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     The economic downturn over the past year, coupled with the need to reduce expenses, has seen a rise in vacant properties across South Africa and an increase in co-habiting. Taking the decision to move in with your partner is a big step. It’s wise to consider the emotional, financial and insurance implications and have critical conversations upfront.

    Marius Steyn, Personal Lines Underwriting Manager at Santam, and Marius Neethling, Manager Personal Lines Underwriting (Systems and Administration) at Santam, caution that there are a few considerations people need to think about when merging households.

    “In the scenario where you move in with your partner, an insurer usually considers you the equivalent of a common-law husband and wife, depending on the seriousness of your relationship. That means you can take out a policy together. If you are moving in with a housemate, both parties will need their own separate insurance policies. In this case, you will have to insure your own belongings and communal living underwriting rules will apply. In both cases there are lots of logistics to tick off – like making sure the household contents are covered.”

    Here, Steyn and Neethling chat through the checklist to tick off before co-habiting:

    Make sure you’ve adequately covered the combined contents of your home:

    Moving in together often results in a staggering amount of ‘stuff.’ Which means you and your partner will probably need to update the household contents insured amount. If your relationship is seen as serious (insurers look for things like how long you’ve been together, if you’ve co-purchased furniture, etc.), then an insurer will treat you the same as they would a married couple. This means you can take out a policy between you, with one person being the main policyholder and the other, the additional insured.

    Some considerations:

    • Remember, the main policyholder will be paid out in the event of a claim. It’ll then be up to him/her to pay the additional insurance. Insurers don’t get involved in these politics and are in no way responsible if the policyholder does not pay his/her partner or housemate. So, trust is important.
    • If you both have separate household contents policies with different insurers and are wondering which insurer to go with, don’t just pick the lowest premium price: consider the benefits and excesses – what you pay and what you receive in return.
    • Get your household contents evaluated (or do this yourselves using an online calculator) so you’re certain you’re adequately covered for the replacement value of all your combined items.
    • When your household contents are on the move between properties you should notify your insurer of the new address prior to the day you move.
    • It’s in your interest to tell your insurer about all the security features at your new home. Generally, there will be specific security requirements in order to qualify for burglary and theft cover.

    If you happen to have a fight and temporarily move out…

    It’s not commonly known, but, if you happen to argue and temporarily move out and take some of your household contents with you, these items will still be covered in your temporary abode, providing this is a private building – not a tent or caravan, for example. This only applies to a temporary situation though – if it’s a permanent split, then you’ll need your own new policy.

    Vehicle insurance is also important:

    Remember to add your partner as a regular driver on your policy if he or she uses your vehicle more frequently than you do.

    If it really doesn’t work out:

    If, sadly, the relationship comes to an end, then you should get your own policy as soon as possible, especially if you have one policy between you, but you’re not the main policyholder. Remember, if you’re the additional insured, it’s up to the policyholder to pay you in the event of a claim, which could get difficult if you’re not together anymore.

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    Just said ‘Yes’? Congratulations! What is typically an exciting moment is somewhat dampened by the global pandemic, as we cannot celebrate with one another as we used to.

    If you still want to honour your big news, fear not. There are still ways to celebrate with your closest friends and family without putting them at risk amid the pandemic.

    Here are a few ideas:

    Hold a (virtual) celebration:

    Just because you can’t be together physically does not mean you cannot celebrate! Host your festivities via online platforms like Facetime, Skype or Zoom.

    You can still make it fun by decorating your home and having your ‘guests’ dress up. Planning a themed event makes it extra special and gives your friends and family something to dress up for. For an extra sweet touch, have small thank you gifts delivered to your guests’ homes after the celebration.

    Drive-by party:

    Your loved ones can attend your event from the safety of their cars, ensuring that all safety precautions are met while still giving you the feeling of their presence.

    When choosing the location of the drive-by, ensure that it is a wide-open, public space. This will mean that everyone driving by will be able to clearly see you. You could even do it in your front yard if you have space and don’t have walls.

    Set up a spot to show yourselves off, for example, you can decorate fancy chairs as thrones for you to sit on as your parade drives by. Assign a close relative or friend the role of head driver. This ensures that there is somebody leading the cars to your location, and allows for some sort of order for the drive-by.

