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    Many industries are slowly making the move to become more eco-friendly and the wedding industry will not be left behind. More often, couples are opting for digital wedding invitations (or wedding e-vites). Not only are digital invitations greener, they also come with other benefits such as being cost-effective and less time consuming. However, some might feel that a certain sentiment is lost by using a digital invitation.

    To help you weigh up the options, here are some pros and cons of both digital and paper wedding invitations.

    Digital

    Pros:

    – Saves Money 

    Digital wedding invitations will save you money in a variety of ways. You’ll pay for the design once, and you’ll be able to use it as many times as you like. There will be no postage costs and no paper or envelope costs.  If your budget is tight, or if you’re not too fussy about wedding invitations, digital is the way to go.

    – Eco-friendly 

    No paper invites means that you’re saving trees! On top of that, the delivery of  paper invitations, to your guests, requires fuel. With digital invites, you’re ensuring that your wedding has a smaller carbon footprint.

    – Easy to do 

    You could find a professional graphic designer to create your invitation for you. All you need to do is give them some specifications and your wedding invitation will be ready in no time.

    With the rise of online tools like Canva to make your life as easy as possible, it is even possible to find a website that has invitation templates for free. You could create an invitation completely on your own in a single sitting. Quick and easy!

    – Saves time 

    Not only does it save time on the designing front, but it also gets delivered within seconds. This means you’ll receive your RSVPs quicker too.

    Cons:

    – Some guests may not be tech savvy 

    For the older guests, a digital invite may cause some issues. Some grandparents or aunts and uncles may not be sure how to RSVP or how to access the invitation at all. You wouldn’t want to risk them missing the special day! However, there are ways around this problem. You could opt to send only certain people paper invites.

    – Invites may get lost in a spam folder 

    While it is mostly unlikely, there is a chance that your invite may be detected as spam. Most people don’t check their spam folders, and this could mean that they miss your invitation completely.

    – Designing it yourself can be risky 

    Some of us are simply not artistically inclined. And that’s okay! But, if you’re designing your own wedding invitations you may want to be cautious. The internet is full of ideas, and most websites provide you with templates, but you could still end up with a design that is sub-par if you’re not careful.

    It may sound as if digital invites are less distinctive, significant or memorable, but there are ways you can make it special!

    Paper

    Pros:

    – May be easier to access 

    There are several stores that carry printed wedding invitations. Finding these may be easier than finding a graphic designer.

    – Comes with extra excitement 

    Holding the invites in your hand, packaging them and sending them off can be an exciting activity to do with your partner or your family. It can feel like the real beginning of the wedding festivities.

    – Makes for a great keepsake

    You can keep the wedding invitation forever. Perhaps you want to frame it or put it in your wedding album. These are things you can’t do with a digital invite.

    Cons:

    – Can be quite costly 

    Printing, paper, envelopes, decorations such as ribbons or glitter, and posting. If you add all of these up, it could add a large sum to your budget.

    – Very time-consuming 

    Creating the invites and packaging them already take a lot of time. Thereafter, you’ll have to wait for them to be delivered. This can take a long time, especially if your guests live far away. Additionally, it’ll increase the waiting period you’ll have for receiving responses.

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    There’s a new rule among celebrity brides – one dream wedding dress just isn’t enough! Brides have embraced slipping into something a little more comfortable for drinks and dancing, and also, some ‘wow’ factor. Draw inspiration for your second wedding dress from these breathtaking brides:

    Hailey Bieber

     

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    Being comfortable does not mean you have to give up being stylish. Hailey Bieber changed into a Vera Wang slip dress and trainers for a more relaxed reception look. The custom gown was made from silk charmeuse and featured an asymmetrical cowl neck with a plunging back.

    Ellie Goulding

     

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    Ellie had not one, but five outfits on her wedding day! For her second look, she changed into an off-the-shoulder Stella McCartney gown with a thigh-high split and a diamond trim.

    Leona Lewis

     

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    A blush pink sequin embellished gown was Leona Lewis’ choice for her wedding reception. The gown was designed by Inbal Dror and featured spaghetti straps, a V-neckline and delicate embroidery.

    Katherine Schwarzenegger

     

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    Armani Privé was responsible for both of Katherine Schwarzenegger’s wedding looks. Katherine swapped her first strapless fitted gown for an ivory column gown featuring draped shoulders. The second dress also featured a long train that was lifted via a wrist loop.

