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    You’ve had the big engagement and decided on a date – now it’s time to get down to the planning but your partner doesn’t seem keen on contributing. Wedding planning can be stressful enough without having a partner who is not interested in helping out, so we’ve put together these five tips to get your partner involved in planning your big day together.

    1. FROM THE GET-GO

    Make sure you are both discussing wedding options from the start. You don’t want to get ahead without your partner and leave them behind, only to want their input later on.

    2. BE OPEN MINDED

    Your partner may have some strange ideas, but try not to brush them off harshly, as you want them to continue making contributions. If you don’t like something, be gentle and explain why.

    3. GET HANDS-ON

    If there are certain areas that you know your partner will be interested in, such as the music, food or transport, then hand over those tasks, making sure you are both on the same page when it comes to what you want.

    4. ASK FOR HELP

    If you’re struggling to juggle all of the invitations, nagging family members and bookings, ask your partner if they can take on some of the tasks, or that you work on them together to ease the pressure.

    5. JUST BE HONEST

    Tell your partner that you want their input, after all, you both decided to have a wedding. Having open communication will help you to express how you feel as well as finding out what your partner wants.

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    Inspired by artists from Kandinsky to Mondrian, give your food, tableware and stationery an expressive update. Take inspiration from our modern art themed wedding shoot today. 

    Menu and name tag, both Secret Diary; plates stylist’s own; red-wine glass, Sauvignon Blanc glass (set of 2) and Pinot Noir glass (set of 2), all Wine Essentials; white-and-gold cutlery to hire, Check My China; napkin, Mr Price Home

    Malva pudding with naartjie jelly, chocolate caramel sauce and a caramelised red cardamom sugar crisp, Cakes by Wade

    Save the date, invitation and name tag, all Secret Diary

    Table number, Secret Diary

    Orange pound cake with chocolate filling, Cakes by Wade

    Sign, Secret Diaryfavour box, @home

    Mobile stylist’s own; chairs to hire, Urban Tonic; candles each, Sobeit Studio; candle-holders, Indigenous; menu and name tags, all Secret Diary; white-and-gold cutlery to hire, Check My China; napkins, Mr Price Home; plates stylist’s own; red-wine glass, Sauvignon Blanc glass (set of 2) and Pinot Noir glass (set of 2), all Wine Essentials

    Styling: Francoise Jeanne de Villiers
    Photography: 
    Andreas Eiselen
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    Nowadays, pets have become one of the most important parts of everyday life, so much so that they have even become a part of bigger life events, such as weddings. If you’re planning your big day and would love to have your furbabies join the party, here are a few adorable ways that you can include your pet.

    FLOWER GIRL

    Adorn your furchild with ribbon, dog jersey, tutu or even a flower crown and let them lead the way as you walk down the aisle.

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    RING BEARER

    Give your pet the honour of bringing you the rings, which can be placed securely in a basket or on a ribbon around your their neck. If your pet isn’t well-behaved enough to walk straight down the aisle themselves, ask a family member or friend to assist by walking your furchild to you and your soon-to-be spouse.

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    THEMED SAVE-THE-DATES

    Surprise your future guests with DIY save-the-dates including a photograph of your pet/s that will have them ‘aw-ing’ at the cuteness

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    VIDEOGRAPHER

    Want to get a unique view of your big day? Strap a GoPro camera to your pet’s back and allow them to wander around your wedding venue and amongst your guests. You can look back at it after your big day and share some laughs at what your pet got up to! Ask your official videographer to include the footage in your wedding video.

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    FAMILY PORTRAIT

    If you just want a simple reminder that your pets shared in your day, ask your photographer to take some shots of you and your pets during your shoot time. You can even dress them up in little suits, bow ties, tutus or flower arrangements to have them fit with the theme!

