Most, if not all, mothers dream of the day their daughters will walk down the aisle. Often, they also imagine that their little girls will be happy to wear their wedding dresses from decades passed.
While this is an easy ‘yes’ for some brides-to-be, others may be a bit on the fence. Don’t feel bad about it! There is nothing wrong with wanting to be completely original on your special day.
A practice of tradition for some and sentiment for others, wearing your mothers wedding dress can have a lot of meaning behind it. However, you may (like many others) be willing to give up this custom in favour of individuality and self-expression.
To help you weigh up your options, here are some pros and cons of wearing your mother’s wedding dress:
Pros:
– Your mom will be over the moon
This is a beautiful way to honour your mother, and it will definitely make her happier than words can explain. A mother loves to see herself in her daughter.
– Money and time saved
Finding a wedding dress takes a lot of time. It includes several trips to various bridal stores and many fittings too. All of this will vanish if you use your mother’s wedding dress.
You know what else will disappear? The hole in your pocket in the shape of a gown. The money directed towards your dress will dramatically decrease.
– Possibility of alterations
You could alter the dress to keep the pieces of your moms dress that you love, and include parts of a dress that you’d love personally. You could get the best of both worlds.
Cons:
– Less exciting
While shopping may be a big task, it is very exciting. Your girls and your mom, all the special ladies in your life, accompany you to find the dress of your dreams. You may miss out on that experience.
– May make you feel overly cautious
Of course all brides are careful when it comes to their wedding dresses. However, when it’s an heirloom passed down to you, you may feel extra-stiff on your wedding day as you don’t want to spill anything on it or damage it in any way. This could make you a bit uncomfortable on your special day.
– Lack of individuality and orginality
You may feel a bit like it’s not your dress. This will be unpleasant and can put a damper on the day.
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Here are some of the first couples to marry in their country once they were allowed. These are the first legal marriages, people had been living together, in civil unions and holding unofficial ceremonies for years.
Netherlands, 2000
The Netherlands was the first country to legalise same-sex marriage. The law was signed in December and four couples simultaneously became the first to be legally married.
According to BBC, the four couples responded to an advert in Gay Krant, the magazine that led the campaign for equal marriage in the company.
They were married the moment the law came into effect, cementing them as the first.
Canada, 2003
In Canada, same-sex marriage was legalised in different provinces at different times but was made universal in 2005. In Ontario, it has became legal in 2003.
Michael Stark and Michael Leshner became the first couple to be married in June 2003 after the Ontario Court of Appeal upheld a lower court ruling to legally allow such marriages.
Spain, 2005
Spain has a documented same-sex marriage from 1901, and it was legal. This was only because one of the women pretended to be her partners male cousin.
Marcela Gracia Ibeas and Elisa Sánchez Loriga, were married in A Coruña (Galicia, Spain). Elisa took on the false name and male identity Mario Sánchez, which was listed on the marriage certificate.
However, the first legal marriage after a change in the laws was between Emilio Menendez and Carlos Baturin. The two had been together for thirty years before they got hitched.
According to Business Insider, Menendez’s 88-year-old mother Marina was so happy about the wedding she paid for their honeymoon.
South Africa, 2006
Despite having it in the constitution that South Africans can’t be discriminated against on the basis of their sexuality, same-sex marriage was only legalised in 2006.
The first couple to marry under this new law were Vernon Gibbs and Tony Halls who exchanged vows at the Home Affairs in George, Western Cape.
The occasion was joyous, despite the two death threats the couple received before the wedding.
Argentina, 2010
Alex Freyre and José María Di Bello were not only the first to be married but were actually legally married before same-sex marriage became legal across the country.
Their marriage sparked much debate as they were originally given permission to marry by a judge in Buenos Aires gave them permission to marry on November 20 2009, but that decision was overturned by a national judge on November 23. This was then again overturned by the Buenos Aires judge the next day.
Eventually they were given permission by the governor of Ushuaia.
The next year in 2010, President Cristina Fernandez de Kirchner officially signed equal gay marriage rights into law for the entire country.
England and Wales, 2014
England and Wales legalised same-sex marriage in March 2014.
United States, 2015
The different states in the United States legalised same-sex marriage at different times.
The first legal same-sex marriage happened in 2004 in Massachusetts after the state’s Supreme Court overturned its ban. Marcia Kadish and Tanya McCloskey married a year after this ban was overturned.
However, it was only in 2015 that same-sex marriage was legalised across the country after a landmark legal case.
Many took the opportunity across the country to get married on the same day as the ruling passed.
Germany, 2017
Germany legalised same-sex marriage in 2017, with the first same-sex wedding took place in the same month.
Karl Kreile and Bodo Mende, who had been together for 38 years, got married in the town hall of Schöneberg, Berlin.
Australia, 2017
Australia legalised same-sex marriage in 2017 after a voluntary postal survey of all Australians resulted in 61.6% of respondents supporting legalisation of same-sex marriage.
The first same-sex wedding was held on 15 December 2017 when Jill Kindt and Jo Grant tied the knot. Sadly, they were only married for 48 days as Jo had been terminally ill with cancer and died in January 2018. The two had been together eight years before their wedding.
Taiwan, 2019
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Brides and grooms can attend this virtual fair to get expert help on everything wedding, from wedding cakes, dresses, photographers, catering, venues, wedding planners, and much more, all from the comfort of your couch.
How it works:
On the day of the event, you will use your Registration Username & Password to enter the Virtual Bridal Fair. Attendees will then work their way through each exhibitors page, interacting with those you wish to, entering the competitions and so on.
There are three ‘halls’ featuring approximately 30-50 suppliers depending on province. Exhibitors at the Virtual Bridal Fair will be available to chat to brides and grooms via Live Chat channels. There is also the Bridal & Bridesmaids Gowns Show, showcasing a number of designs from local bridal boutiques and dressmakers, as well as the Bridal Information Pack Area.
You will also find the Magazine zone and the Quick Quote System – On the last page you will be able to click on the exhibitor booth of any particular exhibitor to go back to ‘find out more’ etc.
The SA Virtual Bridal Fairs events will take place on the following dates:
Sunday 17th May – KZN
Sunday 24th May – Gauteng
Sunday 31st May – Western Cape
Sunday 14th June – Free State
Sunday 21st June – Mpumalanga
Sunday 28th June – Eastern Cape
To attend, simply register on the Bridal Fairs website and purchase your tickets. Each Registration Pass recipient will also receive a free Bridal Information Pack which includes the 75+ page Wedding Planning Template Bundle, the Wedding Planning Roadmap, the Weddings Suppliers Printable Directory, the SA Bridal Deals Ebook and more.
Purchase your tickets HERE. Early bird tickets cost as little as R25.
Visit the SA Bridal Fairs website for more information.
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