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    Thomas Hardy, an English novelist and poet, is quoted by his second wife, Florence Hardy, saying that “Poetry is emotion put into measure”. If we consider it, poetry is one of the best means by which to express feelings. The flow of words which sound like a melody will be like music to your partners ears.

    Including poetry into your wedding vows could be a great way to elevate them and make them more special. If you’re struggling to find the perfect words to say, this is also a good work-around. You could base your vows off of the perfect quote, or add in a quote to precisely and lyrically express the message you’d like to get across.

    After all, poetry is known to cause swooning. Who better to look to for help with your vows, one of the most romantic things you should ever write, than the legendary wordsmiths themselves.

    Here are some poetry quotes to add to your vows:

    – Sonnet XVII by Pablo Neruda

    “I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where.
    I love you straightforwardly, without complexities or pride;
    so I love you because I know no other way”

    Untitled by Lang Leav

    “You were you,
    and I was I;
    we were two
    before our time.

    I was yours
    before I knew,
    and you have always
    been mine too.”

    [i carry your heart with me(i carry it in] by e. e. cummings

    “i carry your heart with me(i carry it in
    my heart)i am never without it(anywhere
    i go you go, my dear;and whatever is done
    by only me is your doing, my darling)”

    – To Be One With Each Other by George Eliot

    “What greater thing is there for two human souls
    than to feel that they are joined together to strengthen
    each other in all labor, to minister to each other in all sorrow,
    to share with each other in all gladness,
    to be one with each other in the
    silent unspoken memories?”

    Our Souls are Mirrors by Rupi Kaur 

    “when i look in the mirror
    i am looking at you
    when you breathe
    my own lungs fill with air
    that we just met but we
    have known each other our whole lives
    if we were not made as one to begin with”

    – Loves Philosophy by Percy Bysshe Shelly 

    “And the sunlight clasps the earth
    And the moonbeams kiss the sea;
    What is all this sweet work worth
    If thou kiss not me?”

    In and Out of Time by Maya Angelou

    “We see in the distance…
    our long way home.
    I was always yours to have.
    You were always mine.
    We have loved each other in and out of time”

    “La Reina” (“The Queen”) – Pablo Neruda

    “And when you appear
    All the rivers sound
    In my body, bells
    Shake the sky,
    And a hymn fills the world.
    Only you and I,
    Only you and I, my love,
    Listen to me.”

    Feature image: Unsplash

    Home Affairs are considering registration of marriages to be allowed under Level 3 of the national lockdown.

    The department is currently dealing with a tremendous backlog in birth registrations which have accumulated during Level 5, according to News24.  They restarted these registrations on May 1.

    “The department had an estimated backlog of 81 650 [registrations] at the beginning of Level 4 lockdown,” its acting director-general, Jackie MacKay, told the committee.

    “Of the aforementioned backlog, the department registered 46 541 births which represent 57% of the above, estimated backlog.”

    MacKay added that 35 109 births are yet to be registered and that demand was high for re-issuing of birth certificates and temporary ID certificates.

    Finally, MacKay noted that a growing demand for all services provided by the department has led to a discussion about the identification of areas which are to be relaxed as we move through the levels of the national lockdown.

    As a result, Home Affairs proposed that the registration of marriages be allowed during Level 3. According to The Citizen, these registrations, if they should be allowed, will happen through appointments.

    While we are still unsure of when lockdown Level 3 will be put in place, Ramaphosa has hinted at the chance of it coming before the end of the month.

    Image: Pexels

    As the traditional diamond engagement or wedding ring slowly loses popularity, various alternatives are being used in its place. One newbie on the scene, be it a bit uncommon, is the birthstone.

    Elle reported that in 2019, Etsy named birthstone engagement rings as one of their breakout wedding trends. “On Etsy, we’ve seen 34K searches for ‘birthstone engagement rings’ in the last three months, and I predict the trend will continue to grow,” Etsy’s trend expert Dayna Isom Johnson explained at the time.

    According to The Jewellery Editor, there are a few things to consider when opting for the birthstone engagement ring, which could mean that you’re walking down a path that comes with many more decisions. However, they claim that this option is becoming more and more popular.