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    Having your pets join you in celebrating your big day is definitely an exciting time, but also remember to be aware of your pet’s personality and behaviour to ensure that they are not overwhelmed or mistreated at the event. If you can, assign a pet-nanny for the day to make sure they are comforted, fed, watered and not getting up to mischief.

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    It seems like an easy option to hire a professional to take care of all the stressful wedding planning while you sit back and supervise, but is it really worth it? There a quite a few advantages and disadvantages to hiring a wedding planner, so we’re here to help you navigate what will be best for you.

    THE PROS

    1. Your wedding will have the magical touch of an expert giving it that extra flair for beauty and glamour.

    2. Planners often know the local market, and already have a contact list of reliable vendors lining up to make your big day amazing. It may be more challenging to do this on your own without prior knowledge or contacts.

    3. Everything down to the last detail will be taken care of, with your input of course. This is a big help when you are short on time.

    THE CONS

    1. Wedding planners’ services can be extremely costly, and if you choose to go for a cheaper option, you may just end up sacrificing quality as well.

    2. You won’t be in full control. This can be especially difficult to handle when you have a certain vision in mind, but try to remember that the wedding planner also wants you to have the perfect day.

    3. The experience of planning a wedding is a special one, and to allow someone else to take charge can often leave you feeling distanced and uninvolved in the process. This can be disappointing, especially if you feel that your day lacks a personal touch.

    Ultimately the choice to (or not to) hire a wedding planner is all yours. If you feel that you may be keen to use a wedding planner for your special day, book consultations with well-known and reliable agencies. But if it’s not for you, try to get others involved in helping you make your dream a reality, as it can become quite overwhelming to do everything yourself.

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    Enchant your guests with a floral seating chart that’s in full bloom! Just be sure to let your stationer know your plan, so that they can create the design accordingly.

    WHAT YOU’LL NEED

    Floral design of your choice
    Cardboard
    Scissors
    Paper punch
    Ribbon
    Floral fabric
    Large polystyrene board
    Flat-head pins

    STEP 1

    Choose a floral design and create seating cards with the table number on the front and guests’ names on the back. Print these on cardboard and cut them out.

    STEP 2

    Punch a hole in the top of each card.

    STEP 3

    Thread a piece of ribbon through, knotting it at the back. Make sure every piece of ribbon is a different length.

    STEP 4

    DIY floral seating chart

    Pin the fabric on to the polystyrene board, ensuring it is stretched taut. You’ll use this as the backboard.Hang each numbered card over the front of the floral board. Pin the ribbon in place at the back.

    Something that is (slowly) becoming a trend, but still offers a unique impression for your guests, is your very own tailor-made wedding website. It is a platform which would showcase your engagement photos and story, the wedding date, time, location and any other need-to-know information. You can also include cute quirks like a wedding day countdown or a short biography of you and your SO. Whatever it is you want, you can make it happen – with the help of a few local experts.

    There is an increasing number of companies which specifically cater to wedding website packages. Creating yours is an extremely fun and interesting task, and is also a great way to spend some quality time with your other half.

    SHIFT EVENTS 

    Shift events in Cape Town offers three different packages (Standard, Advanced and Bespoke), each including a set of services and quirks your website could offer. You can even organise to send your invitations online, have guests RSVP, and even allow your guests to book their accommodation.

    MY WEDDING ONLINE

    This is an affordable online wedding invitation site which also offers multiple packages for you to create the perfect wedding couple’s website. With many features and custom designs to choose from, and a communication system that sends out SMS alerts, you are sure to have everyone gushing over your big day.

    THE WEDDING WEBSITE

    Stunning creations come to life with The Wedding Website, a business dedicated to creating timeless and elegant web pages for brides and grooms to showcase their special day. You will have the opportunity to showcase your engagement, bridal party, add details about your gift registry, and to share all your hopes and dreams with those you love through a unique website.

    MY BIG EVENT

    If you are looking for something simple, My Big Event offers a standard package with add-ons so that can pick and choose all the stunning features you want to include on your website. Besides the staple RSVP option, images and wedding information, they also offer adorable free printables for guest lists, save-the-date cards and mini wedding planners.

