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    For centuries brides have worn veils for a number of symbolic and religious reasons. From warding off evil spirits in ancient Greece to displaying a woman’s virtue in Christianity, the veil has become a traditional wedding garment.

    But this doesn’t mean that they’re mandatory. Many brides opt not to wear a veil on their wedding day, choosing to go with stunning clips, grips and headbands instead. If you’re undecided, here’s a guide to help you make your choice.

    Is symbolism important to you?

    For some, religion and symbolism are extremely important. Your wedding day might not feel real unless all the traditions (including wearing a veil) are honoured. If this is the case, your choice is easy. If wearing a veil is purely aesthetic for you, that’s okay too. As long as it has special meaning to you.

    Will the weather interfere? 

    If you’re planning an outdoor wedding, it’s important to factor in the weather. Do you really want the wind blowing your veil across your face as you walk down the aisle or getting caught in seats and decor? Keep in mind that there are places where a veil works beautifully so take your venue and the time of year into consideration too.

    Does it work with your hair? 

    Some brides want to show off their hair instead of wearing a veil. Others want their hair styled to complement their veil. There are many different kinds of veils and alternative hair accessories to choose from, so narrow down your search by deciding what type of statement you’d like to make.

    Will you be comfortable? 

    Yes, it’s your big day and yes, you want to look incredible, but that doesn’t mean sacrificing comfort. A veil may hinder your movement and bother you during the ceremony, or not wearing one might leave you feeling exposed. Decide what’s best for you and then go with it.

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    When crafting your perfect bridal look, it’s important to stay true to yourself and your values. For a Muslim bride who chooses to wear a hijab, this is an important addition to her beauty.

    A hijab is a headscarf some Muslim women wear over their hair and chest, in honour of their Islamic tradition. Islam encourages both men and women to dress modestly once they hit puberty, and a hijab is a common method of following this guideline for women. However, it is not a requirement, so some Muslims may choose not to wear one.

    A hijab can be highly personal and speaks to one’s culture and upbringing. It can be worn in a multitude of ways, from a simple wrap to an ornate headpiece accessorised with jewels and stones. It’s like wearing a crown.

    The fabric you choose will have to complement your dress. Generally, brides have the hijab made from the same fabric their dress in to ensure it matches in colour and creates a uniform look. The fabric will act as a base, and you can always dress it up with jewels and extra accessories.

    If you want something different, you could always make a statement with some texture and dimension. Chiffon adds a lighter look and ethereal quality, and sowing 3D flowers of different sizes will add a stunning depth to your look. Lace is always perfect for a touch of romance, and a more clean look, opt for pearls.

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    There is no end to South Africa’s beauty. The country is blessed with stunning natural scenery from coast and mountains to the bustling city and relaxing Cape Winelands.

    If you’re on the market for your dream venue, look no further. We’ve compiled some of our favourite locations across the country that will be the perfect backdrop to your big day

    Blaauklippen

    Down to earth with a rich history and winemaking tradition, Blaauwklippen is one of the oldest wine farms in Stellenbosch. Pick from the Manor House Lawn, Manor House Terrace, the Greenhouse and The Cathedral for your big day.

    Visit their website for more info HERE.

    Le Jardin Villa

     

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    Old-world charm and elegant heritage awaits you at Le Jardin Villa in Stellenbosch. Take a step back in time into romance and wonder at Le Grand Jardin’s Looking Glasshouse. A giant tree stands in the centre of the glasshouse, giving you the ultimate ‘Secret Garden’ atmosphere.

    Visit their website for more info HERE.

    Lace on Timber

     

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    This award-winning venue is truly a masterpiece to behold. Set between luscious and natural forests on the edge of Cullinan, Lace on Timber perfectly pairs french industrial details with romantic finishes.

    Visit their website for more info HERE.

    Shepstone Gardens

    A fairytale setting in the heart of Johannesburg, Shepstone Gardens mixes old-world glamour with modern finishes to give you the best of both worlds. On the grounds are an on-site chapel, a glass marquee, and a grand hall. The on-site chapel has intricate stone walls, large stained-glass windows and a stunning glass roof that screams opulence and whimsy.