    Canadian jeweller Kat Florence, who launched her own brand of jewellery specialising in unusual gemstones and owns a store in London, told The Jewellery Editor that “a lot of people are going in that direction”, adding that “Everyone feels attracted to their birthstone, and jewellery represents who we are, so birthstones are the perfect point to begin.”

    Of the things which need to be considered, one of the most important is the hardness of the stone. When selecting the birthstone as the gem for a ring, depending on your partner’s birth month, they may end up with a stone which is not durable. For example, it is not recommended that opal be used for a ring, as it is a fragile stone. We’re sure you want the ring to last a lifetime! So keep this in mind when making your final choice, and be sure to ask your jeweller about durability, hardness, and inclination to be damaged with scratches.

    It is reported that any stone which ranks above 7.5 on the Moh’s Hardness scale, which measures how easily you can scratch a gem, is a good option. Those below 7.5, of course, can be used for a ring too. However, you’d have to be much more careful with your ring.

    Regardless, birthstones are pretty, colourful, meaningful and trendy. If you love the idea of a ring that represents you and when you were brought into the world, then perhaps your mind is already made up.

    Here is a guide to your options, including Moh’s Scale values from Gem Rock Auctions, for birthstone engagement rings: 

    January:  Garnet (6.5 – 7.5 Mohs)

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    February: Amythyst (6.5 – 7.5 Mohs)

    https://www.instagram.com/p/BNbVTtgBFAW/

    Also read: Stone of the Gods: Amazing amethyst rings

    March: Aquamarine (7.5 – 8.0 Mohs)

    https://www.instagram.com/p/B9F78yWHAiC/

    Also read: Amazing aquamarine engagement rings

    April: Diamond (10 Mohs)

    https://www.instagram.com/p/CAXxwFRnXmZ/

    Also read: How to choose the right diamond for you

    May: Emerald (7.5 – 8.0 Mohs)

    https://www.instagram.com/p/CAWO_5AlVcq/

    Also read: Enchanting emerald engagement rings

    June: Pearl (2.5 Mohs)

    https://www.instagram.com/p/B_lMMTEloNU/

    Moonstone (7.5 – 8.0 Mohs)

    https://www.instagram.com/p/B-fiiNNhOuQ/

    Alexdandrite (7.5 – 8.0 Mohs)

    https://www.instagram.com/p/B3Hk0stFoqN/

    July: Ruby (7.5 – 8.0 Mohs)

    https://www.instagram.com/p/B_8Ovp8lmGL/

    Also read: The fiery king of gems: Romantic rubies

    August: Peridot (7.5 – 8.0 Mohs)

    https://www.instagram.com/p/B0q58B7nAtB/

    Sardonyx (7.0 Mohs)

    https://www.instagram.com/p/BzkOWdeFe_F/

    Spinel (7.5 – 8.0 Mohs)

    https://www.instagram.com/p/BwtPGb4hJ99/

    September: Sapphire (9.0 Mohs)

    https://www.instagram.com/p/B_0AYZWDvJO/

    Also read:The royal touch: Sophisticated sapphire rings

    October: Opal (5.5 – 6.5 Mohs)

    https://www.instagram.com/p/B_xuLwpFrSn/

    Also read:The Queen of the gems: Opulent opals

    Tourmaline (9.0 Mohs)

    https://www.instagram.com/p/CAXqeKhqB35/

    November: Citrine (7.0 Mohs)

    https://www.instagram.com/p/CAKa5Kij-hy/

    Topaz (8.0 Mohs)

    https://www.instagram.com/p/CAWwS5YpEPL/?utm_source=ig_embed

    December: Tanzanite (6.5 – 7.0 Mohs)

    https://www.instagram.com/p/B76urEIhF8q/

    Also read: Say ‘I do’ to tantalising Tanzanite

    Blue zircon(7.5 Mohs)

    https://www.instagram.com/p/B_5p9RLHA8j/

    Turqouise (5.0 – 6.0 Mohs)

    https://www.instagram.com/p/B_bp8whgsId/

    Blue Topaz (8.0 Mohs)

    https://www.instagram.com/p/BA0-R_Tutgz/

    Also read: Why we wear diamond engagement rings

    Image: Instagram / Fauverie

    Beloftebos, a wedding venue in the Western Cape who made headlines in January for refusing to host a same-sex wedding ceremony on religious grounds, are now claiming that they are being discriminated against by the SA Human Rights Commission (SAHRC).

