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    In most cases, DIY is the cheaper and more fun option. Do you really need any other reason to take up a DIY project? If you do, we’re giving you one. A DIY wedding bouquet is not only quick and easy to do, but it also adds an extra special personal touch to your wedding day.

    Imagine walking down the aisle, seeing your love await you at the end. You’re already beaming with pride. Now, you get to add to that pride, knowing that the bouquet you’re carrying was hand-made by you!

    If you’re considering building your bouquet from scratch, here’s how to do it:

    – You have options, use them 

    While you may have to stick to one vendor for other aspects of your wedding, with flowers you can mix and match. This means you can go to your local market (or several markets) and hand-pick your bouquet flowers, which makes it all the more special. Choose the ones that feel perfect to you.

    -Look for inspiration on Pinterest 

    Before you go shopping, be sure you have an idea of what you’d like. This will make picking the flowers much less overwhelming when you’re there. Also keep seasonality in mind.

    – Prepare your flowers

    Once you’ve got a hold of the blooms that will make up your bouquet, remove the foliage from the stems using your hands or a stem stripper. If you’ve chosen roses, ensure that you’ve removed the thorns. Next you’ll trim the stems to ensure that they are all the same length.

    – Organise the bouquet 

    Choose about 4 flowers for the base of your bouquet, then wrap their stems together (preferably with floral tape). Ensure that you have left some exposed stem at the bottom.

    – Add as you please 

    To create your dream bouquet, add more flowers around the base flowers. Keep things like texture and colour in mind as you add, and wrap with floral tape at each layer.

    Wrap and Pin 

    Once you have decided your bouquet is perfect, give it one final wrapping of floral tape and leave some exposed stem at the top and bottom. Next, using ribbon to cover the floral tape, wrap the stems once more and pin it when you’re done.

    – Preserve

    Once the bouquet is prepped and read, over it in tissue and store it in the refrigerator. This will keep it looking fresh until you’re ready to walk down the aisle.

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    While the ongoing pandemic has caused many a cancelled wedding and much disapointment, one thing is for certain: it has also brought out the creativity in many. A Detriot couple made the most of it by posing for a pandemic-themed photoshoot in an abandoned building to keep with the times.

    Matthew Engelke and Lilly Ayrapetryan (now Engelke), tied the knot on March 20. Their orginal plan was to marry at a courthouse in April, but their plans fell through as the pandemic intensified.

    Instead, they brought their wedding date up and teamed up with their friend, photographer Scott Sprague, to have a pandemic-themed wedding and photoshoot. Not even coronavirus could put a stop to their nuptials, and they even incorporated it into their ceremony.

    Sprague did an amazing job of capturing their special day. Photos show the couple wearing real gas masks, looking eerie, but still loved-up, in the creepy building.

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    “My favorite photo is one with the gas masks and in between them reads a message that states, ‘What we need in the world is more love,'” said Sprague to the Daily Mail.

    “I had this whole idea to pay homage to the American Gothic picture in my head, which has a couple wearing white and black, just like a wedding with a bride and groom.

    “So we created this whole story with the wedding photos for art, saying this is where they now live due to the pandemic.”

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    The fight for the legalisation of same-sex marriages has been a long and difficult one, one that is still ongoing in many parts of the world. Slowly, however, global support for the cause has seen an increase.

    Same-sex marriage has been in legal in South Africa since 2006, making it the first African country to do so. However, this did not come easy.

    In April 1994, the post-apartheid interim constitution came into effect. Within it was the Bill of Rights, which stated that “No person shall be unfairly discriminated against, directly or indirectly, and, without derogating from the generality of this provision, on one or more of the following grounds in particular: race, gender, sex, ethnic or social origin, colour, sexual orientation, age, disability, religion, conscience, belief, culture or language.”

    This was the first bill in the world which prohibited discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation. Yet, it would be years before same-sex marriage was allowed in the country.

    According to SouthAfrica.To, the country slowly became more accepting of members of the LBGTQ community. In 1999, immigrant partners of LGBTQ citizens were allowed to apply for residence in the country. Three years later, in 2002, the Constitutional Court made a ruling allowing LGBTQ couples to jointly adopt.

    In the same year, on October 18, Marie Fourie and Celia Bonthuys launched an application, supported by the Lesbian and Gay Equality Project, for same-sex marriages to be legalised and registered. The application was dismissed by Pretoria High Court judge Pierre Roux on the basis that the couple had not properly criticized the constitutionality of the existing marriage law.

