chambers. The story ends in tragedy, however, as the bride dies of grief after the groom is forced to leave her. Strange that a song with this history would become attached to weddings forever, right?

    “Here comes the Bride”, also known as the “Bridal Chorus“, is commonly believed to have first been heard at Princess Victoria Adelaide Mary Louise’s wedding, 162 years ago, according to Time. The princess, who was Queen Victoria’s oldest child married Frederick William IV of Prussia on Jan. 25, 1858, in the Chapel Royal at St. James’ Palace.

    While the tune is still popular at weddings today, although slightly less common than it used to be, there has been quite a bit of controversy surrounding it.

    Some members of the Roman Catholic Church, and more conservative-leaning denominations frown on the use of “Here comes the Bride” for a few reasons including: the fact that it comes from a secular body of work, the original context of the song was not that of a wedding professional, and that Wagnerian operas tend to incorporate “pagan” elements.

    In addition, the composer of the song is known for his anti-Semitic views. The Jewish Virtual Library details the controversy around Wagner, and why the bridal chorus is often not used in Jewish weddings. They include the fact that Wagner was of the opinion that people of the Jewish faith lacked the ability for elegant and sophisticated musical expression.

    Many are unaware of the unsavoury history of the song. It is true that many things get trivialised as time passes. However, it is always good to know the background of something before going with it.

    If the Bridal Chorus feels uncomfortable now, there is always the Wedding March, which is also believed to have first been heard at Princess Victoria Adelaide Mary Louise’s wedding. The song was also not intended for weddings, but rather was the product of composer Felix Mendelssohn’s hard work for an  1842 production of Shakespeare’s A Midsummer Night’s Dream, according to Time.

    In fact, these days most couples opt for popular songs on the circuit or songs which mean something special to them and are significant in their relationship.

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    Modern couples have been inspired by natural greenery when planning their big day. Botanical-inspired weddings are huge in the wedding world and are much-loved for its ease and affordability.

    Aromatic herbs like rosemary, mint, lavender, sage, and basil work wonders as wedding decor for a multitude of reasons. They are cheap and easily accessible as they can be grown at home and harvested. They also smell amazing and will make your guests want to keep sniffing those amazing fragrances all day.

    Herbs are also incredibly versatile. We love that herbs can be used in various ways on your big day beyond the food. Incorporate it into your table decor or your bridal bouquet. You can also use it as a parting gift for wedding favours or as an alternative for the traditional rice toss.

    Here are some ways to use herbs throughout your wedding day, from your escort cards all the way to your wedding favours:

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    Planning a wedding is tough enough, but add a global pandemic and it’s almost nightmarish. While some rise to the occasion, others require guests to do some strange things in the name of love.

    According to a thread on Reddit,  one bride reportedly re-invited guests to the big day after she had to change plans due to the COVID-19 pandemic.  Included in the RSVP is a request for each guest to write two essays on why they should be allowed to attend. The bride’s sister took to Reddit to ask whether she is in the wrong for refusing to RSVP.

    “So my sister is getting married next February, destination wedding no less. I have doubts whether this wedding is actually going to happen with the pandemic and everything but she is totally set on moving forward,” writes the sister.

    “Anyways because of the pandemic, her original venue has made her cut down on guests because they’re cutting capacity by half. As a result she’s sending out “re-invites” that asks everyone to RSVP again. But in order to figure out who to invite and who to cut, she’s asking all confirmed guests to submit two 250-word “essays” to two questions. The gist is that they’ll use these essays to choose who can come or not, based on people’s enthusiasm. People who don’t write the essays at all will be automatically disqualified.”

    The two questions guests must answer are “why do you still want to celebrate this day with us?” And “what will attending our wedding mean to you specifically?”

    The sister believes that she should not have to write these essays, as she is spending her own money on plane tickets and a hotel to attend the destination wedding, as well as a wedding present. However, the bride has told her that without an RSVP, she may not attend the wedding.

    This has caused strain in the family, with the parents telling the sister she has to write the essays or else she will cause even greater issues with relatives.

    Since the thread was posted, it has received 3 700 comments with the vast majority siding with the sister. Many suggest writing the essays in a sarcastic manner.

    “I would definitely send in two essays. The first would say ‘Mom/Dad said I have to come or I’m in BIG trouble’ over and over again until you hit 250. The second, ‘I’m your sibling'”, comments one Reddit user.

    Is the sister in the wrong for not meeting the bride’s wishes, or is it unfair of the bride to expect guests to motivate for why they deserve an invite?

