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In Destination

How to make a destination wedding easy on your guests

February 5, 2026 No Comments

There are many aspects of a destination wedding you should consider when planning one. Yes, it is your big day. You should be allowed the final say in what goes down over this period. Just remember, though, that the celebratory atmosphere of your wedding does depend, in part, on your guests having a good experience. They have given up part of their time, travelled a few miles, and spent quite a bit of money, to be there for you. So here’s some advice on how to make your destination wedding easier and more enjoyable for your guests.

Firstly, long before you do anything else, tell everyone about your plans to tie the knot overseas. Those you wish to invite need time to schedule the trip, and some might not be able to make it due to financial issues or prior engagements. It would be better if they declined long before you did the seating arrangements or decided who will be in the bridal party.

Now, once you know who’s definitely coming, don’t leave them hanging with regard to transport, directions and accommodation. Research what group rates are available for flights as well as hotel rooms. Definitely send them directions to the main venue, and in case transport might be difficult for them, organising a shuttle service would be a great favour.

Once your guests have arrived, make them feel welcome. A lovely little note left in plain sight on the bedspread or dressing table is always a good idea. A tiny gift, perhaps a small confection particular to the country you’re getting married in, would also go down well. In addition, you should probably give them products essential in dealing with that country’s climate and natural surroundings. Bug spray and sunscreen are good ideas if you’re tying the knot outdoors in the baking heat of a tropical paradise.

Lastly, while the wedding is the reason they came, it should not be the only activity on the weekend schedule. Organise something special for your guests, maybe a fun brunch or dinner at a nearby venue. This will be a good chance for your friends and family to touch base and catch up. After all, you do want all the special people in your life to get to know each other, and to get along, don’t you?

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In Advice

5 ways to avoid a family takeover at your wedding

February 3, 2026 No Comments

Letting your family help out with all the wedding planning can be fun, exciting, and a relief. But they can often become too involved and start taking over, causing unnecessary drama and stress before the big day. It’s important to set some boundaries while still letting your loved ones know that their help is appreciated, which is why we’ve come up with simple solutions to getting everyone involved without it turning into a family takeover,

1. KEEP IT SPECIFIC

Assign your family members certain tasks to complete, making sure they keep you informed with their progress. This can be anything from making invitations to table decorations, leaving you to sort out the bigger decisions.

2. COMMUNICATION

Keep in contact with your family about your decisions and the progress of the wedding planning. This will allow them to feel like they are a part of it all, and that you value their opinion. It’s also important to speak up when you are unhappy, but approach it in a calm and gentle way.

3. COMPROMISE

If your parents are footing some of the bill, they’ll want to have a say in some of the arrangements. Welcome their ideas, but also explain your and your fiancée’s vision for your wedding before you get started.

4. GET YOUR WEDDING PLANNER INVOLVED

If you’re feeling overwhelmed with pressure from all sides, get your wedding planner to step in and act as a buffer between you and your family. This will also give them the opportunity to update everyone on the wedding progress and what plans are in place to achieve your vision.

5. OFF LIMITS

Keep certain aspects of the wedding planning decisions off limits. This doesn’t mean you can’t involve your family or keep them in the loop, but be strictly clear that it is for you to decide. This can be about your guest list, the dress, or wedding cake. To counter any protests, give your family something they are passionate about, such as the catering or wedding stationery.

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In Advice

The ultimate wedding day emergency kit to avoid disaster!

December 3, 2025 No Comments

We all hope that our wedding day will go off without a hitch, but sometimes mishaps happen. Between wardrobe malfunction to allergic reactions to beauty blunders – it’s all part of the process.

I’m sure we’d all love to be prepared for every scenario our minds can conjure, but this is simply not possible. However, a little preparation goes a long way and adding an emergency kit to your wedding day can be a great way to alleviate stress.

Needle and Thread

Sometimes things tear, and that’s true for bridesmaids and wedding dresses. Having a handy dandy sewing kit is a must when getting ready for your big day, it helps avoid anyone running around looking for a needle and thread.

Shoe Repair Glue

We’re preparing for everything, right? While a tear in a dress is a very real reality, sometimes heels get stuck on things they shouldn’t and give way to gravity. Adding some shoe repair glue into your emergency kit may save you the trouble of re-doing your makeup after your wedding shoe hits a snag.

Double-Sided Wardrobe Tape

Stop necklines from sagging and keep straps covered with this life-saving tool! This magical little took has the ability to tackle wardrobe malfunction by simply peeling and sticking.