    After much back and forth with both the Constitutional Court and the Supreme Court of Appeal (SCA), their appeal was finally heard by the SCA ,which handed down its judgement on November 30, 2004. The SCA ruled in favour of the couple, noting that the common law definition of marriage, at the time, was invalid as it unconstitutionally discriminated on the basis of sexual orientation. However, on a technicality, the court could not invalidate the Marriage Act, which meant that their marriage could not be immediately solemnized. This matter was then taken to the Constitutional Court.

    At the same time, the Lesbian and Gay Equality Project launched a lawsuit which contested the constitutionality of the Marriage Act in the Johannesburg High Court. This was later heard by the Constitutional Court in conjunction with the Fourie and Bonthuys case.

    On December 1, 2005, the Constitutional Court ruled that the Marriage Act was discriminatory and unjustifiable. Justice Albie Sachs said: “The exclusion of same-sex couples from the benefits and responsibilities of marriage, accordingly, is not a small and tangential inconvenience resulting from a few surviving relics of societal prejudice destined to evaporate like the morning dew. It represents a harsh if oblique statement by the law that same-sex couples are outsiders, and that their need for affirmation and protection of their intimate relations as human beings is somehow less than that of heterosexual couples. It reinforces the wounding notion that they are to be treated as biological oddities, as failed or lapsed human beings who do not fit into normal society, and, as such, do not qualify for the full moral concern and respect that our Constitution seeks to secure for everyone. It signifies that their capacity for love, commitment and accepting responsibility is by definition less worthy of regard than that of heterosexual couples.”

    Thereafter, parliament was given a year to change the definition of marriage (which originally stated that the union was between husband and wife). Should they not complete the task in time, the law would automatically be altered to include LGBTQ unions.

    In September 2006, many South Africans protested against same-sex marriage, as the Civil Union Bill had been approved by the Cabinet the month before. In November, a day before the final reading of the bill in the National Assembly, the Defence Minister Mosiuoa Lekota spoke in favour of it. “The roots of this bill lie in many years of struggle…This country cannot afford to be a prison of timeworn prejudices which have no basis in modern society. Let us bequeath to future generations a society which is more democratic and tolerant than the one that was handed down to us,” said Lekota.

    The next day, on November 14, the bill was passed by the National Assembly. It was then signed into law on November 29. South Africa’s first same-sex marriage, between Vernon Gibbs and Tony Halls, took place days later, on December 1.

    Ten years after the legalisation of same-sex marriages in South Africa, in 2016, the first traditional same-sex wedding took place, according to Insider. Tshepo Cameron Modisane and Thoba Calvin Sithol married and combined their Zulu and Twana traditions in their ceremony, reported the Huffington Post.

    While same-sex marriage has indeed been legalised in the country, many still struggle with violence and acceptance. In 2011, GlobalPost claimed that South Africa was one of the worst countries in which to identify as LGBTQ+. They cited high rates of murder and rape as a danger to the community.

    Additionally, at the time when same-sex marriages were legalised, an exemption was added in the marriage law to allow religious institutions and civil officers to refuse to conduct same-sex marriage ceremonies.

    While Parliament adopted the Civil Union Amendment Bill in 2018, which repeals the allowance for marriages officers to refuse to marry couples, venues have still denied couples access on these grounds.

    Examples of this have occurred as recently as this year, when a Western Cape wedding venue, Beloftebos, refused to allow a same-sex couple to hold their ceremony on the premises. Legal action was taken immediately and the court-case is still ongoing, with the venue recently filing a case for discrimination.

    Clearly, the struggle of social acceptance continues in South Africa. However, should a same-sex couple want to get married, they are fully allowed to do so according to the law.

    Find the full Con Court ruling for the Fourie case here.

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    Remaining friends with an ex is never easy. We imagine it’s much more difficult if the split is highly publicised, like those of celebrities. Since these break ups often cause rumours, gossip and tabloid headlines for days, all the talk can lead to the eventual cutting of ties.

    While this may be the case for many, some celebrity splits are quite amicable. Some remain close as they have kids together, while others simply are better as friends than they are as a couple. Whatever the reason, some celebrities have kept close to their exes after they’ve ended their relationship.