    OR YOU CAN DO IT YOURSELF

    If you’re not in the market for something too extravagant, and if you have the time and are feeling creative, you can create a website yourself through free options like WordPress or WIX (which has wedding website templates on hand). It will be a challenge, but a great opportunity to learn a new skill and to save some bucks while still adding vision to your site.

    Photography: @shiftevents_za on Instagram

    SA Weddings and Alexa Lily have teamed up to create the ultimate wedding planner for brides-to-be! Your Bridal Edit contains all the necessities a bride will need to plan her big day. It is also the first planner to hit the South African Market.

    ‘We are incredibly happy that we could partner with a company such as Alexa Lily and create such a magical product for brides-to-be. We’ve seen a gap in the market and we know that this planner will go a long way in helping a bride plan her dream wedding with little stress and so much enjoyment – as it should be,’ says Katherine Ballantyne from SA Weddings

    This incredible planner will help any bride plan her special day in the most simplified way. Think of it as one book that will capture all your to-do lists as well as any other essential planning information.

    So what can you expect from Your Bridal Edit?

    1. Invaluable advice from top wedding industry professionals
    2. An undated calendar year planner (so you can start using Your Bridal Edit anytime of year – right when you get engaged!)
    3. Monthly wedding to-do check-ins
    4. A large space on every weekly spread to write your wedding related notes and to-dos
    5. An incredible MY WEDDING divider with all the content, checklists, and things to remember that you might need to plan your wedding (think space to write down your bridal party names and measurements, your service providers’ details, a two page spread to plan your wedding budget, helpful advice on putting together your seating arrangements, space to write down your important wedding songs, and many many checklists that you never knew you needed)

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    Want to jet off to a tropical island for your ceremony? Or do you have your heart set on the big-city lights? No matter the location, your destination wedding can go as smoothly as checking off this list.

    RESEARCH FIRST

    The legal side of getting married abroad can be quite lengthy and tedious, with many couples opting to get married legally in South Africa before heading overseas to exchange rings and vows. South Africans who want to get married abroad will need a Certificate of No Impediment from Home Affairs to prove that neither partner is registered as married, a divorce order if one of you was previously married and a Residency Certificate to prove where you currently live. Basically, the government of the country you’re visiting needs to be notified of the marriage in their country before you can get married there. Not all countries will have the same requirements, so it’s best to get in touch with your local Home Affairs branch and contact the foreign country’s South African embassy ahead of the time.

    TIMING IS EVERYTHING

    Unfortunately, most popular wedding destinations are also popular vacation spots, which means more tourists and higher prices. Read up on the best time to visit your venue without sacrificing on great weather. It will also make the experience less stressful if you’ve already spent time planning and meeting with your vendors. Hire a local coordinator instead of bringing one from home. You will feel much more at ease knowing they are familiar with the environment, and they’ll also be able to recommend suitable suppliers.

    A PICTURE (AND REVIEW) IS WORTH A THOUSAND WORDS

    If the destination you plan to get married at is a resort or offers accommodation, scour the internet for TripAdvisor reviews. This will give you an overall impression of the establishment and you’ll have the added bonus of being able to see photos that aren’t on their official site.

    ACCESS ALL AREAS

    Try and keep the venue central. Make sure it’s convenient for your guests and organise transport for them to the venue to ensure they get there safe and sound. You can also use a free website builder to help keep your guests in the loop every step of the way – without the hassle of back-and-forth texts, emails and calls. Create a page where people can find helpful answers for accommodation options, budgets and travel time. If you have a relatively small wedding party, you can also create a WhatsApp group in the days leading up to the wedding.

    ULTIMATE ADVENTURE

    Add a couple of planned events around the wedding day so your guests can mingle with each other more and explore the destination. This is a great way to show people places they might not have chosen to go and will help them make a holiday from the trip – they are there to celebrate your union but also want to make their trip worthwhile.