Wine Stain Remover

The drinks are flowing and the guests are getting down on the dance floor. A shove here and a spill there, sometimes white wedding dresses can get stained when having a good time. Not to worry, Takealot has a few good options when it comes to stain removals, especially red wine!

Mini First Aid Kit

Grab a travel-sized first aid kit from your nearest pharmacy or online. These kits are equipped with everything you could need when handling bumps, scratches, and other minor accidents that may derail your day.

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5 Breathtaking allergy-friendly florals to add to your wedding!

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In Advice

Saying “I do” doesn’t have to mean saying “I do” to debt

December 2, 2025 No Comments

The first year of marriage is always marital bliss, especially when you have heaps of debt behind your name. While there’s nothing wrong with dreaming up the perfect wedding – bells and whistles included – walking down the aisle doesn’t have to mean walking straight into wedding debt.

Overspending on your wedding day may just cancel out the marital bliss everyone enthusiastically talks about. According to a 2019 study by LendingTre e concluded that 45% of newlyweds between the ages of 18 and 53 went into debt to pay for the wedding. And with many South African couples paying between R80 000 – R120 000, as per Standard Bank, it’s no surprise why.

While getting married can be an expensive business, sometimes it helps to stop and think before making a big purchase on Kim Kardashian-esque flower wall.

Trade debt for memories

Sometimes it’s easy to get caught up in the tasks and balance sheets of planning a wedding, but it’s important to remember why everyone is really attending your wedding – love. The food, DJ, wedding photographer, and signature drink are just the cherry on top of your love and commitment cake, and it’s important to keep this at the centre of your planning.

Get on the same page

According to the same 2019 study, nearly 76% of newlyweds who reported they went into debt also stated they argued over wedding-related expenses. The remedy? Bridal couples need to get on the same page when determining what they’re spending their hard-earned cash on. Creating a wedding budget and discussing expense details are two ways for avid debt collectors. If you’re looking to splurge on an open bar, make sure you’re both comfortable with how long it will be “open,” what liquor will be available, and what the total will come to.

Stick to your boundaries

We’ve all heard the phrase: “keeping up with the Joneses,” but sometimes it’s okay to watch them cruise on by. Planning a wedding can feel overwhelming which can easily lead to bridal couples listening to the opinions of others. A great way to avoid being swayed by friends and family members and what they’d like to see at your wedding is by writing down a list of wedding priorities that are important to you and your partner. Consider what is “worth-it” and what is “non-negotiable,” this will provide you with a better foundation with which to smile and say “no, thank you.”

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In Wedding Etiquette & Advice

Wedding Etiquette & Advice: Navigating the Big Day with Grace

October 2, 2025 No Comments

Weddings are joyous occasions, but they come with a set of traditions and expectations that can sometimes be confusing. Whether you’re a couple planning your nuptials or a guest preparing to attend, understanding wedding etiquette ensures that everyone feels comfortable and respected. Here’s a comprehensive guide to help you navigate the big day with grace.

For Couples: Setting the Tone

1. Invitation Etiquette
Your wedding invitations set the stage for your celebration. Traditionally, invitations should be sent out six to eight weeks before the wedding date. Be clear about dress codes and any special requests, such as “unplugged” ceremonies where guests are asked to refrain from using phones during the event.

2. RSVP Management
Keep track of RSVPs meticulously. This helps in finalizing seating arrangements and catering numbers. If someone hasn’t responded by the deadline, it’s courteous to follow up to confirm their attendance.

3. Seating Arrangements
While it’s common to have family and friends seated on opposite sides of the aisle, modern weddings often adopt a more inclusive approach. Allowing guests to choose their seats can create a more relaxed atmosphere.

4. Gift Registry
Provide guests with a registry to guide them in selecting gifts. This ensures you receive items you truly need and helps guests avoid the stress of choosing the perfect present.

For Guests: Attending with Elegance

1. Timeliness
Arrive at the venue 15 to 30 minutes before the ceremony begins. Being late can disrupt the proceedings and draw attention away from the couple.

2. Dress Code Adherence
Respect the dress code specified in the invitation. Avoid wearing white or off-white, as these colors are traditionally reserved for the bride.

3. Social Media Sensitivity
If the couple requests an “unplugged” ceremony, respect their wishes by refraining from taking photos. Additionally, wait for the couple to share images before posting on social media.

4. Gift Giving
If you bring a gift, ensure it’s appropriate and ideally from the couple’s registry. Avoid giving gifts that might be seen as presumptuous or overly personal.

