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    For a first-time property buyer, when you don’t yet have a solid understanding of the ins-and-outs of the property industry, taking that first step towards home ownership can be daunting.

    There’s a lot to consider before stepping onto the property ladder. And it isn’t as simple as going from the bottom to the top. You have to climb one ring at a time: do your research, ask questions and put yourself in the hands of people with in-depth industry knowledge.

    One concern that comes up for most potential property buyers is the issue of affordability. Carl Coetzee, CEO of BetterBond, says that it might be wise to consider co-ownership ‒ an accessible and certainly a more cost-effective way for people to enter the property market.

    “Assessing affordability is the first rung on the ladder to qualifying for a bond. One way to make it more affordable is to purchase property with a friend, partner or parent,” says Coetzee.

    The bond originator encourages people to apply for pre-qualification as the very first step to securing a bond. Pre-qualification is the process whereby the size of the bond the individual qualifies for is determined. A pre-qualification certificate can be issued within 24 hours and is typically valid for three months, assuming your financial position remains the same in those three months.

    Coetzee adds that a key benefit of pre-qualification is that it demonstrates to sellers that you are a serious buyer as you have already gone through the process of thoroughly assessing how much you qualify for.

    BetterBond handles clients’ home loan applications (at no charge), submitting to multiple banks to find the best deal available. They also offer free services online, including an affordability calculator which calculates the size of bond you could potentially qualify for based on your current income and expenses.

    So, what are the pros, cons and considerations of property co-ownership?

    According to the Stats SA General Household Survey 2018, around 35% of South African households own their property (with 18.3% owned by an individual and 17% owned jointly).

    Coetzee explains that there are obvious benefits such as sharing the costs and maintenance of a property, but it is very important for applicants to know exactly what they are getting into.

    “There are certain things you should consider when deciding if co-ownership is for you. For example, is the person you are looking to purchase property with someone you are willing to enter into a financial agreement with? Trust is very important,” he says.

    “You have to ask the right questions and ensure you are well informed before going into this kind of partnership. Once you have decided to go ahead, a written agreement must be drawn up at the outset outlining every detail of the arrangement,” Coetzee explains.

    “All terms must be agreed upon in this legally binding contract to avoid any potential issues or confusion down the line, especially if all partners are equal in the contract as no one party then has the authority to make decisions unless all are in agreement.”

    The co-ownership agreement should entail who will live on the property; who will pay or contribute towards deposits and initial payments for the property; how ownership will be shared (it is automatically equal if not stated otherwise); who will be allowed to draw funds from the bond; what will happen in the event of the death or incapacitation of one of the co-owners; what will happen if one or more parties in the contract wish to part ways or sell the property; how profits or losses on the property will be split; and anything else that might result in potential disputes.

    “Co-ownership makes it significantly easier to enter the property market, especially in light of the current economy where money is tight for most. But before entering into such an agreement, you have to consider all factors of the arrangement carefully and in great detail,” says Coetzee.

    “Clarity is key to a successful co-ownership agreement. All co-owners must agree on how things will work upfront, leaving no room for ambiguity.”

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    So you’ve been given the title of Maid of Honour and it’s such an important role in the wedding, it comes with several duties. With great power comes great responsibility.

    Hopefully you aren’t too stressed out about the part you have to play in the wedding. More than anything else, you’re the rock that needs to support the bride.

    If you’re a bit worried about what else you’ll need to do, here is a checklist to help you remember your duties.

    – Head of Bridesmaids 

    The maid of honour should be the go-to for the rest of the bridesmaids. If there are conflicts, tasks, or pre-wedding events that the bridesmaids are involved in, the maid of honour should organise them and ensure that everything is running smoothly.

    – Party planner 

    From the bridal shower to the bachelorette party, and any other pre-wedding celebrations in between, the maid of honour should have a heavy hand in the planning process.

    – Shopping assistant 

    Wedding dresses, bridesmaids dresses, decor, and much more. Shopping for all the things a bride needs can become very tiring. The maid of honour should be by the brides side as much as possible for this, providing opinions, support, and helping to carry those heavy shopping bags!

    – Speech maker 

    Often, the maid of honour is expected to give a toast at either the wedding or the rehearsal dinner. Be prepared!