    DISASTER MANAGEMENT

    Ensure your dress, groom’s suit and bridesmaids outfits have been taken care of before you leave home. The last thing you want to do is last-minute sewing! Stay on the safe side and pack your dress and his suit in your carry-on luggage, and ask your bridesmaids and groomsmen to do the same. If your luggage does get lost or arrives late, you can rest assured you have the important bits with you.

    PRETTY PREP

    Make appointments for any beauty treatments you plan on getting before you get there. To ensure you look amazing for your photographs, skip the make-up while flying and make sure you drink a lot of water during the flight. It’s also a good idea to have all your wedding stationery– menus, seating charts and place settings –printed beforehand. Be prepared to add an extra suitcase of decor items you think you may need, as you won’t always find everything you want in a foreign place.

    ALL HANDS ON DECK

    Since you are more than likely only going to invite a small crowd of close family and friends to your destination wedding, you’ll know these are the people who you can rely on. They willwant to help where they can, so instead of taking things into your own hands, delegate certain tasks to those who are keen to lend a hand.

    From the table settings to the dance floor, let your wedding signage be as playful, stylish or whimsical as you are!

    1. IN LOVE WITH THE DANCE FLOOR

    Faced with a plain ol’ dance floor that needs some prettying up? Why not enlist the help of an arty friend to paint a monogram in your wedding colours? It’ll be easy enough to paint over later.

    2. MAKE AN ENTRANCE

    A sheet of acrylic displaying the couple’s names transforms a simple plinth and floral arrangement into a grand welcome gesture.

    3. TROPICAL FEVER

    Embrace the tropical trend with delicious monster leaves for placemats and banana leaves as place settings (write on them with Posca paint markers).

    4. MR & MRS

    A vintage-style metal ampersand light sign makes a cute photo prop.

    5. TOP THIS

    Don’t be tied down by traditional cake toppers! 

    6. PERFECTLY FRAMED

    A simple frame allows your message to blend in with the rest of your wedding decor.

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    Let’s make a toast to food trucks! Whatever would we do without their deliciousness? We’ve rounded up some of our favourites from all across SA to make your catering decision easier.

    DURBAN

    1. Fudart STREATery 

    Just that name is amazing, right? They serve an array of awesome options including, beef burgers, falafel and even Durban bunny chow!

    2. Love Coffee

    This Durban favourite goes about their day making sure locals are getting the caffeine boost they need to keep going all day long. And a good cuppa will also keep the energy high on your big day.

    3. Salted Candy

    You can look forward to exciting and easy-to-eat food including jaffles, old-school fish and chips, gourmet paninis, burgers and bunny chow.

    JOBURG

    1. Culture Kitchen

    They go beyond food norms. You can expect everything from eggs Benedict to trendy pulled pork buns.

    2. Maison Belge

    A tiny slice of heaven, your guests will be lining up for waffles, chocolate, beer and much, much more.

    3. The Brohemian

    Pizza is always a good idea. Always! Enjoy authentic wood-fired pizzas (yes, from their truck!). Another bonus is that all their ingredients are free-range and organically sourced.

    CAPE TOWN

    1. Cosmo Cafe

    Offering food from around the globe, tuck into their home-made Tuscan fettuccini, a New York lox bagel, a Pakistani mince lolly wrap, Thai pork or chicken, and Moroccan tagines and salads. Sold!

    2. The Mad Batter

    Focussing on all things sweet, you can enjoy treats such as waffles on a stick, popcorn, Nutella cigars, double-thick milkshakes, pancakes and cakes.

    3. HeMazing

    Gourmet Indian cuisine? Check! From curry bowls to Indian-style quesadillas, Aloo tikka burgers, chickpea and potato chaat, crispy chicken tikka strips, and even Indian nachos, they’re definitely living up to their name!