    Here are some famous exes who have remained friends:

    – Lisa Bonet and Lenny Kravitz 

    Since their divorce in 1993, the pair have remained close since they have a daughter together (Zoë Kravitz). What makes this post-divorce bond even more special, however, is that Bonet’s current husband, Aquaman actor Jason Momoa is friends with Kravitz too. According to MSN, Kravitz and Momoa share matching rings, which were bought by Momoa in 2018.

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    – Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin 

    Paltrow and Martin split in 2014 (which they called a “concious uncoupling”). They are still tight due to the two children they share together. Paltrow is now married to Brad Falchuk, and Martin was invited (along with their kids) to accompany them on their honeymoon. Talk about staying close!

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    – Mindy Kaling and B.J Novak 

    This pair are thick as thieves! While they played an on-screen couple in the popular TV show The Office, they also had an on-again-off-again romance in reality. After that ended, they remained so close that Kaling gave Novak the honour of being godfather to her daughter who was born in 2019. She told Good Housekeeping that Novak is a “member of the family”.

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    – Demi Moore and Bruce Willis 

    This couple were divorced in 2000. Since they share three daughters, they remained close and have clearly made an effort to remain amicable for the sake of their children. Rumer Willis, their daughter, said they she never had split up holidays or birthdays, according to In Style. “They always made an effort to do all of the family events still together and made such an effort to still have our family be as one unit,” she said.

    On top of that, they also seem to have a very friendly relationship, and Moore was one of the roasters at Willis’ Comedy Central Roast.

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    – Nina Dobrev and Ian Somerhalder 

    The Vampire Diaries co-stars dated for about three years, and broke up in 2013. Thereafter, Somerhalder married actress Nikki Reed with whom he shares a child. Dobrev has maintained a friendship with both Somerhalder and Reed.

    Dobrev said that there is nothing weird about their friendship, E! reported. “Why can’t everyone be friends?  I think that they have a beautiful baby, and they are happy and so am I, and what’s bad about that? I don’t see any problem with that,” she said.

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    – Chris Pratt and Anna Farris 

    After being married for 9 years, the pair got divorced in 2018. Since they share a child together, they have found a way to remain friends. “Divorce sucks, but at the end of the day, we’ve got a great kid who’s got two parents who love him very much,” said Pratt to Entertainment Weekly in 2018.

    “We’re finding a way to navigate this while still remaining friends and still being kind to one another,” he said.

    Since then, Pratt has remarried, and he and Farris have solidified their post-divorce friendship. When he proposed to his now wife Katherine Schwarzenegger, Farris expressed her excitement on her podcast, reported Insider.

    “Chris texted me this morning and he was like, you know, ‘I proposed to Katherine last night,'” she said. “I was like ‘Ah! That’s amazing.’ And I texted him back: ‘Just want to remind you, I’m an ordained minister.”

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    In China, large gatherings including weddings remain suspended due to the coronavirus pandemic. Some couples are no longer willing to wait for the resumption of normal activities to follow through with their nuptials. One Chinese netizen couple, decided to get married in an online game called Final Fantasy.

    The couple, who go by web names Jigen and Nora, planned their wedding for May 17. It should have been at a hotel in Shanghai. However, due to the COVID-19 complications, they decided that they would cancel the ceremony.

    While their original plans were forced to be called off, they quickly decided on a new plan. They would get married on an online game called Final Fantasy.

    “The idea of having a wedding as an online game was not sudden. We are crazy about games and many close friends also play games together, so after thinking for a while, we decided to celebrate our wedding online,” Jigen told Global Times.

    On May 17, the online wedding commenced. They invited over 30 of their friends to attend and the entire thing was livestreamed using a Chinese broadcasting platform for those who were not account holders in the game.

    Those attending the wedding were required to arrive at the cathedral in a timely manner. To ensure this happened, the couple assisted their guests in beating online enemies and took them to the cathedral in the game. Jigen joked that the real meaning of friendship is when people “risk their lives” to attend your wedding.

    Once everyone had virtually arrived and the special moment came, the couple exchanged rings in front of their computers and played the ceremony out in the game.

    “After spending two weeks preparing the wedding in the game, including buying costumes for game characters, my wife and I wore our pajamas sitting in front of two computers in the study, and she did not even have any makeup on during the whole ceremony,” Jigen  told the Global Times.

    The pair have no intentions of having a “real” wedding in the future. Jigen told Global Times that a wedding simply symbolises a new beginning, and to him the Final Fantasy wedding did just that.