    – Right hand to the bride 

    On the day of the wedding, the bride will need you for lots of small things. Lipstick checks, bathroom breaks, holding the bouquet when she walks down the aisle, providing water and snacks, and personal social media manager are all tasks the maid of honour can be expected to do on the big day. It may sound like a lot, but many of these things come naturally as the day passes by, you’ll see!

    – Point person for guests 

    The last thing a bride wants to do is answer endless questions about the registry, the location of the wedding, and other logistical issues. Guests should be directed to the maid of honour for all of these queries.

    – Time and record keeper

    You need to ensure that the bride is staying on track, she won’t be able to do it herself.

    Additionally, for any gifts and cards that are received, the maid of honour should do her best to keep a record of who gave what – this will be a huge help to the bride and will save her much stress after the wedding.

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    You’re sitting with your fiancé, on the couch with a glass of wine, and chatting about your upcoming wedding. The two of you have compiled lists of people who are to be invited and it’s time for you to combine your lists. Shock and horror ensues as you realise how large your guest list really is!

    You quickly try to find ways to shorten the list. Now you’re wondering (about the age-old question), “who really needs a plus one?”.

    Here are some quick rules to help you decide:

    – Married, engaged, or living together 

    If your friend – whose partner is unknown to you –  is married, engaged, or living with their significant other, then they traditionally receive a plus-one on their invitation.

    – The bridal party 

    The previous rule does not apply to those who are in your bridal party. They should always receive a plus one, no matter what their relationship status is.

    – Be clear about plus-ones 

    Make sure that it is explicitly clear whether your guests are allowed plus-ones. You should indicate this information on the invitation. If you can, add the name of the person you expect that they will bring on the invitation.

    – Seating 

    If you’re being strict about plus-ones, you have to ensure that everyone will be comfortable where they are seated. Don’t seat one individual with only couples. It’s best to have a table or two dedicated to those people who have not be given the privilege of bringing a plus-one. This will make things much less uncomfortable.

    – People who don’t need plus-ones 

    There are certain people who never need a plus one, no matter what the rules are about being married, being engaged or whatever the case may be. Coworkers never need plus ones, guests who are close to you and will know other guests do not need plus ones, and those guests who have a partner who they are only casually dating do not need plus ones. You don’t have to feel bad it!

    – Consider people who do need plus ones 

    This is another one where the previous rules may not apply. If a guest requires assistance, perhaps they are disabled and need physical assistance for example, then they should be given a plus one. You have to be considerate of your guests, you wouldn’t want them to have a horrible time at your wedding.

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    For some, the classic island getaway is perfect for a honeymoon. But for the couples who are always looking to shake things up, that may be a bit boring. Newlyweds these days are often looking for alternative ways to celebrate their marriage.

    Some have opted for honeyteering, and others have chosen to have no honeymoon at all. If neither of these options suit you, perhaps some weird and wonderful hotels around the world will tickle your fancy.

    Check out these creative and different-from-the-usual hotels around the world:

    – Gladstone’s Library

    Gladstone’s Library in the UK offers bookworms a getaway with a difference. The library boasts 26 boutique bedrooms, a bistro that offers breakfast, lunch and supper, and an ideal location.

    It is situated just outside the famous walled city of Chester, and is on the doorstep of the Welsh countryside, so you’ll have many tourist opportunities on your book-lovers’ honeymoon too.

    Surround yourself with 150 000 books, in the UK’s only residential library for a honeymoon like no other.

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    – Bjorli Snowhotel

    This hotel is made from 15 million litres of water. Impressive, right? Igloo accommodation is definitely a break from the usual and will be an unforgettable experience.

    Bjorli Snowhotel also comes with an ice bar and a ice chapel, if you’re interested. Their rooms feature ice beds, mood lighting and fleece-lined sleeping bags to keep you warm.

    Situated only 1km from Bjorli ski resort, you’ll be in for some snow activities too. It is also a 45-minute drive from it’s sister hotel, Dovrefjell-Sunndalsfjella National Park, which comes with a hot-tub, sauna and indoor pool that visitors can use.

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    – Kokopelli’s Cave

    Spend your honeymoon on the inside the vertical cliffs of the 60 million year olf Ojo Alamo sandstone, in a cave house that over looks the La Plata river valley.

    From the bed and breakfast, you have an unmatched view of awe-inspiring southwestern sunsets over the beautiful La Plata River valley and the four states of Arizona, New Mexico, Utah and Colorado,  in the USA.