    Take engagement photos:

    You’ll want to remember this moment for the rest of your life, so it makes sense to document your engagement. Photographers were hit hard by the pandemic, and hiring one is a great way to give back to small business.

    Keep COVID-19 protocols in mind by having your photographer work from a safe distance with a mask on and have sanitiser on hand.

    After you receive your pictures, have them printed and framed or emailed to your friends and family so that they can feel like they are a part of your special moment.

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    Just like wedding trends come and go, proposal trends are also always changing. Proposals have become more premeditated over the years, with couples deciding beforehand that they want to get engaged. This allows them to plan and co-ordinate, while still keeping some of the surprise.

    You don’t have to go super big and elaborate to make a splash, however. Here are some unique and sentimental ideas that your partner will remember forever.

    Secret photographer

     

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    Plan a sweet photoshoot for your partner, but don’t let them know it’s actually an engagement shoot. This way, you can make sure you’re both looking camera-ready and your photographer can make up an excuse to have your partner looking away as you go down on one knee. We promise the candid photos will be priceless!

    Spell it out

     

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    Go big and have the phrase ‘Will you marry me’ lit up in marquee lights. Whether you place them on a beach or a backyard, they make the perfect backdrop for a ring selfie!

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    Who doesn’t love pizza? Combine your favourite Italian meal with a sweet proposal by having the toppings spell out ‘Will you marry me’. Have the pizza made in a heart shape for an extra cheesy touch.

    A pawsome proposal

    Got a four-legged friend who is basically the third wheel of your relationship? Make sure to include your pet by having them pose with the ring and a sign that reads, ‘Will you marry me’.

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    Florals for weddings aren’t exactly groundbreaking, but they’re not that common in engagement rings. The trend really took off thanks to Katy Perry, when she showcased her daisy-inspired engagement ring from Orlando Bloom.

    If you’re a fan of florals, take inspiration from their pretty petals when designing your own engagement ring. Use a larger central stone and encircle it with smaller stones to get the look. Using cushion or marquise cut stones on the outer ring will fit the theme even better.

    Here are some fantastic flower-themed rings to inspire you:

     

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    When you think ‘engagement ring’, your mind automatically turns to diamonds. But the truth is, diamonds aren’t every girl’s best friend, despite what TV ads may have taught you.

    If you and your partner are shopping for your engagement ring together or they’ve asked you what you like, consider one of these stones instead – from the colour to the texture, you’ll find one that captures your personality to a tee.

    Tanzanite

    Tanzanite is a variety of the mineral zoisite and varies in hues from blue, to violet, or purple. These incredible blue stones are one thousand times more valuable than diamonds. Why, you ask? Discovered in Tanzania, it’s estimated that there’s only a 30-year supply left in the world.

     

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    Morganite

    Morganite is a semi-precious stone in the beryl family, making it related to emerald and aquamarine. While it is typically light peach in colour, it can range in shades from orange to pink. Besides being unique, morganite is also way more affordable than diamond, making it a great choice for an engagement ring.

    Pearls

    Nothing beats the classic look of pearls and in an engagement ring, it becomes a timeless memento of your love. The only problem? Pearls are quite soft and easily become scratched or tarnished. This can be countered somewhat by using smaller pearls in your setting surrounded by harder stones to protect it.

     

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    Opal

    Another classic stone, opals come in black, white and crystal. Their most striking feature is the ability to reflect the rainbow depending on how they are held up in the light. This, coupled with the fact that each opal is unique, makes for a very special ring.

     

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    Emerald

    Dubbed the “Stone of Successful Love,” emeralds are particularly symbolic for romance. The stone is said to open and nurture the heart and embody unity, compassion and unconditional love. The distinct deep green colour gives it a sense of timeless luxury while an ornate setting can give it a vintage feel to stand out in a sea of modern designs.

    Ruby

    Not only are rubies gorgeous, but they’re sturdy too. As one of the four precious stones (the others are diamonds, emeralds and sapphires), it comes with quite a price tag. Some of the finest rubies will cost more than a diamond.

