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Being a wedding photographer is a tough job. Tasked with capturing one of the most special days in a person’s life can be daunting, but South Africa has a wealth of talented individuals ready to rise to the occasion.

Photographers, like all wedding vendors, have been deeply impacted by the COVID-19 pandemic. For months, photographers were left without gigs as infections surged and people stayed indoors to avoid contracting the virus.

As the industry slowly reopens under Level 2 lockdown, vendors will have to adjust to the new reality. Wedding ETC spoke to Cape Town-based photographer Micaela Peters of Micaela Sling Photography to hear the reality of weddings in lockdown.

Peters has been seriously shooting for about a year, and her love for the art form is continuously growing. What started out as her being tired of being in front of the camera as a model and blogger turned into a more permanent post.

However, the lockdown was a massive blow, forcing her to change tactics.

“Lockdown has impacted my business immensely. At the beginning, no photoshoots were allowed at all, meaning no income for photographers – and we had to adapt by doing product shoots for business that continued their digital marketing.

“With companies losing profits and people losing their jobs, many stopped doing photoshoots. Weddings that were planned were cancelled or postponed, which made it really tough for photographers who relied solely on photography as their income.”

Weddings are now allowed under Level 2 lockdown, however strict health and safety regulations must be in place. No more than 50 may gather, and all guests are required to wear a mask at all times except when eating and drinking.

Weddings in lockdown from a photographer's lens

A wedding is all about love, laughter and joy. How does one go about this big day when you’re not supposed to hug and kiss? Peters recently shot a lockdown wedding, and the experience was unique, to say the least.

“I think one thing that stood out for me was how impersonal some pictures had to be when it came to the elderly. The wearing of the masks, the sanitisers, social distancing has become a norm. However, its tough for people to abide by these laws at a wedding because they’re around close friends and family whom they ‘trust.’ The churches are less full, and more impersonal during the wedding because guests need to social distance, therefore you need to be more creative with making the pictures not look impersonal.”

Weddings in lockdown from a photographer's lens

She continues: “Photographers are needing to adapt their lens to keep a distance, as well as constantly sanitising to protect themselves and others. Wedding parties are smaller, and extremely intimate, making you ease up and be more comfortable with people, making it easy to forget about coronavirus.”
In general, photographers have had to change their tactics in light of the pandemic, but not that much has changed. Peters explains that it has, however, forced her to become a lot more creative and resourceful.
Weddings in lockdown from a photographer's lens

“Location scouting has been tough, especially because so many restaurants and locations have closed down due to the pandemic, resulting in more research being required. Other than those, shooting in the pandemic is not a major change.

“Taking precautions have just become a norm, and being responsible when it comes to sanitising yourself and letting your client know if you’re feeling sick and need to postpone or having an open conversation with them about their health. “

Now that weddings are back on the cards, it’s important for couples to do their research before booking a photographer. Here are Micaela’s top tips:

– Check the photographer’s previous work before agreeing to the shoot as once the 50% is paid, you can’t get it back if you don’t like their work.

– Skype calls or meet ups are important to clarify expectations and what the package entitles couples to

– Some wedding photographers are willing to negotiate the prices or adapt the package to accompany your needs and budget (many have had financial strain during lockdown)

– Signing of a contract protects both you and the photographer, so make sure to read it carefully

– Do a couples shoot before the wedding to build a good chemistry with the photographer and get to know them.

If you’re in need of a wedding photographer, Micaela is your girl. Besides weddings, she also does lifestyle photography and works with bloggers. If you would like to work with her, find her Wedding Package HERE. Check out her work on her Instagram page, at Micaela Sling Photography or her Facebook page. Also make sure to visit her website www.micaelasling.co.za  
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Flowers are stunning, but they’re also a bit expected for a wedding day. Why not swop them out for some adorable puppies instead?

Puppy bouquets are a great alternative that offers more than just a few extra cute wedding guests. Couples work with animal shelters and rescues to showcase the sweet pups at their weddings in the hopes that someone in the crowd will adopt them. This way, you help dogs in need find their forever home.