    Visit their website for more info HERE.

    La Paris Estate

     

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    Go for glamour at La Paris Estate in Stellenbosch. From the marbled floor and antique chandeliers to the regal wine tanks surrounding the estate, this location is guaranteed to take your guests’ breaths away.

    Visit their website for more info HERE.

    Bosjes

     

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    At the foot of the Waaihoek Mountain, situated in the beautiful Breede Valley lies Bosjes, a working Cape Dutch farm meets hotel and bistro. The glass-walled chapel features a unique curved roof, making it appear as if the building rests on the body of water.

    Visit their website for more info HERE.

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    Much like marriage, tattoos are serious and (mostly) permanent. While it’s often considered a big no-no to mark your body with your lover’s name, this can also be a sweet and romantic act for many.

    There are many reasons why couples may choose to forego wearing their rings. Maybe you have a physical job that requires you to wear no jewellery, or you’re just not the diamond type. Whatever the reason, your finger does not have to be bare. Fill that space with a tattoo designed just for your and your partner.

    Wedding ring tattoos are super popular, with celebrities like Jay-Z and Beyonce even rocking this trend. You can go simple with a a classic line tattoo or add some personality and choose an icon that is close to you and your partner’s heart. For example, you could opt for crowns to symbolise your fairytale love, or get your partner’s initials.

    Here are some tattoos we think are pretty sweet:

     

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    Engagement rings stacked with stones are not a new idea, however, incorporating a more clustered design has exploded in popularity.

    Ever since Emily Rajakowsi showed off her unique, bold ring, combining stones together in a unique way has become acceptable and even more admired than the standard solitaire.

    Clustered rings come in all shapes and designs but are especially great if you want to incorporate coloured stones into your ring, rather than the standard diamonds.

    We’ve pulled a few cluster creations to inspire and surprise you.

     

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    Videography will be one of your biggest expenses and considering that it will last a lifetime, you can’t afford not to take the time to do your homework.
    We’ve already highlighted a list of introductory questions you should ask your videographer before booking them. Once you’ve settled on one, there are a few more questions to ask to help finalise your perfect day. Here are some more questions to ask them before you walk down the aisle:

    Have you shot a wedding at my venue before?

    A good videographer will be able to efficiently identify the spots with beautiful lighting or figure out where to position themselves to get the best angle. Nevertheless, if your videographer has shot at a specific location before, they’ll know their way around and will get the job done more effectively than a videographer who has not. If your videographer has never worked at your venue before, suggest visiting the venue with them before the big day so that they have a chance to become familiar with it.

    Which parts of the occasion will you shoot?

    Videographers regularly specify the number of hours that they’ll shoot, but which sections of your wedding fall within those hours, isn’t always clear. It’s practically a given that major events, such as your ceremony and first dance will be shot, but if you’d like the pre-drinks gathering or a session with your photographer to be included, ask if they’ll cover that as well. If you don’t have clarity on what’ll be shot from the get-go, you may end up with a video you’re not particularly fond of.

    Which equipment do you use?

    Videographers arriving at weddings with colossal cameras on wheels or other equally obtrusive tools is a thing of the past. Nowadays, most videography apparatus simply consists of a camera and a tripod. You want to ensure that your guests don’t feel intruded on, so check the size and types of equipment that’ll be used.

    If these are large, ensure your venue is able to accommodate this without any interruption to the celebrations taking place. It’s also a good idea to find out whether the videographer will make use of a wireless mic as wires all over the place could be hazardous while no mic could mean your vows and speeches aren’t audible.

    How do you edit the footage?

    You’d naturally want an exquisite final product and this can only be achieved with high-quality editing methods. Ask your videographer to describe the procedure they follow when editing. The most reliable way of editing is to upload the film negative on a computer and then make the necessary adjustments on-screen. Some videographers use an in-camera editing method that involves attempting to get flawless shots the first time around to lower production time and costs. This could, unfortunately, result in a second-rate product.

    Which music will you use?