    The Cave is man made and was originally intended to be a an office for Bruce Black, the owner, who is a consulting geologist. When his plan didn’t materialize, it was made into a bed and breakfast.

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    Hotel Costa Verde

    As if a honeymoon in the tree-tops is not different enough already, Hotel Costa Verde takes things to the next level and offers a stay in a refurbished vintage 1965 Boeing 727.

    Have a honeymoon that makes you feel on top of the world and opt for the airplane in the rainforest!

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    – Palacio de Sal, Salar de Uyuni, Bolivia

    Built entirely of salt, the first of its kind, Palacio de Sal (Salt Palace Hotel) is in perfect harmony with the white desert that surrounds it. This one is a truly unique experience.

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    – Dog Bark Park Inn

    This hotel, built in the shape of a beagle, is a well-known landmark in Idaho, USA. Being ranked in the top 20 most fun and exciting places to stay by the London Times, it is surely not to be missed. This is the one time that being in the doghouse is a good thing!

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    – Bonus – Underwater suites at various hotels 

    If you’ve ever wanted to know what it’s like to breathe under water, this is probably the closest you’ll get. Live out all your fairytale, little mermaid fantasies and spend your honeymoon in an underwater suite!

    There are various hotels around the world, in Dubai, Jamaica,  India, London, and Mexico, that offer this option. You won’t struggle to find a good option for you. You may, however, struggle to get a booking as most hotels only have one underwater suite – so get planning now!

    Atlantis The Palm – Dubai 

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    The Manta Resort – Jamaica 

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    Choosing your bridal bouquet may seem like one of the simplest things to do for your wedding but it may not be. Flower types, matching with your dress, and arrangements are all things you have to consider.

    Another thing you should keep in mind is the shape you’d prefer. If you’re not sure what shapes are available, then this may be of some help to you.

    Here are some shape options for your bridal bouquet:

    – Composite Bouquet 

    Constructed using hundreds of single petals all wired together, this bouquet is made to look like one extra large flower. This can end up being quite and expensive option, but it adds a unique touch of elegance that you don’t often see.

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    – Cascade bouquet

    Also known as a shower bouquet, this one is quite traditional and very stylish. The flowers are arranged in such a way that they seem as though they’re flowing over the bride’s hands. Often, these bouquets are quite large, and so may be a little inconvenient to lug around on your wedding day. They are, however, great for photos.

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    – Fan bouquet 

    Adding a vintage-feel, this bouquet is simply a plastic fan intertwined with flowers and leaves. This one will stand out from the rest, as it is a very uncommon choice.

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    – Basket Bouquet

    If you’re having a garden wedding, this one is perfect for you. Flowers are arranged in a basket of whatever shape you prefer. Not only does it add a touch of rustic-vibes, it also generally ensures that your bridal flowers don’t wild and thus last longer.

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    – Presentation Bouquet 

    This one is perfect for the glamorous bride. Otherwise known as the sheath bouquet, this one is striking because of the long stemmed flowers used to create it. A bride carries a presentation bouquet in a specific way – cradled in her arms like a beauty queen who just received her prize.

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    – Pomander bouquet 

    While this one is quite uncommon for brides, it could add a touch of originality to your outfit. The pomander is a ball of flowers carried by a loop of ribbon.

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    – Biedermeier Bouquet 

    Named after a European style of interior design, the biedermeier bouquet is all about symmetry and drama. Flowers are organised in tight, concentric circles of contrasting coloured blooms.

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    – Nosegay Bouquet 

    One of the more structured shapes of bouquets, this one is smaller and easy to carry. Flowers are cut to the same length, tightly packed together, and wrapped in ribbon or lace.

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    – Hand-tied bouquets 

    Also known as a posy, this bouquet is exactly as it’s name suggests – a bunch of flowers, grouped together in an unstructured manner, and tied.

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    The groom’s big day is on its way and you’re wondering what to get him as a gift. It’s a memorable occasion, so you want the gift to be fitting but you can’t seem to come up with a good idea.

    Well, there’s no need to rack your brain any longer, we’re here to help. Here are some ideas to inspire a great gift for the groom:

    – Beer gift set 

    A simple, but great gift.

