• Your first dance as a married couple is a special moment, and you need to the perfect soundtrack. Music is highly personal, and the songs that are chosen to play at a wedding often speak to the unique couple.

    There is a large amount of popular music that is gender-specific. For a couple not into pronouns, this may not be the right fit. Luckily, there are also just as many gender-neutral songs about love that will sum up your relationship.

    Here are a few of our favourites:

    – “Love Me Like You Do,” by Ellie Goulding

    – “At Last,” by Etta James

    – “Butterflies,” by Kacey Musgraves

    – “I’m Yours,” by Jason Mraz

    – “Lucky” by Chelsea Cutler

    – “Come Away With Me,” by Norah Jones

    – “Thinking Out Loud,” by Ed Sheeran

    – “Love on Top,” by Beyoncé

    – “Let’s Stay Together,” by Al Green

    – “I Like Me Better,” by Lauv

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    It’s a new dawn, it’s a new day, it’s a new trend. The wedding world is constantly evolving, and what was hot a few years ago can easily be replaced.

    Whether you want to be on-trend or simply enjoy staying abreast with the latest styles, it’s a good idea to become familiar with the designs predicted to be super popular for wedding cakes in 2021.

    While it may change in size, taste and appearance, cakes will always be a wedding tradition. Here are the styles expected to be big in 2021.

    Gesture cakes / skinny cakes

    Gesture cakes are mini, affordable cakes that still hold the essence of tradition but won’t create a massive hole in your bank account. It’s generally the size of a normal cake one may have at a birthday party. For those having micro-weddings, this option is perfect. With the COVID-19 pandemic, couples will have to downscale their weddings so it makes perfect sense to opt for a smaller cake as well. You won’t have a ton of cake go to waste and get to save some money in the process.

    Keep it simple

    Naked cakes have been all the rage for the last few years, and it seems this trend will not leave. Rustic-inspired cakes adorned with subtle floral detail and greenery will continue to be massively popular, and reflect the paired-down wedding experience of 2021.

    Art deco

    While simple often reigns supreme, we also expect a massive resurgence of 1920s inspired Art Deco cakes. Think geometric shapes, bold lines and rich colours. Darker hues like black, navy and gold work best for this trend.

    Single-serve desserts:

    Throw the cake out of the window and opt for individually-sized desserts. These single portions are easier to serve and reduce the need for multiple hands to touch a knife in order to cut a cake, which is perfect in these times.

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    The world breathed a collective sigh of relief when the clock struck midnight on New Year’s Eve and brought 2020 to an end. As the old year ends a new one begins, bringing with it new trends to try.

    Pantone released its highly anticipated annual Pantone color of the year, coming out with not one but two shades that will dominate trends in 2021.

    The two shades picked are PANTONE 17-5104 Ultimate Gray + PANTONE 13-0647 Illuminating, meant to convey a message of strength and hopefulness that is both enduring and uplifting, perfect for wedding season.

    “PANTONE 17-5104 Ultimate Gray + PANTONE 13-0647 Illuminating, two independent colors that highlight how different elements come together to support one another, best express the mood for Pantone Color of the Year 2021,” the website explains.

    “Practical and rock solid but at the same time warming and optimistic, the union of PANTONE 17-5104 Ultimate Gray + PANTONE 13-0647 Illuminating is one of strength and positivity. It is a story of color that encapsulates deeper feelings of thoughtfulness with the promise of something sunny and friendly.

    “A message of happiness supported by fortitude, the combination of PANTONE 17-5104 Ultimate Gray + PANTONE 13-0647 Illuminating is aspirational and gives us hope. We need to feel that everything is going to get brighter – this is essential to the human spirit.

    “As people look for ways to fortify themselves with energy, clarity, and hope to overcome the continuing uncertainty, spirited and emboldening shades satisfy our quest for vitality. PANTONE 13-0647 Illuminating is a bright and cheerful yellow sparkling with vivacity, a warming yellow shade imbued with solar power. PANTONE 17-5104 Ultimate Gray is emblematic of solid and dependable elements which are everlasting and provide a firm foundation.

    “The colors of pebbles on the beach and natural elements whose weathered appearance highlights an ability to stand the test of time, Ultimate Gray quietly assures, encouraging feelings of composure, steadiness and resilience.”

    While unusual shades at first glance, this yellow and grey pairing has such a sweet message that will be especially meaningful in 2021.