General Etiquette Tips

Communication: If you need to cancel or change your RSVP, do so as early as possible to allow the couple to adjust their plans.
Alcohol Consumption: Drink responsibly. Overindulgence can lead to uncomfortable situations and detract from the celebration.
Respect Traditions: Whether it’s a religious ceremony or a cultural ritual, approach all traditions with respect and an open mind.
Thank-You Notes: Couples should send thank-you notes to guests who attended and gave gifts. This shows appreciation and acknowledges their presence on your special day.

By adhering to these etiquette guidelines, both couples and guests can contribute to a harmonious and memorable wedding experience. Remember, weddings are about celebrating love and unity, approaching them with respect and consideration ensures that everyone enjoys the day to its fullest.

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In Budget & Financial Planning

Planning Your Own Wedding vs. Hiring a Wedding Planner

August 15, 2025 No Comments

Planning a wedding is an exciting journey, but it can also be overwhelming. One of the first decisions you’ll face is whether to plan your wedding yourself or hire a professional wedding planner. Each approach has its advantages and challenges. This guide will help you weigh the pros and cons, provide insights into effective wedding planning, and offer a basic budget plan to get you started.

Pros and Cons: DIY Wedding Planning vs. Hiring a Wedding Planner

DIY Wedding Planning

Pros:

Cost Savings: Planning your own wedding can save you money, as you won’t need to pay for a wedding planner’s services.
Creative Control: You have the freedom to personalize every detail, from the theme to the decor, ensuring the wedding reflects your unique style.
Hands-On Experience: Managing the planning process allows you to learn and grow as a couple, strengthening your teamwork skills.

Cons:

Time-Consuming: Wedding planning requires a significant time investment, which can be challenging if you have a busy schedule.
Stress and Pressure: Handling all the details can be stressful, especially as the wedding day approaches.
Limited Expertise: Without professional experience, you might overlook important details or face challenges in vendor negotiations.

Hiring a Wedding Planner

Pros:

Expert Guidance: Wedding planners bring professional experience, helping you navigate the complexities of wedding planning.
Vendor Connections: Planners often have established relationships with vendors, potentially securing better deals and reliable services.
Stress Reduction: With a planner handling logistics, you can focus on enjoying your engagement and the lead-up to your big day.

Cons:

Additional Cost: Hiring a planner is an added expense, which might strain your budget.
Less Personal Control: You may have to compromise on certain aspects to align with the planner’s suggestions or availability.

Wedding Planning Insights and Tips

Start Early: Begin planning at least 12 months in advance to ensure ample time for decision-making and coordination.
Set a Realistic Budget: Determine how much you’re willing to spend and allocate funds to different categories accordingly.
Choose an Off-Peak Date: Selecting a wedding date during off-peak seasons or weekdays can lead to cost savings. (The Budget Savvy Bride)
Limit the Guest List: Reducing the number of guests can significantly decrease costs for catering, seating, and favors.
DIY Decor: Consider creating your own decorations or opting for minimalistic designs to save money.

Basic Wedding Budget Breakdown

Here’s a general guide to how you might allocate your wedding budget:

Category	Percentage of Total Budget
Venue	40%
Catering	20%
Attire (Bride & Groom)	10%
Photography/Videography	10%
Entertainment	5%
Flowers & Decor	5%
Stationery	3%
Miscellaneous	7%

Note: These percentages are approximate and can be adjusted based on your priorities and preferences.

Deciding between planning your own wedding and hiring a wedding planner depends on your budget, time, and desire for control. If you have the time and enjoy organizing, a DIY approach can be rewarding. However, if you prefer to reduce stress and benefit from professional expertise, hiring a planner might be the best choice.

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In Advice

6 Incredible ideas to help you save on your wedding!

July 25, 2022 No Comments

Every bride and groom attempts to make their wedding day as dreamy as possible. Unfortunately, going all out by having the biggest cake and wedding venue can sometimes feel as though it’s costing you an arm and a leg.

If you’re looking to save money but don’t know where to cut costs, here are a few genius ideas:

One-tiered wedding cakes are the way to go

When it comes to cake, bigger isn’t always better. More and more couples are ditching the extravagant three-tiered wedding cakes for something simpler. One-tiered desserts can be just as breathing-taking as their bigger counterparts and a smaller display can always be made a bit more eye-catching with a dessert bar.

Who needs a centrepiece?

No really… who does? Ditch the massive centrepieces and opt for something more demure… budget-friendly bud holders. Make it extra special by choosing a flower that has a special meaning; perhaps the romantic rose or beautiful tulip? No matter which flowers you choose to display, slim bud holders will make this a lot more affordable.