    Garnet

    Garnets are often a rich pink-red colour similar to that of rubies. However, you can also find these gems in different hues. They are softer and less expensive than rubies, and also work well when paired with other stones. In Greek mythology, the pomegranate was a gift given as a symbol of love and eternity. Hades gifted his love Persephone with a pomegranate before she left to ensure she returned home fast and safe.

    Amethyst

    Amethyst is an ancient semi-precious gemstone and a purple variety of quartz. The stone ranges in purple-tinged shades, from deep violet to lavender. Amethyst is slightly softer than diamonds but they’re still very durable so you know your ring will last a lifetime.

    Onyx

    Onyx is a semi-precious gemstone, a sub-variety of the microcrystalline quartz called chalcedony. This gemstone is typically black with white lines, although can sometimes also be green or reddish-brown. The stone is perfect for fans of the art deco or Victorian style as that’s when it was most popular.

     

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    Sapphire

    We all know that sapphires are blue but did you know you can get them in peach, pink, yellow, green and white too? That means if sapphires are your birthstone but you’re not a fan of blue, you can find a colour that matches your personality.

     

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    Moissanite

    If the diamond look and feel is what you want, but you’re wary of using actual diamonds (conflict diamonds are still an issue) then moissanite is the stone for you. They are not as expensive as diamonds and are almost as hard.

     

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    Lapis lazuli

    This semi-precious stone is simply gorgeous! A deep matte-blue stone with gold flecks, they make for striking jewellery. It’s best set in gold and may need replacing every few years.

     

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    Topaz

    Topaz is one of the stones where imperfections are welcome. While pure Topaz has no colour, you can find this stone in hues of blue, orange, red, green and pink. The imperfections on each stone also create beautiful settings.

    Moon- and sunstones

    Moonstone is a white cloudy gemstone that looks as if it is emitting light. This incredible optical phenomenon makes the stone quite popular and will make for a mesmerising ring. Its counterpart is the lesser-known sunstone, which is more peachy in colour and makes for wonderful cluster combinations.

     Rose quartz

    As the name suggests, this stone is available in different shades of pink, ranging from pale to deep rose. It can be transparent or opaque, so all you have to do is choose the colour and clarity that works for you.

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    Platinum is one of the most popular metals for fine jewellery, and it’s easy to see why. It is sturdy and lustrous, and complements many skin tones. This precious silvery-white metal is becoming increasingly popular among modern couples for engagement rings and wedding bands.

    We have jewellery designer Louis Cartier to thank for the rise in this metal for fine jewellery . Toward the end of the 19th century, Cartier innovated the use of platinum and it soon became popular among Frnech royalty before becoming widely available in the 20th century.

    Deciding on the metal for your engagement ring comes down to more than just its appearance. You also need to consider maintenance,  your lifestyle and its affordability. Here are some factors to consider before settling on platinum:

     

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    It’s more expensive

    Due to its beautiful appearance and durability, platinum is on the higher price end. In fact, it’s one of the most expensive precious metals on the market. It is slightly more expensive than white gold.

    It’s low maintenance

    In comparison to the other metals, platinum is very low-maintenance. Although it is more expensive, in the end, is a better investment than going with a white gold ring as white gold will need to be re-plated to maintain its colour since it has been alloyed with other materials to achieve its white appearance.

    It’s hypoallergenic

    Platinum is hypoallergenic, meaning those with a nickel allergy can comfortably wear it. It is also corrosion resistant and does not tarnish, making it much more long-lasting than other rings.

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    Lavender, mauve, violet and periwinkle are just a few popular shades in the ever-flattering purple family. This colour is soft yet rich, a stunning look for your bridesmaids.

    Picking the right shade is crucial, as you want one that complements your wedding colours and tone, as well as your bridesmaids skintones. Lilac and lavender are light and airy, perfect for spring weddings. Plums and mulberry, on the other end, are deep and make a bold statement.

    You could also throw uniformity out of the window and opt for various shades, to have your bridal party looking like a purple rainbow.

    Here are some purple bridal parties to inspire your own:

     

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    Going down on one knee to propose is a special moment, one you’ll (hopefully) want to remember for a lifetime. Finding the perfect spot is the first step to making your dream proposal come true.