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    The ring bearer is possibly one of the most adorable wedding traditions in existence. A young boy in a fitted suit carries the wedding rings down the aisle and hands them to the couple getting married at the altar.

    Since these precious rings are not to be lost, the ring bearer often carries symbolic rings rather than the real wedding bands. This is common practice in today’s rendition of the ring bearers duties as they are often little boys under the age of 10.

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    While it is a much-loved tradition at weddings, the history of this practice is quite difficult to pinpoint. There are a few different theories about where this tradition comes from.

    Most commonly, people believe that the practice has its roots in ancient Egypt where valuable jewels were carried on ornamental pillows during wedding ceremonies. According to Black n Bianco, it was adults who carried the rings down the aisle, rather than little children.

    Others believe that the ring bearer stems from the Medieval times. During this period, Northern Europeans would present a ring to a bride on the tip of a sword, according to Saphire Events Group. A page boy would carry the bride’s train down the aisle, while holding a Bible. From here, the tradition developed.

    Since pillows were reportedly a symbol of wealth at the time, some families replaced the sword with a pillow and the page boy was given the responsibility of carrying it down the aisle.

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    In the Victorian Era, the tradition became even more popular. Little boys in possession of the ring would wear suits with velvet jackets, short trousers and round linen collars, according to Black n Bianco.

    Today, the tiny “ring security guards” often sport suits which are similar to that of the groomsmen. Many couples have even enlisted the help of their pets for ring bearing purposes.

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    American model and actress Cindy Crawford celebrated her 22nd wedding anniversary with husband, businessman and former model, Rande Gerber on Saturday, May 30. To celebrate the special occasion, their daughter, Kaia, gifted them with a homemade cake.

    As many do, Crawford took to Instagram to mark the momentous occasion. Alongside a throwback photo showing the pair feeding each other cake at their 1998 wedding, she wrote a sweet message.

    “Happy anniversary @randegerber! 22 years ago we went to the Bahamas with a group of family and friends to celebrate saying “I do!” I love you and the life we have together. Thanks for doing this thing called life with me—couldn’t imagine doing it with anyone else. Here’s to many more!,” she said.

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    Gerber posted his own celebratory message on Instagram too. Accompanied by another throwback photo, Gerber wrote “22 years ago I convinced @cindycrawford to fly away with me and I haven’t let go since. Happy Anniversary ?❤️”.

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    As an anniversary gift Gerber gave Crawford a beautiful bouquet of flowers, which she posted to her Instagram story.

    To top it all off, the couple’s 18-year-old daughter, Kaia Gerber, prepared a special cake for her parents’ anniversary. She decorated the cake with Crawford and Gerber’s original wedding cake toppers. How thoughtful!

    The pair have been self-isolating in their Los Angeles home, where they spent their anniversary. However, it seems it was a special day nonetheless!

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    When you really think about it, the idea of walking down the aisle carrying a bunch of flowers seems a bit odd. Perhaps for decorative purposes it works, but one could argue its a bit random and inconvenient, and serves to block the full view of the main attraction – the wedding gown – as well.

    Yet, you’d be hard-pressed to find a bride without a bouquet, or at least some form of it. Many consider it to be an essential part of the bride’s look.

    While we can all agree that the bouquet does add a touch of natural beauty which is unmatched, this is not the reason brides carry bunches of blossoms. Like most other wedding traditions, the practice is rooted in reasoning from centuries passed.

    In Ancient Rome, brides would carry flowers as they were believed to signify new beginnings, fidelity and hope of fertility, according to Modern Wedding. Bouquets, however, were not always made up of flowers.

    Herbs took preference for brides in the Middle Ages. Dill and garlic were most commonly used as they were said to ward off evil spirits and bad luck, according to Readers Digest. Reportedly, the dill would make a second appearance on the wedding day – during the feast – to prepare the newlyweds for the consumation of their marriage since it is considered an aphrodisiac.

    Later on, during the Victorian Era, the act of giving and receiving flowers came to be known as an expression of love. As they were then linked to love and romance, they increasingly became incorportated into weddings.

    Since then, it seems the practice has stuck and is not going anywhere either. Flowers are incorporated into weddings through bouquets, table decorations, and much more.

    There is a popular myth that has been reported by many publications, including Bustle, which that claims another reason for the bouquet in the 15th century was to mask the smell of the bride.

    This claim is based on the fact that, in those times, people only had one bath per year. Huffington Post reported that June was the most popualr month for weddings and most women took their annual bath in May.