    Chiara Ferragni

     

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    The Blonde Salad influencer wore custom Dior wedding dresses for her big day. The second dress featured delicate embroidery depicting a small lion, representing their son Leone, along with lyrics of the song ‘Favorisca I Sentimenti’ written by her husband Fedez. The second dress could also be transformed into a practical mini dress!

    Poppy Delevingne

     

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    Rather than wearing a second wedding dress, Poppy wore a multi-purpose Chanel design on her wedding day. The embellished gown featured a detachable skirt turning it into a mini-dress. Perfect for the dance floor!

    Meghan Markle

     

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    A halterneck gown was the choice for Meghan Markle’s second wedding dress. The elegant and modern piece was designed by none other than Stella McCartney.

    Kate Upton

     

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    Model Kate Upton swapped her traditional white lace Valentino gown for a sheer silver dress for the reception. The second dress was designed by New York-based Christy Rilling Studio.

    Princess Eugenie

     

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    After wearing Peter Pilotto for the wedding ceremony, Princess Eugenie changed into a blush-coloured gown by Zac Posen for the reception at the Royal Lodge in Windsor Great Park.

    By Larissa Vermeulen

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    ‘Royal’ and ‘classic’ were among the words used to describe the wedding dress trends we saw in 2019, but 2020 is all about new ways of interpreting a classic look and taking inspiration from the past.

    Wedding dress trends for the year ahead include everything from feathers and ruffles, to low back details and super high slits, to name a few. So for the brides planning for 2020, we know you are faced with so many choices and different styles, but we’re here to narrow those options down by presenting our favourite wedding dress trends for 2020.

    From simplistic to dramatic, these are the wedding dress trends to look out for in 2020:

    1. Capes

     

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    If there’s ever a time to be OTT, your wedding day is that day. For the more dramatic brides, their wedding day is their time to shine, which is why the cape trend is perfect for you. Bridal capes are a modern alternative to the veil with a theatrical feel. It’s glamorous, it makes a striking statement and is ideal for the bride looking to enhance her wedding dress with a touch of something different.

    2. Feathers

     

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    Inspired by the 1920’s, this feminine feather trend arrived as a new type of texture. What might appear as slightly heavy, the light-weight feather details on a wedding dress add a playful, glamorous and dimensional edge. If the dreamy, classic wedding gown or minimal sheath dress is not for you, an elaborate gown draped in feathers might just be. Feathered wedding dresses are bold and fashion-forward, yet very unique. If you are intrigued by this trend but won’t commit to a full feathered dress, choose a simpler dress with feather accents.

    3. Low back

     

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    This is a sexy and statement-making wedding dress trend. A low back or backless wedding dress is a flawless balance between glamorous, modern and sophisticated, showing a bit of skin while still looking elegant. This trend is actually quite versatile because whether you prefer a structured lace or flowing dress, the backless trend can work across all styles.

    4. Tulle & ruffles

     

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    For some vintage inspiration, consider a wedding dress with layers upon layers of tulle, or a full ruffled A-line skirt. The sensational bridal look has been seen before in a more subtle way,
    but in 2020 we’re hoping to see the trend kicked up a notch! A wedding dress with many layers of exaggerated tulle and ruffles is guaranteed to have all eyes on you, and will make you feel like a modern-day princess.

    5. Super high slits

     

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    Put those legs on display! Along with low backs and plunging necklines, wedding dresses with high, sexy slits fall into the same dramatic category. A high slit is a tasteful detail that will show off your legs and is a great idea for the bride that still want a classic full-length dress with a modern and decadent edge.

    6. Sheer

     

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    A bit risqué? We think not. Sheer never looked so chic, and with this trend, you can be fully covered and still have a sultry sheer illusion. There’s room for imagination while feeling sophisticated and sexy at the same time. Keep in mind that the layers on the inside of the dress will be visible, so make sure it covers and hides what it needs to. Make use of slips, beautiful lingerie, lace, 3D appliqué and a variation of materials to create lightness without showing everything.