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If you love this idea and would like to include it in your big day, there are a few things to keep in mind. The health and safety of the dogs must be a top priority, so it is important you have structures in place to protect them.

Before bringing the dogs, make sure a welfare check has been conducted. Things to consider are whether they are old enough to be taken away from their mother, whether they have been vaccinated, and whether any of them have any injuries or anxieties that may affect them being outside.

These puppies are not toys, and not meant to be held throughout the ceremony. Instead of carrying them down the aisle, the bridal party can simply swop out their floral bouquets for the pups during the official wedding photoshoot. This limits the time they have to be held down.

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For the photoshoot, make sure to brief your party on the proper way to hold a dog as those without pets may to be familiar how to do it.

It’s also important to be considerate of loud noises. If you plan on having dogs present, a fireworks display is a really bad idea as it can make them very nervous and scared. Loud music, horns or just the general traffic of a busy wedding can all contribute to their anxiety.

Having a safe space where the pups can rest, away from the guests will also be really helpful.

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Weddings can make mothers go a bit crazy. Considering their child is marrying someone and starting a new life, it’s fair to say that it is an emotional moment. However, some mothers have taken things to a whole new level on their child’s big day.

Here are some of the craziest things mothers have done come wedding day.

I object:

This mother interrupted her son’s wedding as her future daughter-in-law was saying her vows. In a viral Tik Tok video, she continues to heckle the daughter, telling her “You’re not going to say my son has flaws”.

DJ duties:

Music can make or break a wedding. This mother clearly knew this, and went behind the bride’s back to change all the pre-determined music for the big day.

“Oml… so months ago I made selections for my dj music and I have the usual week of DJ call. TURNS OUT MY MOTHER CALLED A MONTH AGO AND SHE CHANGED THE MUSIC FOR EVERYTHING. The ceremony music, bridal party walk in, last dance song… everything. Oml,” the bride explains in a Facebook post.
“Because she is paying she has access to the password on their site to change the music (which she changed my music to music from the 70s and nothing anyone in their 20s would know) the DJ shut down access for everyone, so she can’t change anything back.
“The DJ and I are having a good laugh and I’m not surprised because this is usual behavior for her but ugh… it’s my wedding. Let me pick my music.”

Prior commitments:

This mother-in-law tried to get the bride and her fiancé to change the date of their wedding day because she wouldn’t be available. Fair enough right? Right…except her prior commitment was a Mardi Gras ball that she wants to attend. The wedding date had already been set a month prior and the couple would not be able to receive a deposit if they cancelled.

Matchy matchy:

Wearing white to a wedding day if you’re not the bride is a cardinal sin. Even worse is to wear a dress that is almost identical to the bride. This future mother-in-law did exactly that.

Posting on a Facebook Bridal page, the bride expressed her anger over a picture her fiancé sent her, which shows what his mother plans to wear to the wedding. The mother’s cream coloured lace gown is incredibly similar to the bride’s wedding dress.

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Heartbreak hotel:

Weddings have a habit of bringing the tears, but this one is pretty weird. A mother-in-law (who lost her father 20 years prior) had a full breakdown during the wedding reception because she missed her father. Turns out she had been enjoying the Patron shots a bit too much.

So I finally get a moment to myself during the reception to eat some pie (I cannot stand cake) when my husband’s cousin comes up to me with a look of horror upon her face. She tells me I had better come with her because there is a “situation”,” the bride explains in a Facebook post.

“She leads me to the only restroom in the reception hall and I hear this wretched noise…like imagine that awful cat sex sound..coming from it. She opens the door for me, and I shit you not, there is a huddle of 30 women crying in that restroom. My mother is the center of it SHRIEKING “I MISS MY DADDY” over and over and over. Well, I nope the hell out of that real quick and instruct my husbands cousin to go get my father in law.