Get fruity…

If bud holders are just too simple for you, go all out by taking the organic approach. Grab lemons, apples, oranges, or your favourite fruit, and sprinkle them with flower petals. Take things up a notch by adding gold fruit!

Opt for an elegant buffet

We’ve never heard anyone complain when presented with a delicious and abundant buffet. Opting for a wedding buffet to keep your guests satisfied could help you save money in the long run, including staffing costs.

Take a chance on photography talent

It’s no secret that wedding photographers can be quite pricey, especially those that have established themselves. A great way to save on costs is to seek out a photographer that’s talented but trying to make a name for themselves. Who knows? You may have the next Annie Leibovitz photographing your wedding.

Invest in a wedding website

This is a cute and paperless way to let guests know they’re invited to your upcoming nuptials! It’s also a great way to save money with a wedding website costing R1000 – depending on who you choose to create your website. Provide guests with all relevant information in one place, including, wedding details, rehearsal details and RSVP options.

No need for top-shelf liquor

While there’s nothing with wanting to serve your guests the best liquor out there, sometimes it helps to cut down on costs by cutting down on brand names. Do your guests really need Johnnie Walker Gold.

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In uncategorized

Wedding planning tips that could save your life

May 9, 2022 No Comments

While planning your wedding can be a time that’s filled with cake tasting and venue scouting, it can also be a time that’s filled with pulling out your hair and stress eating. Planning your impending nuptials can be a stressful affair, but it doesn’t have to be!

If you’re hoping to look back on your big day and smile with contentment and not sneer at the thought of all the stress you were under, check out these helpful tips.

Manage Your Expectations

You can use Pinterest and photos to inspire you, but your wedding won’t look exactly the same. There are so many different factors at play when you see those images on the internet: Where in the world was it taken? Is it even a real wedding, or a staged shoot? Are those flowers available in SA? So whatever you do, make sure you don’t get upset or stressed when things aren’t perfect – you’ll just ruin your day.

Come Prepared and Avoid Wardrobe Malfunctions

You or anyone in your bridal party might need a hook-and-eye closure, so be sure to carry spares, needle-nose pliers, and a sewing kit. Just one lean over into the gin table and pop! Disaster.

Stick to your Budget

It’s your wedding and it’s all very exciting, but you have a budget for a reason. Don’t set yourself into years of debt, or sell your prized pony. Set a budget for your wedding and download a wedding-planner app on your phone. Stick to it, and you’ll be glad that you did once the confetti has settled.

Don’t let your self-consciousness get the best of you

“I wish I had known how beautiful I looked.” Make sure this is not something you say four months, or years, later. Make choices that are your own when it comes to your dress or suit, and on the big day, rock it. Don’t worry about the fat roll you think is there, or the laugh lines under your eyes. Enjoy the moment; it goes quicker than you think.

Put your own spin on it

Listen to your mom, best friends and Aunt Joanna. But whatever you do, do it your way.

Don’t go cheap on certain things

Food poisoning for all your guests? Not fun. Blown-out or unflattering wedding photographs? You’ll regret that. While everything else lasts for the one day, you’ll have those pictures forever, so you want to get your money’s worth.

Don’t nitpick on the details

Months of planning, crammed into four or five hours, which are so charged with emotions and tears, you might not even notice that small calligraphy initials on the stem of every rose… Don’t stress about every little thing while planning your wedding and on the big day. Such a cliche, but words that couldn’t be more true.

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In Accessories

7 Gorgeous summer wedding bouquet ideas

March 3, 2022 No Comments

There’s something magical about summer weddings! The good weather and bounty of fresh flowers may have something to do with it.

Summertime offers plenty of delectable fresh blooms to choose from, no matter your ideal bouquet – classic or over-the-top – the season offers a variety of colours and textures that are perfect for your wedding ceremony.

Here are 7 of our favourite summer wedding bouquets.

Vibrant peonies

Keep it classic with white roses

Step outside the box with bougainvillea

A pop of colour

Match with white

An array of colourful wildflowers

The King of the Protea

In Advice

Elegant dresses for the minimalist bride

December 3, 2019 No Comments

As a bride, your wedding dress is your choice. Many of today’s brides follow the ‘bigger is better’ motto. Gowns are glamorously adorned with beads, feathers, tulle and lace to create a dramatic and dynamic finish. But many others are more attracted to the simple side of life.

If you’re not one for flounces and fancies, a minimalist dress might just be the one for you. Clean lines and simplistic designs allow focus to be on the bride rather than the outfit.

Take inspiration from these understated yet bold gowns.

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