    7. Ball gowns

     

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    Nothing says classic quite like a full A-line ball gown style wedding dress. This style trend is by far the most versatile as it is suited for almost any neckline and bodice,
    Whether its lace or embellishment, strapless or long sleeves, it just works across all spectrums. It is the most perfect dress style to make a grand entrance as
    you cannot miss its voluminous silhouette.

    8. Off-the-shoulder

     

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    Off-the-shoulder wedding dresses are a timeless trend and in 2020 it will be no different. The traditional foundational structure remains untouched but every year we see slight upgrades to the trend.

    9. Minimalism

     

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    There’s beauty in simplicity. Not all brides want their wedding dress to be dramatic and extravagant with meters upon meters of material and detail. A simple wedding dress can have a more profound impact with a subtle hint of sexiness. A minimalistic wedding dress is not limited to a silk slip or sheath dress but might just mean no lace, beading or added volume. It stands out wonderfully by creating clean lines and a sleek shape.

    10. Sparkle

     

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    There is nothing wrong with walking down the aisle dazzling in sparkles. For the bold and dramatic bride, a dress that shines in all its glory might just be the one for you. From glittering beads and metallic detail to embellishments and rhinestones, you’re bound to be a regal vision.

    By Amy-lee Steenkamp

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    One of the most controversial guest-list decisions you’ll make is whether or not you’re inviting kids to your wedding. On the one hand, the decision against inviting kids could cause some tension between you and your loved ones. On the other, a wedding without kids is likely to be much easier.

    There are many things to be taken into consideration when making this decision. From guest expectations to venue capacity.

    Ultimately, the decision is yours and you should do what feels right for you and your partner.

    To help you wrap your head around making this decision, here are some pros and cons of inviting kids to your wedding.

    Pros of inviting kids: 

    – Your guests with kids won’t have an issue attending

    It is common for guests to complain about a child-free wedding because they don’t have anywhere to leave their kids. Sometimes, finding a good baby-sitter can be tough, especially if the child’s grandparents are also attending the wedding. If you’re inviting guests from out of town, they won’t be familiar with any sitters in the area. Most people won’t leave their kids behind if they’re travelling either.

    By allowing kids at your wedding, you ensure that all your friends and family with kids are able to be in attendance.

    – They add to the atmosphere 

    Inviting kids to your wedding brings a playfulness that you likely wouldn’t get from your adult guests. Having children run around and giggle with joy really does add an extra touch of happiness to the special day.

    – There will be no tension 

    If you decide on having a wedding-wide ban on kids, you have to be prepared for some tension. Many people will take offense to the decision. This can be totally avoided if you allow parents to bring their kids along.

    – Your nieces and nephews can be part of the wedding 

    While kids may not always be your cup of tea, we’re sure you’re very fond of your little nieces and nephews. You may even want them to be a part of the bridal party. If your wedding doesn’t accommodate kids, this is something you’ll have to give up.

    Cons of inviting kids:

    – Kids are unpredictable 

    Kids are known for their unpredictability. They could start screaming and crying and having a full-blown temper tantrum at any moment. Additionally, they get a bit fidgety if they’re sitting still for too long. They may start running around and acting uncontrollably if they get bored. If you’d prefer to avoid the risk of having your “I do’s” interrupted, then an adults-only affair is probably better for you.

    – You will have to spend more money 

    Venue size and catering need to be taken into account. They may be little but kids still require seats and food. If your budget is tight, you may want to ensure that your adult guests are catered for first and then decide if you can afford to invite kids.

    – You’ll have to keep them busy

    Entertainment for kids and entertainment for adults are two completely different things. You will have to ensure that you have a way to keep kids busy, because for them a wedding is a very long event.

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    Your engagement ring is probably one of your most prized possessions. For many, their engagement ring is also their most valuable piece of jewellery. Not to mention the sentimental value!

    The ring is meant to last a lifetime. If you don’t take all the the necessary steps to care for it, it might get spoiled. However, jewellery care is not exactly common knowledge. So, you may be worried about your cluelessness on the subject and the condition of your ring… No need!

    Here are some tips and tricks to help you ensure that your engagement ring stays in the best condition possible:

    – Have it insured ASAP 

    This should be one of the first things you do when you come into possession of an engagement ring. It will allow you to wear your ring without being constantly worried about it. Most insurance will cover loss, theft and damage.