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    As we all know by now, the virtual wedding has taken the world by storm as coronavirus prevents families from joining their loved one’s ceremonies in person. While some are saddened by the fact that they must join the party via video, others are grateful that technology allows them to stay close even when they’re far away.

    Lupita Nyong’o is one of those who fall into the category of being happy that the technology exists. Without it, she wouldn’t have witnessed her brother’s wedding.

    The actress tuned in to her younger brother, Peter (Junior) Nyong’o’s nuptials via video this week. Lupita is in the US, and her brother is in Kenya.

    Like a proud big sister, Nyong’o shared snaps from little bro’s wedding (including her setup), captioning it: “Yup, he is off the market, folks! Sharing a moment of joy in my family’s life when my sweet, gentle, loving baby brother @juniornyongo made his declaration of love to his new bride @wanjawohoro this week.”

    “I still cannot believe I was not physically present, but thank God for technology! Welcome to the family, Wanja” she added.

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    In a post to Instagram, Wanja Wohoro, the bride, said of their wedding: “Not the wedding we planned originally, but ultimately even more perfect and intimate than we could have ever imagined.”

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    Of course, congratulations came pouring in for the pair. Those sending their love included Star Wars actor John Boyega, who commented on both Lupita and Peter’s Instagram post’s.  He wrote, “Yessss brooo congrats” on Peter’s upload.

    Image: Instagram / Lupita Nyong’o

    The extended lockdown has wreaked havoc across various South African industries. Many wedding vendors have been left jobless as weddings are banned under current regulations.

    Pink Book Weddings is giving back to the wedding industry by having a competition for a FREE 360 degree virtual tour on Pink Book Weddings, where they help wedding vendors and brides connect by promoting them and giving them that extra push they need.

    “With the COVID pandemic changing everyday life as we know it it goes without saying that weddings have changed indefinite as well. Venue viewings have become a lot stricter and less; but 360 virtual tours are filling the gap and becoming a literal life safer for venues,” Pink Book Weddings explains.

    This gives couples the opportunity to view a venue from all across the world, and is an amazing marketing tool that gives potential clients an in-depth experience of your venue all in the comfort of their own home.

    To win, venues must fill in this form.

    The competition closes on August 20 at 3pm. Good luck!

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    “Something Olde, Something New, Something Borrowed, Something Blue”. This is the age-old saying for weddings that has survived for decades. It comes from an old english rhyme back in the Victorian era. Having old, new, borrowed and blue elements in your big day are said to be good luck.

    Whether you’re susperstitious or not, you can’t deny that blue is a darling shade. Cool blue is the pantone colour of the year, meaning this hue is especially trendy.

    Blue works wonders on all skin tones, and can be rich or soft depending on the specific shade you pick. Brides can have fun with a full blue gown, or go subtle with some blue detail. Either way, its sure to make you even more lucky on your big day.

    If you love this colour and want to incorporate it into your wedding dress, take inspiration from these fancy frocks:

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    Finding the perfect wedding gown is a dream come true, and whether you’re buying yours off the market or having it designed specifically for you, there are a couple of things to look for in a wedding dress, aside from it looking amazing.

    While style is important, there are a number of elements to consider when choosing a gown that will greatly impact on how it looks on you. Here is what to keep in mind:

    COMFORT

    It is so important to ensure that you feel comfortable in your dress. You will be spending a fair amount of time in it and besides the wedding nerves, you don’t want to aggravate any stressful feelings by having a dress that is heavy, painful to wear or inconvenient on the dance floor.

    For example, if you love the look of a corset but find its boning is affecting your ability to breathe, you need to have that refitted or simply opt to not have one.

    SIZING

    It is common for brides to order a dress in a smaller size to motivate them to lose some weight before the big day. We advise against this, as it can bring unnecessary stress and pressure. There is always room to pinch in some extra fabric at a later stage, but there is little you can do about a dress that is too small.

    FABRIC

    Choosing the right fabric can make all the difference – it can change the look, feel and cost of your dress. Be sure to know what fabric you want and why before deciding on your dress. Stay away from fabrics that won’t wash well, are too hot, see-through or will reveal any sweat stains.

    You have to consider where you will be holding your wedding and the weather of the day. A velvet dress isn’t the best choice for a summer beach wedding, and a strapless chiffon number might leave you feeling frosty during an outdoor winter wedding in the mountains.

    SEASONAL

    Remember to keep the season in mind when picking your perfect gown. You may want to add sleeves if you’re having an autumn/winter wedding or opt for less fabric during a summer wedding. Whether your big day will be outdoors or not is also a factor to keep in mind when thinking about style, especially if you don’t want a low hem or long train to get dirty outside.