    The ideal music will blend seamlessly with the visuals to inject energy and stir great emotion. Be upfront with your videographer about the kind of music you’re crazy (and not so crazy) about, so that your video is a reflection of your personal tastes. Nonetheless, bear in mind that your videographer will have a firm understanding of the type of music that will be suitable so you need to have faith in their judgment. Don’t forget to ask whether they’ll use licensed music as the use of unlicensed music could mean getting into trouble with the law.

    Will the video be in high definition (HD)?

    In this day and age, HD television is becoming increasingly popular. Some might even say that it’s become a norm. A video in HD will have sharper visuals that display finer detail – something you shouldn’t compromise on, especially if you’re blowing your budget on one of the best videographers in the business.

    When will the final video be ready?

    Apart from a skilled videographer and top-notch equipment, another necessity for producing a stellar wedding video is sufficient time. After all the footage has been placed in a suitable order, music needs to be added and colours corrected, which can be time-consuming. Each videographer will work according to a unique timeline but the entire process could take roughly eight weeks, with some videographers taking as long as a year! If you’re itching to see the final product, ask your videographer if they’ll put together a trailer so you can get a sneak peek.

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    Your wedding day is all about the love, but having a delicious spread of food doesn’t hurt. I mean, who can pass up a good plate?

    There are so many factors that go into determining your wedding menu but before all of that, you need to settle on a specific caterer. Before making your decision, make sure you ask them these important questions.

    What does your schedule look like on the date of my wedding?

    Occasionally, caterers will prepare food for more than one wedding per day or weekend. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you shouldn’t consider them, although you need reassurance that your wedding won’t be deprived of the time and attention it deserves.

    If your caterer runs a large firm with an abundance of staff, they’ll more likely have the capacity to handle multiple weddings at once. If a smaller firm has another wedding to attend to at the same time as yours and you are doubtful of whether they’ll be able to accommodate yours as well as you would like, you best look at other caterers.

    How do your preset packages work?

    Caterers typically offer preset packages which could involve a variety of services apart from simply whipping up your wedding meal. These range from stocking the bar and baking your wedding cake to supplying waitrons and cleaning up.

    It’s crucial that you take note of what they do and don’t offer. Anything that is important to you that isn’t included in their packages will have to be sourced elsewhere. This can be rather pricey, so if your needs are vast, try getting more bank for your buck by contacting caterers who offer all-inclusive packages.

    Are all menus fixed or can you design a personalised menu?

    Opting for a fixed menu can make your planning process simpler and less time-consuming as there are less decisions to be made. This can be ideal if you’re planning your wedding on a tight time frame or have many other commitments besides wedding planning.

    On the other hand, having a personalised menu means that your precise requirements will be catered for. This will be a major advantage if your guests (or you!) are very particular about what types of food they enjoy. It might also give you the opportunity to match your food to your wedding theme.

    Can you cater for guests with special dietary requirements?

    Catering for guests with special dietary requirements is often possible, but will usually be done for an added fee. If you find this fee to be too high or have a large number of guests with a specific requirement, a caterer who specialises in meeting that requirement may be a more budget-friendly alternative. In the event that you can’t find such a caterer, costs will need to be cut in other areas of your wedding in order for you to feed all of your guests.

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    Yes, we know she gave birth to the love of your life but to be perfectly honest, your mother-in-law’s (MIL) antics surely do- at least sometimes- drive you up the wall. Planning your wedding, what with never-ending expenses and countless vendor appointments, can be chaotic enough without her causing drama. When she does, life can be simply too much to handle.

    Like it or not, she’s about to be family so you need to learn how to handle the issues that may come up. Here is some advice.

    Give her some responsibility:

    It’s always nice to involve your MIL in some kind of way. If you know she’s crafty get her to make something, whether it’s wedding favours, a stationery element, a welcome board, etc. If she’s not crafty, think of something you can put her in charge of like placing the name cards on the table or checking that the minister’s on time.

    Even if you know your wedding coordinator is already taking care of this, she won’t know and will still feel that she has an important task. Remember, this is a big day for her as too and most of the time she only means well. She also likes telling her friends what her involvement was on the day.