    – Keep the resizing to a minimum 

    Having your engagement ring readjusted too many times can cause the metal to become fragile. This will make the ring more susceptible to damage. If your hands swell because of things like pregnancy, it’s best to store the ring away until it fits again, rather than having it resized.

    – Buy some ring dishes

    A simple but useful tip! Keeping a few ring dishes around the house will ensure that you don’t carelessly misplace it. Whenever you remove it from your finger, pop it in the ring dish and you’ll know exactly where to find it.

    – Clean your ring 

    The option to take your ring to the jeweller for a cleaning is available at most stores. However, cleaning your ring at home is quite easy. Fill a small bowl with lukewarm water and add a drop of dish detergent (ensure that it is not chlorine based). Leave the ring in the water for about 10 minutes, then remove it and scrub it with a soft bristled brush. Rinse the ring and dry it with a lint-free cloth or a hair-dryer.

    – Remove your ring when necessary 

    Swimming, exercising and manual labour are all activities that you should remove your ring for. If you’re going to the beach, for example, it may be better to leave the ring at home.

    – Refresh the metal setting 

    Professions suggest that having the metal setting refreshed every few years is a good habit to get into. Your ring comes into contact with oxygen and moisture every day and this could damage the metal. Keep in mind that different metals have different lengths of durability. Ask your jeweller how often yours should be refreshed.

    – Beware of chemicals

    Chemicals and abrasive solutions can erode the metal setting. If you’re coming into contact with these, its best to ensure that your ring is far away.

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    While some traditions fade and others are altered, the wedding kiss has remained. A kiss after the vows is a wedding tradition that, it seems, will never disappear. Today, the wedding kiss serves as a representation of love and devotion between the couple. Historically, however, the wedding kiss had a different purpose.

    Like many – if not most – traditions passed down for centuries, the history is a bit broken and unclear. As a result, there are a few origin stories of the wedding kiss.

    The most commonly cited story is that of the ancient Romans (753 BC to 27 BC and then from 64 AD to 1453 AD). In ancient Rome, the wedding kiss was more of a legal formality; it symbolised a transaction that had taken place.

    In those times, marriage was considered a contract and the kiss was the “signature” that rendered the contract binding. Neel Burton MD says, “In an age of widespread illiteracy, kisses served to seal agreements, thus the expression ‘to seal with a kiss.'” The kiss was also considered to be the first time that the couple ever kissed.

    Others argue that the history of this significant kiss starts in the church. In ancient Catholic ceremonies, it was customary for priests to give the groom “a kiss of peace.” The groom was then required to pass the kiss on to his dearly beloved. It is said that this is how the phrase “you may now kiss the bride” came about.

    Another religious argument about the origin story of this kiss comes from the scripture itself. The kiss is said to symbolise the fulfilment of the scripture that says “and the two shall become one flesh” (Mark 10:8).

    Wherever it stems from, we’re pretty glad that it stood the test of time. The wedding kiss is one of the most anticipated moments of a western wedding. When celebs or royals are married, the kiss is sometimes even analysed by body language experts.

    If public displays of affection are not for you though, remember that the kiss is not compulsory and your nuptials are still valid without it!

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    Planning a honeymoon is more difficult than you think. One of the most challenging parts comes right at the beginning of planning: Choosing the best destination. If you’re still picking a location, why not consider Mozambique?

    With its warm, tropical weather, endless stretches of empty beaches and rich culture, you’d think you’re in paradise. Boasting delicious seafood meals, and exciting excursions you can enjoy, Mozambique should be on the top of your destination list.

    Here are some of the best things for couples to do in Mozambique:

    – Take A Dhow Cruise

    Dhow cruises are easily accessible in Mozambique and often come with snacks and drinks too. From the dhow you can enjoy the stunning views of the land and watch the sun set as you sail along. What could be more romantic than that?

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    – See the Maputo Central Train Station 

    This train station has been acknowledged by publications globally as one of the most beautiful stations in the world. It is wildly popular because of this.  It is a great place for some photos and a glimpse into the past.

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    – Island hop in The Quirimbas Archipelago

    The Quirimbas Archipelago is a group of islands including Vamizi, Ibo, and Quisiva. There are 32 islands to choose from. On the islands you can snorkel or scuba dive and see all that nature has to offer. The islands are popular because of their marine life (including endangered sea cows and dolphins) and their coral reefs.