“He went in and fireman carried my MIL out of the restroom, all while she is now shrieking about “MY BABY! MY BABY GOT MARRIED TODAY! MY BAAAAAAABBBBBBBYYYYYYY!!!” By the time my husband got out to their vehicle to say goodbye it was revealed that she had been taking shots of Patron…which, by that time, she had vomited all over her dress.”

Present your presents:

Seven months after the wedding day, the mother of the bride sent a message into the extended family group chat to remind guests to send in their wedding gifts.

Come to me:

Settling on a wedding venue can be tough, especially if you’re family lives far away. This mother took things personally when her daughter chose a venue outside of where she lives. In fact, she threatened to skip the wedding entirely!

“I just got engaged (yay!) and my mother is threatening to skip the wedding because it’s not in upstate New York (Buffalo) where my parents live. 90% of the attendees, including my fiancé, myself, his entire family, and our close friends live in NYC so that’s where we want to host it. Plus we figured out a venue and budget that works for us,” the bride explains in a Facebook post.
“My parents are telling me it’s a huge burden and that I must hate them, obviously. I’m not asking them to pay for anything for this wedding, I just asked them to show up. I offered to pay for their travel expenses.
The big excuses? They have five cats and a dog and refuse to let me hire them a pet sitter. Don’t get me wrong, the pets are important and I love them. But my parents are about to skip my wedding because they’ve prioritized and infantilized them.”

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If you and your partner are avid campers, you might want your big day to reflect your adventurous spirits. With summer drawing near, it’s the perfect time to have an outdoor wedding.

Celebrating your love for each other with your friends and family out in nature, doing what you love. What more could you want?

You are also likely to save some money as your down-to-earth decor, food and attire will be more budget-friendly. Here are some tips to help you plan.

Firstly, you’ll need to keep some practical things in mind:

– If your wedding is in a forest, mountain or bushveld location, the terrain might be uneven and high heels are not ideal.

– There will probably be bugs and mosquitoes!

– Only make fires where it is legal and safe to do so.

– Check the weather for wind and rain.

– If it is a remote location, clear directions will need to be given to guests and vendors.

– If you expect guests to hike anywhere at all, make sure everyone is fit and healthy enough to do so. Also, make sure everyone is told this information explicitly and are comfortable with it.

How to set up the perfect camping style wedding:

– Attire

You can decide how formal or informal you want the wedding to be. It is likely to be slightly more informal, as camping is usually a low-key activity. Dress comfortably, but don’t skimp! A boho style works well. You can still wear that magical dress – it’s your day after all. Inform your guests that ‘smart casual’ is accepted.

– Food

Camp food time! Think slow roasts, pies or even something as simple as hot dogs or burgers. This is not a 5-star buffet. Don’t forget to roast marshmallows! Everything should be quick and easy, but flavourful and simply delicious. Speak to your caterer about what’s feasible for your location, and try stick with food that can be prepped off-site beforehand.

– Drinks

During summer, think cold and refreshing soft drinks and beers. Get creative with the drinks station to keep with the theme, such as a rowboat or hammock. You can also use picnic baskets to hold drinks or hand out coffee flasks or travel mugs for guests to drink from.

– Decor

This is where rough meets chic. You can have all the adventure, plus all the beauty! Let nature be your backdrop, and keep extras minimal. Decorate tables with wooden items and use theme-inspired pieces like lanterns, flashlights and boots for a cute feel. Stick with greens, browns and other neutral colours to blend with the environment.

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Planning a wedding can be incredibly stressful, turning the best of us into bridezillas. While some rise to the occasion, others crash and burn.

A quick glance at the internet will prove that brides and grooms can get a bit too crazy when planning their big day. Here are some of the strangest things couples have asked of their wedding guests:

Let’s weigh this one up:

Dress codes are standard for weddings to give guests a guideline to match the overall aesthetic of the big day. However, one couple got a bit too specific. Reddit user @insanepeopleonfb shared a screenshot of a bride’s requirements for her guests, in which she determines what people may wear based on their weight. She also expected the outfits to cost at least $1000 to match the 24k wedding theme.