    It’s also important to communicate from the start how the planning process is going to work and who is in charge of what. Communication is key at all times! Let your MIL know how you feel before a big explosion happens. Tell her that advice is always welcome, but this is your special day and she must please respect your final decisions.

    This is also where a wedding coordinator becomes very handy. Tell your wedding coordinator to relay a message over to your MIL without her knowing the message comes from you.

    The money issue:

    If your MIL is contributing a large amount of money to your wedding, that does not mean you must stand back and let her take over. This day is 100% about you and your fiancé, and later on in life you want to look back on your photos and still be wowed by the amazing day you had. You don’t want to look back and see your MIL’s style on your best day ever.

    To ensure that your wedding is a true reflection of who you and your fiancé are as a couple, you could cut your guest list in half, and have a small and simple wedding for your absolute nearest and dearest, which you can afford to pay for yourselves. Rather do this than have a wedding including things that your MIL wants, yet which you don’t want at all.

    Change of plans:

    If your mother-in-law goes behind your back to arrange or change plans with a wedding vendor, you need to act quickly to end this. Make sure to inform the vendor that you had no knowledge of the order and it was done behind your back, but that they can cancel the order as it’s not going through. Once again: this is where a wedding coordinator comes in handy!

    To prevent this from happening again, let your MIL know that if she sees something or would like something to be at the wedding, she needs to talk to you first. The two of you can then decide together whether it will fit in at your wedding or not.

    Uninvited guests:

    Unfortunately, there is only so much you can do if people were formally invited to your wedding without your permission. To avoid this situation, make sure you and your fiancé are in charge of sending out the wedding invitations.

    If you do find yourself in this predicament it looks worse to uninvite people, so it may be best to inform your wedding coordinator that there are going to be guests who you didn’t know were invited, and they could place these guests at a table right at the back.

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    Weddings are serious events but that doesn’t mean you can’t have some fun! Inject some flair and personality into your wedding dress with fringe detail.

    Fringe is reminiscent of the roaring 20s, a time of decadence and overconsumption. Get in the spirit and layer your gown with some fringe detail to channel your inner Daisy Buchanan. Think of how beautiful it will look as your twirl and shake on the dancefloor!

    Here are dresses to inspire you to have fun with fringe:

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    No, we aren’t talking about superheroes or cats. But hey, if that’s your thing, go for it! Your themed wedding is used to showcase what is important to you and your partner, through all aspects of your wedding.

    A theme is a style which is incorporated in everything including stationery, decor, table settings, and invitations. Whether this is a colour, a symbol, or a popular movie genre, it’s totally your call, and you can be as creative as you like.

    Here’s what you need to consider:

    Pick a theme that’s meaningful to you

    Your wedding theme needs to be something that you absolutely love. Maybe purple is your favourite colour and you love the smell of lavender, or the ocean is you and your partner’s favourite place. Whatever it is, the theme should be of interest to both you and your partner, as it is a celebration of your love.

    Research, research, research

    You have now chosen your theme and need to incorporate it into all the wedding planning details (Hello Pinterest!). If you can afford to hire a wedding planner this will help immensely, but it’s not impossible to create the wedding of your dreams on your own. You will need to do research on where to get all the materials to put your theme together, such as fabrics, flowers, stationery, etc. Once you have done this, the work really begins!

    Subtle but sweet

    A beach themed wedding does not have to be as on-the-nose as hosting your wedding right there on the shore. Instead, you can opt for smaller and subtler ways to allude to the theme in your decor. No matter your theme, there are fun ways to bring it to life, like using shells as escort cards. The key is to not go overboard so that your wedding doesn’t read as themed but rather inspired by a theme.

    Get your family and friends involved

    Putting together your ideas and crafting everything for the big day will most probably take months of planning (and asking mother dear for help), but nothing is better than seeing your vision come to life. Don’t be afraid to get your partner and other family members in on the fun, but remember to be stern about what you want and what is expected. You can even hold a fun family day where you spend time together creating the beautiful stationery and decor items that will fit with your theme.

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