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    – Spend a Night Under the Stars 

    There are some activities that are offered by most hotels and resorts in Mozambique. This is one of them. The hotel will provide you with an experience of spending the night sleeping under the stars. A bed will be set up on a secluded part of the beach and you’ll be left to enjoy the sounds of the ocean.

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    – Go on a Safari at the Niassa Reserve

    Mozambique is heavily focused on responsible and sustainable tourism. Wildlife are treated well and the nature reserves are proof of this. Because of this, you can enjoy a safari at the Niassa Reserve without guilt!

    The reserve is the largest one in the country. At the reserve you can go on a camping expedition or a boat safari. You may catch a glimpse of some wildlife including lions, hyenas and leopards.

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    – Have a Romantic dinner on a Secluded Beach 

    This activity is offered by most hotels and resorts that are found in Mozambique. They often allow you to choose the site where your dinner table is set up too.

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    – Visit the Fort São Sebastião

    This fort is a heritage site in Mozambique and is one of the top attractions there. Built in a Portuguese style, the fort was put up to ensure that the trade route is secure and safe. You can explore inside the fort and also make your way to the top for a spectacular view of the ocean.

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    – Take a Ferry to the Inhaca Islands 

    Along with the general beach activities, the added ferry trip makes this beach experience special. There are also a variety of restaurants on the island.

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    – Hit the Beach 

    Mozambique is known for its endless stretches of beaches. You can’t let the trip go by without making a stop at one or two of them. Take a dip in the ocean and a romantic stroll. A classic honeymoon activity.

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    – Visit the Tunduru Botanical Gardens

    This is the ideal place to capture a good honeymoon photograph. Additionally, the environment makes for a wonderful day of peace and relaxation. It’ll be good for some proper alone time with your partner!

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    Getting engaged is a very exciting moment. You feel like you’re living a dream. At the same time, you’re probably feeling frantic because you’re unsure of all the things you need to do as a result. You suddenly feel flooded with responsibility.

    Don’t let this exciting time slip through your fingers. Follow this list of things to do as soon as you get engaged, and you’ll feel much better about things running smoothly.

    – Take it all in

    You’ve just said yes and your mind is already in a hundred different places. Take a breath and live in the moment. This is something you’ll want to remember (with all the little details). Take a photo to capture the moment and spend some time just taking in the joy.

    – Start speading the news 

    Most importantly, you need to let you parents know. Tell your parents first, before you post anything online. Then, make sure you call the other important people in your life. Last but not least, post a cheeky picture to social media, if that’s your style. It’s sure to be your most liked picture yet.

    – Celebrate 

    Spend a night celebrating with your partner. Getting engaged is a huge deal and it’s also a very personal occasion for the two of you. Make sure you spend some time alone.

    Thereafter, you may want to have some celebratory drinks or a dinner with your close family and friends.

    – Size and insure the ring 

    In most cases, the ring won’t fit. This is simply because your partner can’t have it sized before the proposal. If it does fit, thats great! If it doesn’t, have it sized as soon as possible. The last thing you want is to lose it.

    A similar precaution that is good to take is to have the ring insured. Ask an insurance broker or ask your jeweller for some recommendations.

    – Compile an inspiration folder 

    Start scrolling! Search Pinterest, Instagram wedding accounts (like Wedding ETC’s Insta page), and make Google your new best friend. Look for ideas for your wedding decor, honeymoon, and wedding dress/suit. The sooner you start looking, the sooner you’ll plan your perfect wedding.

    – Start thinking details 

    Set aside some time to speak to your partner about a rough budget for the wedding and honeymoon. Discuss possible dates too.

    – Do some research 

    Wedding photographers, wedding planners and wedding venues get scooped up early. Do some research about which professionals you want involved in your wedding and where you would like it to be. You won’t regret it when you have everything you want.

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    A bold red lip makes you feel powerful. We know! There’s nothing like a good red lipstick. Dressed up or dressed down, red lipstick can be paired with almost anything, making it the go-to for many.

    The only problem: finding the perfect red lipstick is no small task. Your skin tone is a major determinant in which red you should go for. That’s why the red lip that your friend wears (the one you love to death) doesn’t have the same effect on your lips.