    On Monday [May 18], the owners of the establishment claimed that they had filed papers with the Equality Court, opposing the fact that they have discriminated against LGBTI+ people, reports Times Live. This means they are arguing that their policy which states that they will not host same-sex weddings is not discriminatory.

    Michael Swain, executive director of Freedom of Religion South Africa said that Beloftebos are “asking the Equality Court to find that the SAHRC unfairly discriminated against them on grounds of conscience, religion and belief, and that the commission is biased and prejudiced in its treatment of them and their belief system”.

    The commission launched an application against the owners in March, following several complaints about the venue. The Comissioner, André Gaum, explained that the outcome they hope to achieve includes that the venue’s policy be declared discriminatory, and that they are forced to host same-sex marriages. He said that the policy is unconstitutional and amounts to unfair discrimination.

    According to Times Live, the owners claim that the ruling will have far-reaching consequences for them. “If the court decides against them, the owners of Beloftebos will be forced to participate in and celebrate events that violate their conscience, religion and belief — or alternatively be forced to close their venue and cease to offer their services,” said Swain.

    Picture: Unsplash

    These days, wedding photography is a tremendously creative business to be in. Couples want extravagant photoshoots, photographs edited to a T, and perfectly put together albums. Wedding photography has come a long way from its humble beginnings.

    The story of wedding photography begins in the early 1840s, when photography had little to no commercial use. Of course, people did have the idea of saving their memories though.

    During this time paper photographs, multiple photographs and wedding albums were non-existant. According to iQ photo, a wedding photography studio based in San Francisco, the only option available was a “daguerreotype portrait on a tiny copper sheet”. (A daguerreotype is a small metal sheet.)

    Due to the size and weight of photography equipment at the time, couples were also restricted to a studio. There were no photoshoots in the forest or in the streets of a bustling city, you only had the one option. On top of that, many didn’t even have the option. Wedding photography was a practice of the wealthy.

    In fact, Queen Victoria and Prince Albert were one of the first couples to smile for the camera in 1854, 14 years after their actual wedding. This was one of the influences for couples to pose for wedding pictures, however they would not be captured in their wedding attire.

    It wasn’t until the 1880s, when some advances (including roll film by Kodak) were made in the industry and photography become more accessible, that couples actually took photos on their wedding day. Still, photos on the day were limited since film was expensive. Couples managed to take a few snap shots with their nearest and dearest,  as well as some images from throughout the day. It was at this point in time that the wedding album came to be.

    In the early to mid 1900s, colour film was introduced. Thereafter, the colour film, in combination with the creation of portable cameras with flashes and a wedding boom which was a result of World War II, sparked the true beginning of the wedding industry.

    For a while after this, it was the styles of wedding photography which grew and changed rather than the technology. It went from a traditional real-life or still-life style, to a more photojournalism style in which photographers aimed for a fly-on-the-wall vibe.

    Once digital photography came to be, the industry changed drastically. Uninhibited by film (or lack thereof) photographers could go wild with their ideas. According to Dreamtime Images, digital cameras could allow deeper coverage of the event, which adds to the freedom of creativity in the field.

    Now, people have out-of-this-world ideas for wedding photoshoots, with intricate details and in a combination of photography styles. In fact, one may call it art more than anything else. From candids and portraits to family shots and creative shots, you can get anything your heart desires.

    Also read: Stunning underwater wedding photography makes waves 

    Also read: Pair pose for cheeky postponed wedding shoot 

    Picture: Pixabay

    Dancing brings people together. Whether you’re a professional or you have two left feet, it’s always fun. At weddings, especially the westernized ones, everyone awaits the newlyweds’ first dance and as it happens they watch in awe.

    In other countries around the world, however, there are other dances that are equally – if not more – important. Wedding dance traditions are more diverse and varying than you could ever imagine.