She has a way with words:

Due to the COVID-19 pandemic, a bride has had to cut down on her guest list and thus requested that guests write two 250-word essays explaining why they want to attend her destination wedding. In a reddit thread, her sister says she refused to write the essays, which has caused a major rift in the family as the bride says she may not come to the wedding unless she responds.

Seafood or safety?

It’s your wedding and you shouldn’t have to compromise on your big day because of someone else. However, if you know your wedding could cause severe harm to someone, we’d suggest rethinking. This bride really wants to serve seafood on her big day, although her fiancè’s sister-in-law is severely allergic to it. Should she risk a life for a plate of paella?

Dirty dancing:

In a post to Facebook group, ‘That’s it, I’m wedding shaming” a woman explains that she got kicked out of her former roommate’s wedding for dancing. The bride had become a very conservative Evangelical Protestant and was outraged when her guests took to the dance floor at her wedding.

“When the DJ opened the dance floor, she was in the bathroom, so I guess she didn’t know that people were dancing. I started dancing with our mutual friends (and my brother, who had not been invited to the ceremony, but WAS invited to the reception. Becky said that she “didn’t think he’d be comfortable at a church, because he’s gay.” Now, I wish that one or both of us had said, “*itch, he’s gay, not a vampire.”) Becky came storming out of the bathroom, yelling at everyone on the dance floor for being disrespectful of her beliefs and dancing at her wedding. (To clarify, there was no “dirty dancing.” Mostly just hopping around.) She demanded that everyone who was dancing leave, which left just the old folks.”

BYOM – Bring Your Own Meal

Catering for a vegetarian is understandably difficult if you are not one yourself. You want to make sure your guests are all catered for, regardless of their eating habits. One bride, however, did not have any vegetarian options on her menu and asked if her guest would bring her own meal to the wedding.

Crowdfunding not a crowdpleaser:

Weddings can be pretty costly, and couples will have to scrimp and save to turn their dream into a reality. It is common for people to ask family to financially contribute to the big day. Asking your Facebook friends, however, is a little strange. This couple created a Facebook fundraiser to pay for their big day. The amount they wanted to raise? A whopping $73 205 (R1 274 165).

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Planning a wedding is tough enough, but add a global pandemic and it’s almost nightmarish. While some rise to the occasion, others require guests to do some strange things in the name of love.

According to a thread on Reddit,  one bride reportedly re-invited guests to the big day after she had to change plans due to the COVID-19 pandemic.  Included in the RSVP is a request for each guest to write two essays on why they should be allowed to attend. The bride’s sister took to Reddit to ask whether she is in the wrong for refusing to RSVP.

“So my sister is getting married next February, destination wedding no less. I have doubts whether this wedding is actually going to happen with the pandemic and everything but she is totally set on moving forward,” writes the sister.

“Anyways because of the pandemic, her original venue has made her cut down on guests because they’re cutting capacity by half. As a result she’s sending out “re-invites” that asks everyone to RSVP again. But in order to figure out who to invite and who to cut, she’s asking all confirmed guests to submit two 250-word “essays” to two questions. The gist is that they’ll use these essays to choose who can come or not, based on people’s enthusiasm. People who don’t write the essays at all will be automatically disqualified.”

The two questions guests must answer are “why do you still want to celebrate this day with us?” And “what will attending our wedding mean to you specifically?”

The sister believes that she should not have to write these essays, as she is spending her own money on plane tickets and a hotel to attend the destination wedding, as well as a wedding present. However, the bride has told her that without an RSVP, she may not attend the wedding.

This has caused strain in the family, with the parents telling the sister she has to write the essays or else she will cause even greater issues with relatives.

Since the thread was posted, it has received 3 700 comments with the vast majority siding with the sister. Many suggest writing the essays in a sarcastic manner.

“I would definitely send in two essays. The first would say ‘Mom/Dad said I have to come or I’m in BIG trouble’ over and over again until you hit 250. The second, ‘I’m your sibling'”, comments one Reddit user.