    We’re of the opinion that your handbag should always have a red lipstick inside it. So, here is a quick and easy guide to finding the perfect one for you.

    For a fair complexion

    Go for a blue-based or pink-based red lipstick. The cool tones will contrast well with your fair complexion because of its pink-based undertone.

    Our pick: Maybelline Made For All Lipstick by Color Sensational in Red-For-Me R139.95

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    For a medium complexion 

    Opt for an orange-based red. This will bring a brightening look to your skin tone and remove any pallidness.

    Our pick: M A C Matte Lipstick in Lady Danger R260

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    For an olive complexion 

    Look for a brick or rust tinted red. You could also go for a coral or orange base. An olive complexion carries a yellow-green undertone. Earthy toned lipsticks will work effortlessly with your skin.

    Our pick: NYX Butter Lipstick in Mary Janes R129.95

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    For a dark complexion 

    A darker complexion allows for a wider variety of reds. If you want a bold look, opt for a deep, true red. If you want a more natural look, go for blue-based reds.

    Our pick: M A C Retro Matte Lipstick in Ruby Woo R260

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    Bridal showers are one of the most popular pre-wedding occassions. The event is a party in honour of the bride and a step towards preparing for married life. Brides look forward to spending quality time with their closest female friends and family, and having all the important people get to know each other before the big day.

    This can be a heavy weight on the shoulders of those planning the bridal shower. There are quite a few things that need to be kept in mind. We’re quite certain that you want to make the day as amazing as possible.

    Here are a few tips to help you ensure that things run smoothly and turn out perfectly:

    – Who hosts and pays? 

    Usually, bridesmaids are the ones who take control of the bridal shower. In fact, tradition (which has changed with the times) says that the brides family should not throw the shower. These days, however, the bride or grooms mother may be involved in organising too. The bride should barely be involved in the planning!

    – When and where should it be? 

    The bridal shower can be held from about 3 months before the wedding to a few weeks before.

    The venue depends on the individual circumstances. If the host has a big enough space at home then it could be held there. It could also be at a family members home, or a restaurant.

    – Who is invited? 

    Most importantly, only people who are invited to the wedding should be considered for the bridal shower. Included in the guest list should be the bridal party, the bride and grooms mothers, female family members, and female friends. It is not necessary to invite every single woman in the brides life, just the most important ones.

    – When to send out invites? 

    You should aim to send out the invitations about a month before the time for the latest. This ensures that guests save the date well in advance. It also ensures that guests can plan gifts and travel (if they live far away).

    Extra tip: on the invitation you should include the brides name, the hosts information, date, time, location, RSVP information and registry information. Your invite sets the tone for the event, so make sure it looks good too!

    – What food do I serve? 

    Since this is a celebration, it would be appropriate to have some cake and desserts. Finger foods such as sliders, savouries, and sandwiches are also a good addition.

    Alcoholic beverages are acceptable, but make sure you keep it classy. Go with some champagne or cocktails. You can also serve tea and coffee towards the end of the event.

    – Are there any traditions to follow? 

    It is generally not necessary to follow tradition if you don’t want to. However, some traditions include having something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue handed over to the bride. Another one that is quite popular is creating a bouquet using the ribbons from gifts and using the bouquet at the rehearsal.

    Tradition also says that the shower should include various games about the bride and grooms relationship and games that are a bit embarrassing for the bride. These have mostly faded away over time.

    Gift specific tips: 

    – How do I ask guests to come with gifts? 

    Most guests will know that a gift is necessary for a bridal shower. However, simply adding the registry on the invitation is an indirect way of reminding guests about gifts. The bride can also request that nobody brings gifts if she so pleases.

    – Does the bride open gifts at the shower? 

    Another bridal shower tradition is one that suggests the bride should open all the gifts at the shower. This is not necessary at all. It could be used as an ice-breaker, but if the bride prefers to open gifts in private thats fine too!

    If gifts are being opened at the shower, ensure that somebody is keeping track of who has given what. The bride will need to send thank you cards a few weeks after the shower. If she can’t remember who gave her what, that would be a disaster!

    – Hostess gifts? 

    This one is a bonus tip for the bride. Be sure to get the hostess a gift as a token of your gratitude. Throwing a bridal shower is no small task and we’re sure you want your hostess to know that you appreciate her efforts!

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