    Here are 5 wedding dance traditions from around the world:

    Halay 

    One of the most common folk dances for Turkish weddings, halay is a dance done to a song which is a cycle of the same melody which starts off slow and increases in speed. People hold hands or are intertwined in some way, and dance (commonly in a line).

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    The Tsamiko, The Zeibekiko, and the Sirtaki

    Traditional Greek wedding dances centre around guests holding hands and dancing in a circle.

    https://www.instagram.com/p/Bw3LllXHs8S/

    A Sword Dance

    Scottish weddings come with a few traditions around dance. At the reception the first dance is the bride and groom dancing a traditional reel. Thereafter, the bride dances with a guest who has “the highest rank among the guests”.

    The very last dance is the Sword Dance. As it is performed guests form a circle and sing ‘Auld Lang Syne’, a traditional song.

    https://www.instagram.com/p/BLZRTAbghTe/

    Ceilidh dance

    This is the traditional dance at Irish weddings. It is to be performed with a ceilidh band.

    Some ceilidh dances are named after locations, for example “Seige of Ennis”. Many newly-weds opt for songs which pay homage to the heritage of their family or to their ancestors.

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    The “Horah”

    This is a Middle Eastern/Israeli style of dance usually played as a second dance set.

    Dancing is a big part of Jewish weddings. Often, it is the tradition that guests at the wedding entertain the newly wedded couple through dance, rather than the couple being centre stage.

    The “Horah” is only one Jewish wedding dance traditions. Others include The Krenzl, The Mizinke,  and The Mitzvah tantz.

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    Image: Pixabay

    Most, if not all, mothers dream of the day their daughters will walk down the aisle. Often, they also imagine that their little girls will be happy to wear their wedding dresses from decades passed.

    While this is an easy ‘yes’ for some brides-to-be, others may be a bit on the fence. Don’t feel bad about it! There is nothing wrong with wanting to be completely original on your special day.

    A practice of tradition for some and sentiment for others, wearing your mothers wedding dress can have a lot of meaning behind it. However, you may (like many others) be willing to give up this custom in favour of individuality and self-expression.

    To help you weigh up your options, here are some pros and cons of wearing your mother’s wedding dress:

    Pros: 

    – Your mom will be over the moon 

    This is a beautiful way to honour your mother, and it will definitely make her happier than words can explain. A mother loves to see herself in her daughter.

    – Money and time saved 

    Finding a wedding dress takes a lot of time. It includes several trips to various bridal stores and many fittings too. All of this will vanish if you use your mother’s wedding dress.

    You know what else will disappear? The hole in your pocket in the shape of a gown. The money directed towards your dress will dramatically decrease.

    – Possibility of alterations

    You could alter the dress to keep the pieces of your moms dress that you love, and include parts of a dress that you’d love personally. You could get the best of both worlds.

    Cons: 

    – Less exciting 

    While shopping may be a big task, it is very exciting. Your girls and your mom, all the special ladies in your life, accompany you to find the dress of your dreams. You may miss out on that experience.

    – May make you feel overly cautious 

    Of course all brides are careful when it comes to their wedding dresses. However, when it’s an heirloom passed down to you, you may feel extra-stiff on your wedding day as you don’t want to spill anything on it or damage it in any way. This could make you a bit uncomfortable on your special day.

    – Lack of individuality and orginality 

    You may feel a bit like it’s not your dress. This will be unpleasant and can put a damper on the day.

    Image: Unsplash

    Langley Castle in Northumberland is hundreds of years old. By it’s age alone we know that it’s faced many a struggle. Presently, the castle serves as a hotel and wedding venue and thus is facing a new challenge: COVID-19 and social distancing weddings.

    In response to the crisis, and their need to keep the wedding industry alive (for their own good too, of course), the castle’s management have come up with a creative solution. In fact, the solution is said to be a first in the UK.