    R199 at YuppieChef 

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    – Personalised Cufflinks 

    A pair of cufflinks is a great gift for men, but a pair of personalised cufflinks should make it even more special, and shows more of your effort.

    R544.73 at Get Name Necklance 

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    – Novelty Decanter 

    A decoration for his at-home desk, and a useful gift at the same time.

    R321.61 at Banggood 

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    – Grooming Set 

    Men want to look and feel their best too! Gift him with a grooming set to ensure his morning routine leaves him feeling fresh and ready to take on the day.

    R395 at Faithful to Nature 

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    – Framed custom star map poster 

    If you’re looking for a sentimental gift, this one is perfect. Get a custom map that shows the stars in the sky on the day you met, the day of your first kiss, or the day he proposed.

    R484 at manicaa 

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    – Watch 

    A watch is an essential part of the wardrobe, and for men a fancy watch really brings an outfit together for those days that call for formal attire. Ensure he’s looking his best by gifting him with a watch that’s just his style.

    R2499 at Superbalist 

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    – Duffle Bag

    For travelling, the gym and much more, this gift will definitely be put to good use.

    R2199 at Old Khaki 

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    – Cologne gift set 

    He can never have too much cologne, and we all know a man who smells great is that much more attractive.

    R681 at Superbalist 

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    – Personalised Apron 

    For the man who loves to cook, ensure he’s doing it in style. Gift him with a personalised apron to wear as he cooks you all those romantic meals.

    R299.95 at Net Florist 

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    – Homemade Gin Kit 

    For those who love DIY, and those who are gin enthusiasts, this one is perfect.

    R519 at YuppieChef 

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    Vancouver is a seaport in British Columbia. While the city is not known for romance, the activities it boasts will make for a great trip for you and your significant other.

    It’s known for its seafood and outdoor recreation. But, there is much more to this bustling, diverse city.

    Here are some activities you should try with your partner on your next trip to Vancouver:

    – Capilano Suspension Bridge 

    For those couples who believe that seeking thrills together strengthens the bond, this one’s for you. The 70m high suspension bridge will have your knees weak as your make your way across. Not exactly the reason you may have expected to be weak at the knees on a romantic trip, but a great experience nonetheless.

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    – VanDusen Botanical Garden Hedge Maze

    Get lost with your love in the hedge maze. A light and fun activity to bring out the playful side of your relationship. The garden itself is a tourist attraction, so this is a two-for-one type of activity too!

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    – Snow sports at Grouse Mountain 

    From skiing to snowboarding, or simply having a snowball fight, Grouse Mountain could be a full day activity.

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    – Ice-skating at Robson Square 

    There’s no way you could take a trip to Canada without doing some ice-skating. Enjoy one of the classic date activities on your romantic getaway.

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    – Bacio Rosso 

    Cabaret, comedy, and gourmet food.  There’s nothing like luxury and entertainment to make your romantic getaway one for the books. You’ll be seated in the middle of the action, surrounded by jugglers, contortionists, magicians, singers and more. All of this is combined with a 4-course menu. It’ll be a feast for all your senses.

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    – Harbour air seaplanes 

    See the city from a different perspective with Harbour Air’s seaplane tours! An intimate and exhilarating experience with some amazing views.

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    Although you may hope that those people attending your wedding would know you well enough to get a gift you’ll like, its better not to risk it. Your best bet at getting great gifts that you need (and actually want) is to opt for a registry.

    For those of you who are registry first-timers, as most people are, there’s nothing to be intimidated by. South Africa has some great options for wedding registries, and most are user friendly too.

    Here are some you may want to consider, to get the best gifts for you:

    BANKS  Kitchen Boutique 

    BANKS was established in 1939 in District Six, Cape Town. It was started by Avraham Bank and his son Abba Bank. Today, the store has one of the widest ranges of kitchen appliances, stylish pots and pans, crockery, cutlery, glassware and more. If you’re a couple that loves cooking up a storm, this is the one for you!

    Their registry process is quick and simple too. All you need to do is create an account, add the gifts you’d like to your registry and you’re good to go. For those buying you gifts, BANKS is convenient as they have the option of buying online or in store and they offer delivery as well!

    If that wasn’t enough, BANKS also allows you to have a change of heart. If you’ve registered for and received a gift, but no longer want that item, you’re allowed to exchange it if you so please.