    For couples who love spending their time in nature, what better place to pop the big question than in the great outdoors? It offers free, stunning scenery and gives you many opportunities to have an organic proposal that you don’t have to spend too much time orchestrating.

    Here are some picturesque places to consider popping the question:

    On your favourite hiking trail

    If you and your partner love hiking, they shouldn’t be suspicious when you suggest a romantic sunset hike. Unbeknownst to them, pack a picnic basket and have a friend race to the end of the trail ahead of time to set up the spot. Drape some twinkling string lights along the path to light your way, and lay down a blanket and picnic to allow you to take in the sunset before proposing.

     

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    Go camping

    You and your love snuggled up under stars, what could be more romantic than that? Add an engagement into the mix and you’ve got the perfect evening. Be wise and choose a camping spot with a stunning view for the perfect backdrop. Head out on a warm evening with some comfy blankets and pillows and a delicious spread. Enjoy some stargazing before popping the big question.

     

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    Take to the seas

    If you and your partner are big fans of the ocean, a boat proposal seems like the perfect idea. Rent out a yacht or catamaran, either for just the two of you or your closest friends if you want an audience. You could even go smaller with a canoe or small speedboat, the options are endless. Bonus points if you go for a sunset cruise, as the warm rays of the setting sun will act as the perfect lighting for your proposal.

     

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    Head to your favourite vineyard

    Wine is always a good time. Take a trip down to your favourite winery, or spend the day vineyard-hopping on the Franschhoek wine tram. End the day by proposing at your top spot. Choosing a winery means the food and drink are already covered, which gives you less to stress about. You could even have a private wine tasting set up for a more intimate moment.

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    A large diamond is stunning, but it is also costly. If you want the look without the price tag, why not consider composite diamonds?

    A composite diamond is made of of many small diamonds placed together to create the appearance of one large diamond. Thanks to its setting, they often offer the same glitz and glam of a large single stone at a much cheaper cost.

    Since they are made of an array of smaller stones, composite diamonds are much more affordable than one large diamond. You also do not have to be concerned with the four Cs when purchasing these diamonds, since they are quite small so lower grade stones will work perfectly. They also allow for much more intricate detail.

     

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    However, composite diamonds may become costly in time due to maintenance and repairs. If a stone dislodges and goes missing, it may be a struggle to find another one of the appropriate size to replace it. Replacing stones is even more difficult with an invisible setting, as they can only be replaced with notched diamonds, which are not kept in bulk at diamond wholesalers so they may need to be ordered externally.

    When shopping for a composite diamond ring, make sure to speak to your jeweller about possible future repair costs so that you know what to expect.

     

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    Traditional bridal shower games can be quite overdone. We’ve put together our top 4 bridal shower ideas that will be super helpful for the bride-to-be and also something that she can cherish for a lifetime.

    1. DATE-NIGHT JAR

    Get a friend to hand out a strip of paper to each guest when they arrive. Ask each guest to write about the best date night they’ve ever had, or a date night idea on the paper. Each guest can drop their idea into a large mason jar and the married couple can pick one out whenever they want to plan a special evening.

    2. RECIPE BOX

    When you’re sending out the bridal shower invites, attach a blank card to it, for guests to write their favourite family recipe. To avoid duplicate recipes, give each guest a category (snacks, appetizers, mains and desserts). Each guest will bring their recipe card to the shower to compile them all in a cute box. Present it to the bride as a gift.

    3. ADVICE/FAVOURITE MOMENT BOOK

    Moms and grans will really appreciate this one. Get a scrapbook and ask all of the married women in the family to fill one page of the book with their best marriage advice for the bride;  their favourite memory with the bride and groom and their wishes for the bridal couple. Don’t forget to reach out to the groom’s family as well!

    4. ANNIVERSARY BOX

    You’ll need envelopes and blank cards for this one. Number an envelope for each guest attending the shower. Each guest’s number will represent an anniversary. Ask them to write a happy anniversary note on their card for the bride and groom. Pop them all in a box and let the bride know that they can only open each envelope when they reach the anniversary number on the envelopes!

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