    Yellow bridesmaid dresses, and sunny decor can be calmed down with modern grey touches. They work especially well with outdoor summer and spring weddings.

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    We live in a culture that values “experiences”. These are often promoted in the media, and by those selling them, as vital to enhancing our well-being.

    We all know big life events like marriage, parenthood, job loss and the death of loved one can affect our well-being. But by how much and for how long?

    We set out to measure the effect of major life events – 18 in total – on well-being. To do so we used a sample of about 14,000 Australian adults tracked over 16 years. Some of our results were expected. Others were surprising.

    Overall, our results show good events like marriage improved some aspects of well-being, but bad events like health shocks had larger negative effects. For good and bad events, changes in well-being were temporary, usually disappearing by 3-4 years.

    Here are some of our most interesting findings.

    Happiness versus life satisfaction

    Our study distinguished two different aspects of well-being: “happiness” and “life satisfaction”. Researchers often treat these as the same thing, but they are different.

    Happiness is the positive aspect of our emotions. People’s self-reported happiness tends to be fairly stable in adulthood. It follows what psychologists call “set point theory” – people have a “normal” level of happiness to which they usually return over the long run.

    Life satisfaction is driven more by one’s sense of accomplishment in life. A person can be satisfied, for example, because they have a good job and healthy family but still be unhappy.

    Life events often affect happiness and life satisfaction in the same direction: things that make you happier tend to also improve your life satisfaction. But not always, and the size of the effects frequently differ.

    In the case of having a child, the contrast is stark. Right after the birth, parents are more satisfied but less happy, possibly reflecting the demands of caring for a newborn (eg. sleep deprivation).

    Changes are temporary

    After almost all events (both good and bad), well-being tends to return to a personal set point. This process is known as the hedonic treadmill – as people adapt to their new circumstances, well-being returns to baseline. This has been found in other studies as well.

    The good news is that even after very bad events, most people seem to eventually return to their set-point well-being level. Even after an extremely bad event such as the death of a spouse, people’s well-being generally recovers in two to three years. This doesn’t mean they don’t carry pain from the experience, but it does mean they can feel happy again.

    Bad events affect us more

    The detrimental effects of bad events on well-being outweigh the positive effect of good events. Negative effects also last longer. This is partly because most people are happy and satisfied in general, so there is more “room” to feel worse than better. In fact, we can’t confidently say there is any positive cumulative effect of good events on happiness at all. However, marriage, retirement, childbirth and financial gains all temporarily improve overall life satisfaction.

    Our finding that “losses” hurt more than “gains” mirrors decades of behavioural economics research showing people are generally “loss averse” – going to more effort to avoid losses than to chase gains.

    The bad events that have the largest total effects are death of a spouse or child, financial loss, injury, illness and separation.

    Small, fleeting effects

    Starting a new job, getting promoted, being fired and moving house are events that people often fixate on as either stressful or to be celebrated. But, on average, these don’t seem to affect well-being that much. Their effects are comparatively very small and generally fleeting.

    This could be because of differences in the nature of these events for different people, or that they frequently occur. For example, being fired can be devastating. But for someone close to retirement who receives a large redundancy payment and moves to the coast, it might be a positive experience.

    An important caveat to our study is that it reflects the average experiences of people. There are likely to be some people who experience long-lasting improvements in well-being after good events. There will also be people who experience sustained decreased well-being after bad events. In future work we hope to identify these different people and isolate the characteristics that predict what responses to different events will look like.

    The things that matter

    Our results caution against chasing happiness through positive experiences alone. The impact, if any, seems small and fleeting, as the hedonic treadmill drags us back to our own well-being set point.

    Instead, we might do better by focusing on the things that protect us against feeling devastated by bad events. The most important factors are strong relationships, good health and managing exposure to financial losses.

    In 2020 we might also take consolation from the fact that, although it will take time, our well-being can recover from even the worst circumstances.

    We humans are a resilient bunch.The Conversation

    This article is written by Nathan Kettlewell, Chancellor’s Postdoctoral Research Fellow, Economics Discipline Group, University of Technology Sydney; Nick Glozier, Professor of Psychological Medicine, BMRI & Disciplne of Psychiatry, University of Sydney, and Richard Morris, Research scientist, University of Sydney

    This article is republished from The Conversation under a Creative Commons license. Read the original article.

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