Is the sister in the wrong for not meeting the bride’s wishes, or is it unfair of the bride to expect guests to motivate for why they deserve an invite?

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Finding the perfect wedding gown is a dream come true, and whether you’re buying yours off the market or having it designed specifically for you, there are a couple of things to look for in a wedding dress, aside from it looking amazing.

While style is important, there are a number of elements to consider when choosing a gown that will greatly impact on how it looks on you. Here is what to keep in mind:

COMFORT

It is so important to ensure that you feel comfortable in your dress. You will be spending a fair amount of time in it and besides the wedding nerves, you don’t want to aggravate any stressful feelings by having a dress that is heavy, painful to wear or inconvenient on the dance floor.

For example, if you love the look of a corset but find its boning is affecting your ability to breathe, you need to have that refitted or simply opt to not have one.

SIZING

It is common for brides to order a dress in a smaller size to motivate them to lose some weight before the big day. We advise against this, as it can bring unnecessary stress and pressure. There is always room to pinch in some extra fabric at a later stage, but there is little you can do about a dress that is too small.

FABRIC

Choosing the right fabric can make all the difference – it can change the look, feel and cost of your dress. Be sure to know what fabric you want and why before deciding on your dress. Stay away from fabrics that won’t wash well, are too hot, see-through or will reveal any sweat stains.

You have to consider where you will be holding your wedding and the weather of the day. A velvet dress isn’t the best choice for a summer beach wedding, and a strapless chiffon number might leave you feeling frosty during an outdoor winter wedding in the mountains.

SEASONAL

Remember to keep the season in mind when picking your perfect gown. You may want to add sleeves if you’re having an autumn/winter wedding or opt for less fabric during a summer wedding. Whether your big day will be outdoors or not is also a factor to keep in mind when thinking about style, especially if you don’t want a low hem or long train to get dirty outside.

MOVE ON

Once you have settled on your gown, stop looking for other options. This will only cause unnecessary stress. If you’re ever feeling unsure, sneak a try-on (carefully, of course) or look at some snaps of you in the gown to remember why it’s perfect and why you love it.

Your dress should be one that captures your personality while emphasizing your best qualities, but it’s not all about the looks. Try to remember all of the smaller details about the dress that will make it perfect for you and your wedding.

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Even the best of us experience a bout of forgetfulness every now and then. However, when we forget an anniversary it may land us in the dog box. The day is, for obvious reasons, special to both partners and it stings just a bit when your significant others forget.

If you’re the one who’s forgotten, not to worry. While your partner may be a bit upset, you definitely can fix it with a few simple but thoughtful gestures.

Here’s what you have to do:

– A simple apology goes a long way 

Saying sorry genuinely makes the world of difference. A simple apology, taking the time to acknowledge that your partner’s feelings are hurt, is always appreciated. Make sure you note how this may have hurt them, and ask what you can do to make it up to them.

– Explain, but don’t hide behind excuses 

Explain to you partner what it is that led to your forgetting your anniversary. When you’re explaining, ensure that you note that you are not using these occurrances as an excuse. You shouldn’t try to play the victim or downplay its importance.

– Plan an intimate celebration

Once all is forgiven, you should make an effort to celebrate, whether its a belated celebration or not. Cook dinner and lay the table out with candles and flowers. Make it intimate and personal.

Others may want to make a day of it. Celebrate by spending quality time doing different things throughout the day. Perhaps you could recreate a few of your early dates in your relationship, or take a day trip to somewhere pretty. The world is your oyster.

– Do something sweet and unique 

Do something quirky and cute, to make your partner laugh. Maybe you decide to make matching anniversary t-shirts, maybe you’ll decide to go big and get a tattoo of your anniversary date (although admittedly this has not turned out well for many people), or maybe you’ll make a funny anniversary video. Whatever you do, try to make it personal, adding details only you and your partner would understand.

– Remember it next time! 

Do not forget it ever again! Set a calendar reminder, write it down, memorise it, do what needs to be done. When you remember it next year, all the effort will be worth it when you see the joy and love on your partners face.