    Wrapistry 

    Wrapistry carries a variety of brands including Carrol Boyes, Sorbet, Le Crueset, Smeg and many more. If you’re looking for something brand specific, check here first.

    – Yuppiechef

    Stocking over 8 600 products from 700 of the world’s leading brand, you’re sure to find exactly what you’re looking for.

    Gift Tree

    This online gift store is a one-stop-shop for handpicked gifts. They carry both leading brands and unique designer pieces,  and you can shop from the comfort of your own home.

    Mr Price Home 

    For homeware at affordable prices, this one is for you. Offering decor, kitchen appliances, and items for your bedroom, bathroom and living room, you can’t go wrong with Mr Price Home. It’s a store that everyone is familiar with too!

    Bespoke 

    Founded in 2012, Bespoke is known for its distinctive finds and accessible luxury. This store carries a curated collection of home decor items and is perfect for those who prefer unique, hand-picked items.

    @home 

    @home is a popular homeware store in South Africa, and their outlets can be found all across the country. You can set your registry up online and it can be managed from there. The store also offers in-store consultations.

    Hirsch’s 

    Hirsch’s started as a family business. Allan Hircsh and his wife Margaret opened their appliance business in Durban in 1979. Today,  it is a huge appliance and home furnishing store and has branches in KZN, Cape Town and Gauteng. They offer the option of an online registry that’ll make your life super easy!

    Also read: Registry mistakes you might be making 

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    You’d think it would be difficult to make a mistake with an occasion like this. It’s one of the biggest events in your life, so of course you’d ensure that nothing could go wrong.

    But planning the perfect proposal can be stressful. This stress could cause you to make some silly mistakes.

    To be one-hundred percent sure that things run smoothly as you pop the big question, have a look at these common mistakes you should avoid:

    – Asking for too much advice 

    If you get too many opinions, your plan will be a bit of a mess and you’ll get confused about the right thing to do. Remember that you know your partner better than most people, which means that you know what they would like and what they wouldn’t. Trust your gut!

    – Overcomplicating things 

    If your plan consists of too many twists and turns, there is a much larger chance that silly slip ups can be made. Keep it simple and meaningful.

    Additionally, your nerves may stop you from being on top of your game. A complicated plan will only aggravate the nerves.

    – Planing a public proposal without being 100% sure of the answer 

    If you’re a little uncertain about your partner’s answer, but you’re risking it anyway then a public proposal is probably not the best route to take. Since there is a slight chance, however small, of a negative answer you should save yourself some discomfort and plan a more intimate proposal.

    – Proposing without having spoken about marriage before 

    You should never just assume your partner wants to get married. If you have never discussed marriage as a couple, it is a very bad idea to propose. You never know what their feelings on marriage could be.

    – Hiding the ring too well 

    If you want your partner to stumble upon the ring, then be sure to hide it strategically. Don’t put it in a place they will never find it, it’ll ruin your plan completely.

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    A realtor, Daniel John, proposed to his girlfriend, Megan Cheng, during a community ice-skating event on Family Day in Richmond, Canada. The proposal had been well thought out and planned, being six months in the making.

    The real estate company (Sutton Group Seafair Realty) that John works for have rented out an ice-rink for Family Day for the last three years. As they sat down to plan this year’s event, he devised a plan to propose to Cheng.

    “I wanted to do something original for her…So about six months ago, I brought up the idea. And (the Sutton team) all said it was a great idea and I was kind of on the fence,” said John to Richmond News.

    “But that’s what got it going. And then a really good reason (for it) was that all of our family and friends usually come out (to the skate)…which I know is important to her,” he added.

    John noted that one of the other reasons he pushed on with this plan was that he could get some good footage and photographs, as his colleagues could hide in plain sight. Most members of the team lent a hand, ensuring that there was music, stopping the Zamboni from ruining the proposal, and convincing Cheng that she needed to be on the bench.

    When the time came for the big question, John said he had never been more nervous in his life. He performed an ice-skating dance routine in his tux, then glided over to fetch Cheng from the bench. Finally, he got down on one knee and asked…and she said yes!

    “She was very surprised…She was like, ‘Oh, you never lie to me, I can’t believe you pulled this off,'” said John.

    The happy couple, who have been together for just over three years, have not yet set a date for the wedding.

    Watch the proposal unfold here: 

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