Emily Ratajkowski turned down her now-husband’s first proposal because he popped the question without a ring to offer. It is quite commonly accepted that, where there is a proposal there is a ring. However, people have argued that a ringless proposal works too; it may even be better.
The argument below is one of the strongest for a ringless proposal. In response to a story about a woman complaining that she didn’t like her ring, she argued that the proposer surely would want the proposee to like the ring. It may be better to propose first, and then pick the ring together.
Normally when you buy something for someone else you actually want them to like it. He took no time to find out what she would like. If rather have a ringless proposal get get the ring I want later.
— Nats (@nats_thandie) August 28, 2019
Of course, the ring is nothing but a symbol. However, people are quite attached and unwilling to let go of this symbol.
On an AskWomen Reddit thread, a user called osmeusamigos, said ” A ring is a symbol. Some people find that symbol very important. Some people don’t need the symbol to have what the symbol represents. Personally, I want a ring, but that’s just me. Whoever is proposing should hopefully know me well enough by that point to get one.”
Another user, whose account has since been deleted, said “I’d really like to be one of those cool women that doesn’t care,” adding “I’d be kind of hurt if I didn’t have an engagement ring (size doesn’t matter, it’s the symbolism that counts). I’m Southern and was raised somewhat traditionally, and some of that cultural ‘training’ just doesn’t wash out easily.”
Culture and tradition seem to be a very important part of what keeps the engagement and wedding ring alive.
Just like many other wedding traditions, the engagement ring may start fading out. Especially since there are various ethical arguments against the traditional diamond ring.
There is no correct answer when it comes to this decision, it the end its up to personal preference. So what is yours, present ring or ringless?
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