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Since you’ve been given the honour of speaking at a loved ones wedding, you probably don’t want to dissapoint them. However, as much as a wedding toast is privilage it can also be a daunting challenge.

“There are so many things that could go wrong,” is likely along the lines of what you’re thinking. It seems that wedding toasts commonly take one of two paths. On the one hand they are either extremely memorable and everyone is in tears (of laughter or emotion), or on the other they are disastrous, inappropriate and downright cringe-worthy.

Of course, you’ll be trying your hardest to be the former, rather than the latter. To ensure you’re giving the best toast possible, here are some tips:

– Open with how you know the newly weds 

It will give context to your speech for those who are not aware of who you are, and is generally considered to be more a police gesture.

– Address both partners

Just because only one of them have been through thick and thin with you, doesn’t mean you get to completely ignore the other! They are sharing this special day and you have been asked to share it with them. It would be rude to make it about only one of them.

– Be sure to add personal touches 

Weddings are very personal occasions. The couple and the audience will love hearing your anecdotes and emotions and they will repond better than if you used a generic speech that could have been taken staight of of the internet.

– Things you shouldn’t include

There are some serious no-go’s when it comes to wedding toasts. These are: crude language, inappropriate or explicit stories, and anything about the exes of those getting married. No matter what. Do not include these in your speech.

– Be aware of time 

We all know that nobody really wants to listen to a long, dragged out speech at a wedding. People will get bored. Be sure to stick to a reaonable time frame, maybe 3 to 6 minutes long. Don’t make it too short either though, it will seem as though you were uninterested and didn’t take the job seriously!

– No inside jokes 

Most of the audience wouldn’t understand the joke, and the reaction will not be what you want it to be… I can assure you. Don’t add it, it’s not worth it.

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There’s no more meeting up in cozy coffee shops to discuss photoshoot ideas, tasting scrumptious samples of delicacies with the caterer of dreamily viewing venue after venue to get the feel for your big day.

However, lucky for us, technology makes it possible to have those essential meetings with vendors online, so you don’t have to fall behind schedule on your wedding planning during lockdown.

Here are some tips to get the best out of your meetings with different planners and service providers, from the comfort of your couch.

Photographer

Although you will want to meet them in person if you haven’t yet, it’s quite easy to view their work online, discuss ideas and plan your photos over the phone. It’s a good idea to set aside examples of their work you really love and want to recreate, so they know what you like.

Read: Post-lockdown wedding photo inspiration

Caterer and baker

Nothing beats a tasting session of delicious goods and nibbling on some cake. In the meanwhile, try asking your the caterer if they are able to deliver some samples you can try at home. Then arrange a video chat so they can walk you through each sample and discuss your options while you dig in.

Venue

Venue visiting is a super important part of the planning. Of course, you can see photos of places online but best would be if you can ask each venue for video material if they have any. After watching it, make a list of questions you have and arrange a call or video chat (include your partner!) to discuss your concerns. Then, try to go there in person as soon as you can.

Hair and makeup artist

Your trials still need to happen, of course. But gathering ideas and discussing them with your stylists can happen beforehand, and a great idea is to create an inspiration board on Pinterest of makeup looks and hairstyles you like and share it with them. Then set up video chat consultations with them so they can look at your skin complexion, hair texture and other physical traits that will affect their work.

Read: Bridal makeup tutorials to inspire your look

Dress designer

Arguably the most important part of your wedding look, do not, we repeat do not skip the actual fitting. There’s just no guarantee, even with exact measurements. If you have already fitted and bought a ready-made dress, confirm with the boutique that all is in order with the delivery to make sure it reaches you in time, or what you should do if they are not able to deliver as planned.

Read: Trying on virtual dresses

If you are in the process of having one designed and made, keep in touch with your designer to let them know should anything change (like your measures – try not to stress eat during lockdown!). It’s a good idea to ask them to send you good pictures of parts of the dress as they progress and also a video chat where they can show you the dress and you can discuss any concerns.

Also read: How to have a fun online bachelorette party

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