    According to Snopes, an online fact checking resouce, this is not true. Brides have never carried a bouquet to mask their smell.

    “Although the modern practice of full-immersion bathing was a long way off in the 1500s (among other reasons because filling a vessel large enough to hold a person with heated water was rather impractical given the effort required to collect fresh water and fuel for heating it), people did still “bathe” in the sense of attempting to clean themselves as best they could with the resources at hand,” explains Snopes.

    “Although today’s brides carry flowers simply because it is now the custom to do so, at one time bridal bouquets were symbols of sexuality and fertility. Covering up anyone’s bad smell played no part in why this custom came into being.”

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    Dancehall musician Sean Paul and his wife Jodi “Jinx” Stewart Henriques celebrated their 8th wedding anniversary yesterday, May 27.

    The pair, like many others, couldn’t do much to mark the occassion on account of the coronavirus pandemic. However, Stewart made sure to honour the day with a funny photo on Instagram.

    The photo shows the couple on their wedding day, with Paul glancing lovingly at his new wife as she strikes a silly pose.  “It was at this very moment that he realized he should have run!!! Thanks for sticking it out with me @duttypaul. I promise to always keep things exciting!!! Happy Anniversary Married 8 years, Engaged 1 1/2 years, Dating 8 years,” she wrote.

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    According to Stewarts caption, the pair have been together for 17 and a half years now.

    They made it official on May 26, 2012 at Boon Hall Oasis in Stony Jill – Kingston, Jamaica, according to Dancehall Mag.

    It has been reported that the ceremony was extremely low-key and private. Sources said that staff, wedding vendors, and guests were required to sign contracts declaring that they would not leak any information about the event. Dancehall Mag reported that guests were only given information about the wedding location mere hours before the ceremony.

    Paul and Stewart now have two children together, and they couldn’t be happier!

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    Weddings don’t necessarily have to be in fancy hotels or expensive halls. They can be beach-side, river-side, or anywhere you’d like. Similarly, the reception doesn’t have to be super formal. It could be more relaxed too. A picnic wedding is a great option for those looking for something more simple.

    Since this type of reception is not the most common, you may feel a bit lost when it comes to planning. You need not worry! It’s more simple than you think, as long as you know where to start.

    If you’re considering a picnic wedding, here’s how to go about the planning:

    – Size and Location 

    Consider where you’d like to host your picnic wedding. Is it in a park, river-side, by the beach or on the lawn in your garden?

    If you have a large amount of guests, you’ll have to think about the size of the space and whether everyone will be comfortably accommodated. For example, a backyard picnic will not work out well if you’re having 150 guests.

    Another important factor is whether you’re allowed to have events in your desired location. Often, you may need a permit to host an event in a location such as a public park. Before you start making big plans and spending any money, get in contact with a municipal official to find out how you should go about hosting the event.

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    – Decor 

    Since you’re likely to be outdoors for the picnic, decor needs to be done cleverly.

    Ensure that you’re using decorations that are not harmful to the environment, and which are easily disposable to prevent littering.

    You’ll also want to make contact with vendors who provide items such as cutlery and crockery, so that they can advise you on the most appropriate items to use at your reception. The last thing you want is broken plates and inconveniently sized items which make eating outdoors difficult. They’ll also be able to advise you on transportation of these items, since you won’t be in a hall or similar venue, the logistics may be slightly more complicated. Be prepared for that.

    Additionally, a picnic often means you’ll be sitting on the ground or much lower down than you would at a normal table. Find ways to make seating picnic appropriate but still comfortable for guests. Perhaps low tables with comfy pillows for sitting on is a good place to start.

    Finally, take the surroundings into account. You could save big on items such as flowers and table decorations if you make proper use of the area you’re surrounded by.

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    – Food 

    Ensure that you choose picnic-appropriate food. You wouldn’t want it to be too difficult for your guests to indulge in the treats you provide for them. Finger foods are a good start, but a caterer will be able to advise you on meal options that are best suited for the type of event you’re having.

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    – Weather 

    A picnic in the rain is not the most pleasant experience. A picnic wedding is best in the summer time. However, if you’re getting married in the autumn months try to find a way to cover your guests, for example by creating a tented area in your chosen location.

    It may be cute to supply blankets for later in the day when it starts to get a bit chilly, and it will show that you considered your guests while planning the wedding.

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