    MOVE ON

    Once you have settled on your gown, stop looking for other options. This will only cause unnecessary stress. If you’re ever feeling unsure, sneak a try-on (carefully, of course) or look at some snaps of you in the gown to remember why it’s perfect and why you love it.

    Your dress should be one that captures your personality while emphasizing your best qualities, but it’s not all about the looks. Try to remember all of the smaller details about the dress that will make it perfect for you and your wedding.

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    Guest lists will have to be smaller for the foreseeable future amid the COVID-19 pandemic. Even as weddings are allowed to continue again, we predict there will be a strict limit on how many people may gather.

    As a result, couples will have to be extra cautious when determining who will attend their wedding. Beyond this, your guest list size is also a key issue because it will largely affect the total cost of your wedding.

    Here are some tips for creating a list and sticking to it.

    Decide who plans the list:

    In most cases, you, your fiance, and both of your families will each have their own idea about who should be invited.  While everyone can share how they feel, it’s key to discuss beforehand who has the final say on the list.

    To get off on the right foot, have everyone involved submit a list of the people they’d like to attend. They should rank the names in order of importance, starting at the top. Then you and your fiance can compare the lists and cross off any duplications. Add up the numbers that are left to determine how close you are to your estimated count and figure out how many more people you may need to eliminate (or, if you’re lucky, who you can add). Then, have each of the parties involved cut an assigned number of names, starting from the bottom of his or her personal list. This way, both families are treated fairly, while you manage to keep control over the size of the guest list.

    Make an A and B List:

    While it may sound harsh, there are some guests that are more important than others. Having your parents and best friends present is probably more meaningful than your cousin twice removed. A good idea is to create separate lists: your A and B list.

    In list A, include all the essential people you want at your wedding, like your close family and best friends. Anyone you deem non-essential but would be nice to have around should go in your B list. This will include colleagues, distant relatives and neighbours.

    Determine budget and venue:

    Before going crazy with your list, it’s helpful to know what you can afford and what your budget allows. There is no point in having a long list if your venue can only accommodate 100 people. When venue shopping, keep in mind whether you want a small. medium-sized or large wedding.

    Similarly, you need to know that you have the budget to back this up. If you want a big wedding, you need to have the funds or a plan to be able to finance a wedding of this scale before inviting people. You don’t want to have to un-invite people later, or scrimp on other aspects of your big day.

    Adults only:

    An easy way to limit a guest-list is to go child-free. While it’s cute to have nieces and nephews in your wedding, some decide that no other children who are not in the wedding party may be invited. This also helps to cut down on costs of an on-site babysitter for super small kids, and needing entertainment to prevent tiny tots from boredom.

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    With the coronavirus pandemic still ongoing, most couples are significantly scaling down their wedding ceremonies. This means that many are not making use of traditional vendors such as photographers.

    One New York couple decided they would marry on the Brooklyn Bridge, with nothing but an officiant and a stunning view. However, they were in luck as a woman passing by decided it would be a terrible shame for them to go without a single wedding photo to remember the day by.

    Nevona Friedman took a stroll on the Brooklyn Bridge on Sunday, 26 July. Along the way, she stumbled upon a couple getting married all by their lonesome, apart from the officiant. She decided she would help out by snapping some shots of the special moment.

    “I realized there was no one else there — no family watching or photographer. I really can’t imagine getting married with no photos,” she told the New York Post.

    Excited to share what she’d done, and hopefully find the couple to gift them with the photos, she took to Twitter.

    “If you were getting married on the Brooklyn Bridge this evening, I’ve got some photos for you!” she wrote.

    According to the New York Post, Friedman went on a search for the couple, tagging as many journalists as she could and posting the photo to various social media groups. She eventually found a mutual friend who put her in touch with the bride, Nikolina Kovalenko, a 32-year-old artist from Sunset Park, Brooklyn.

    After getting engaged last month, Kovalenko and her now-husband, Stefan Ponova (30), decided they would have a wedding without all the fuss.

    “We knew we wouldn’t be able to have a wedding where all our friends and family could attend,” she told The Post. Their lack of photographer was in an effort to keep to social distancing regulations and not put anyone at risk.

    Another Twitter user seems to have captured the ceremony too and posted his photograph in the comments of Friedman’s post.

    Other Twitter users responded overwhelmingly positively, with one saying that this is all you need for a wedding.

    Image: Twitter / Nevona