    Already known for many other “firsts” such as being the first wedding venue in the country to offer civil marriages and being the first in the UK to offer Game of Thrones style weddings, they are now the first to offer “Bubble Weddings” as a social distancing solution.

    https://www.instagram.com/p/CADmgjSA93J/

    The Bubble wedding gives you a “castle to yourself” experience. According to Chronicle Live the offering is customised to your liking and is created to be intimate, being only for couples and their absolute nearest and dearest. This allows for the wedding to follow social distancing rules.

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    There are two packages and they both adhere to the guidelines set by the Government.

    The first package is a Bubble with Bubbles day for 10 people. Included in this package is a marriage at the castle, canapes, drinks, buffets and use of all nine bedrooms, costing £4,500.

    The second package, called ‘Key to the Castle, is for 18 people. The guests are allowed to lockdown and run the castle. This will cost £6,500.

    There is also an option for the couple to come alone and get married there.

    In times like these, creative and out-of -the-box solutions are exactly what we need! Hopefully, others in the wedding industry will follow suit and introduce new ways around the COVID-19 challenge.

    Image: Facebook / Langley Castle Weddings

     

    A new policy is in the works at the Department of Home Affairs (DHA) that will bring changes to marriage laws in South Africa.

    The DHA, during a presentation to parliament, argued that the existing policies which deal with marriages are not rooted in consitutional values such as nondiscrimination and equality.

    According to Business Tech, the DHA said that while there have been many changes since 1994, there are still many flaws in the existing legislation. “For instance, the current legislation does not regulate some religious marriages such as the Hindu, Muslim and other customary marriages that are practised in some African or royal families,” they said.

    They acknowlegded that due to the diversity in this country, it would be very difficult to draw up laws which regulate every existing cultural marriage. However, they have begun a process of creating a marriage policy which they hope will “lay a policy foundation for drafting a new single or omnibus legislation.”

    Business Tech reported some of the key changes which will be instituted by the policy:

    • The new Marriage Act will enable South Africans of different sexual orientation, religious and cultural persuasions to conclude legal marriages;
    • The introduction of strict rules around the age of marriage (including the alignment of age of majority in the marriage legislation to the Children’s Act);
    • It will align the marriage, matrimonial property and divorce legislation to address matrimonial property and intestate succession matters in the event of the marriage dissolution;
    • It will allow for equitable treatment and respect for religious and customary beliefs in line with Section 15 of the Constitution.
    • It will deal with the solemnisation and registration of marriages that involve foreign nationals;
    • It will deal with the solemnisation and registration of customary marriages that involve non-citizens especially cross-border communities or citizens of our neighbouring countries.

    The DHA said that the new policy is to be gazetted in the 2020/21 financial year, for the purpose of consultation from the public. Thereafter, it will be submitted to cabinet by the end of March 2021, in order to be approved.

    Image: Unsplash

    Many couples are no longer willing to wait for the nationwide lockdown to come to a close to have their wedding. Most are now opting for a livestream wedding, which allows their guests to attend their nuptials while safely social distancing.

    If you’re one of those who are in love and eager to get your married life started, then perhaps you’re leaning towards a Zoom ceremony. But since this is one of the most common wedding trends these days, you’ll likely want to do something to ensure that yours stands out from the rest.

    Here are some ways to make your livestream wedding special:

    Invite everyone

    Since you no longer have to be held back by the finances that comes with inviting people, you’re now able to invite absolutely everyone. The more the merrier! You’ll feel extra special once you see how many people turn out for your special day.

    Have everyone dress for the occassion

    This includes you. Everyone should be in their very best attire (no sweats allowed!).  After all, it’s one of the most important days of your life. If everyone gets dressed up, it’ll truly feel like a celebration.

    Don’t skip the toasts

    Your best man, maid of honour, and whoever else was going to give a toast should all still do so. Many people have slacked on the formalities on Zoom weddings, so to take it up a notch from the rest keep as much from the original plan as possible.

    Decorate

    Create a pretty backdrop for your wedding. Light some candles, play some music, add some fairy lights, do as much as you can!

    Consider all platforms 

    Some couples who have used Zoom found that the free version only allows for 40 minutes before it times out. If you don’t want a forced intermission, consider paying for the full version or using a different platform.

    Also read: The legality of Zoom weddings in SA 

    Image: Twitter / Tyler Thompson