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    Weddings have become sites of super-spreader events amid the COVID-19 pandemic. Despite this, couples and guests continue to ignore safety regulations.

    Mikayla and Anthony Bishop had their wedding in October 2020 and almost half of their guests contracted the COVID-19 virus. When Mikayla was walking down the aisle, she immediately noticed that despite her provision and distribution of masks, almost no one was wearing one.

    Two weeks after the wedding, 32 of the 83 guests that attended the wedding had tested positive for the virus, including three of the couple’s grandparents. She and her husband, Anthony, also contracted the virus.

    “I didn’t think that almost half of our wedding guests were gonna get sick,” Mikayla told the Washington Post. “You’re in the moment. You’re having fun. You don’t think about covid anymore.”

    On the venue’s Facebook page, photos of the wedding decorations and safety measures were posted. In the first photo, there is a basketful of hand sanitizer bottles for guests beside a container holding disposable white masks.

    In a statement, a spokesperson for Brian Kruse, the recreation director with Blue Ash Parks who oversees the venue where the wedding was held, said the facility had signs indicating guests must wear a mask and are to consume all food and beverages while seated, among other precautions.

    On the day of the wedding, it was only the couple’s grandparents who wore masks at all times, yet they tested positive for the virus, and two spent time in the emergency room with severe symptoms.

    The couple experienced symptoms on their honeymoon. Soon, they started getting calls about more and more guests testing positive. They decided to tell their story in hopes of warning others against holding large weddings.

    “Every single day we’re getting a call. Oh here’s another person. Here’s another person. Here’s another person,” Mikayla said. “And it starts to take a toll on you.”

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    In South Africa, there are only three types of marriages that are recognised by the law. Those are civil marriages, customary marriages, and civil unions.

    Whichever marriage you are going to register under, there is a protocol to follow and there are specific documents and forms to submit to the Department of Home Affairs.

    When you enter into a civil marriage or civil union, the marriage officer will issue a handwritten marriage certificate free of charge at the ceremony, but you will have to apply for a copy of the marriage certificate from the Department of Home Affairs. Your first abridged marriage certificate is free.

    After your wedding, it is advised that you report within two to three days of the marriage taking place but with customary law, you can take up to three months to have it legally registered.

    You must go to your local marriage officer with all the necessary documents and ensure that they are certified.

    What do you need?

    – Fingerprints (left thumbprint) of the bride and groom

    -Three ID size photos (preferably in colour) of the bride

    -Three ID size photos (preferably in colour) of the groom

    -Certified copy of the bride’s green ID or Passport

    -Certified copy of the groom’s green ID or Passport

    -Certified copy of the ID with the address and telephone number of the TWO witnesses

    -Proof of residence

    Pro tips

    – Purchase a small stamp pad for the purpose like those used in Trodat stamp pads

    -Keep tissues handy (to wipe fingers, not tears!)

    -Take fingerprints and collect all documentation at the wedding rehearsal and NOT on the wedding day

    – Make sure that you have all the necessary paperwork, photos, and fingerprints before the wedding commences

    – Go change the names on passport and ID documents as soon as possible

    -It is convenient to have the last will and testament and all other legal matters concluded at the time of the marriage.

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    Finding your dream dress is always a special moment, but when it’s out off your price range that dream turns into a nightmare. Luckily, this bride was able to get her gown thanks to an unlikely celebrity source.

    A woman went on social media and posted about an A-line dress from David’s Bridal with floral details and removable neckline sleeves that she fell in love with, but also mentioned that she could not afford it.

    “I’m getting married in March and trying to move home,” Twitter user Ireanna wrote. “Excited but overwhelmed. I saved some money, but it’s still a struggle. I found the dress of my dreams and want to have it so badly, but come in saving for the move, I don’t think it will be possible.”

    She then asked her followers to consider donating to her Cash app to help make her dream come true. Out of the people that the tweet reached, Missy Elliot responded with: “Congratulations early on. God bless you both with an unbreakable Union full of love and happiness”.

    Ireanna was overjoyed about Missy’s response and invited the star to her wedding. Missy responded by telling her that she has paid for her dress.

     

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    It seems that the iconic singer has a heart for charity as another Twitter user commented that Missy has paid for her dog’s surgery.

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    Itumeleng Khune and Siphelele Makhunga have reached an exciting milestone. The Kaizer Chiefs goalkeeper and his beautiful wife have officially been married for one year.

    The sports star ‘put a ring on it’ in 2019, but they have been a couple for three years.

    “3 years of loving each other down, Forever to go. Happy Anniversary my love?” Makhunga wrote on Instagram to mark their two special anniversaries.

    While he didn’t make a post of his own, Khune commented of his partner’s post: “Here’s to more years wifey.”

     

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    The pair have a nine-month-old baby together.

     

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    Your wedding day is the one day that you get to live out your fantasies. All the things you dreamt of when you were young can come true on this special day.

    A unity ceremony is not necessary if it is not what you want, but it might be an option that’s the perfect fit for you and your partner, whether you’re looking for something religious, historical, or sentimental.

    What is a ‘unity ceremony’?

    A unity ceremony is a symbolic ritual intertwined with the wedding ceremony.  They are meaningful rituals performed during your wedding to represent becoming a union.

    Normally, a unity ceremony allows for other family members to participate as well, furthering its meaning and representation of two families joining together.

    Light A Candle

    This one is the most traditional and common option, so it’s perfect for couples who want something a bit more classic. Before the ceremony, three candles are placed on the altar: two taper candles and one large candle—the “unity candle”—in the middle. At the beginning of the ceremony, a member from each family – traditionally the mothers – lights one of the taper candles before you exchange vows.

    Take A Shot

    If you and your partner like taking the time to appreciate your drinks or want an excuse to calm the nerves in the middle of your ceremony, you could go straight for taking a shot of your favorite alcohol. This will have a deeper meaning for both of you.

    Unity sand

    This is a ceremony that is best when the whole family does it. The idea behind the sand ceremony is that, when poured together, the grains of sand will blend, and they are not easily separated from one another. You can use coloured sand, or sand from meaningful locations.

    Love letters

    The most sentimental ceremony hands down, is the love letters. The couple would have written love letters to each other, they take these and lock them in a box with a bottle of wine and some wine glasses.

    They are only allowed to open the box on their first anniversary, share the wine, and read the letters you wrote for each other.

    Jumping the broom

    In this old wedding ceremony tradition, the couple hast heir hands bound together before they jump over the broom, which signifies leaving their single lives behind and jumping into their new married future together.

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    Across the world, countries are enforcing social distancing rules and regulations to protect citizens amid the COVID-19 pandemic. In Queensland, one of their rules for social distancing is currently specifying that you can have a public or private gathering of up to 40 people.

    According to a Snapchat story that is now circulating online, two friends came up with an idea to abide by the rules and still party, and it appears that they legally tied the knot so that they could party with 100 of their friends.

    Two pictures from the big day were posted on Brown Cardigan’s Facebook page, showing one attendee of the wedding who couldn’t believe they were actually witnessing a legal wedding.

    The two men held hands during the ceremony as a the officiant conducted the ceremony. What happened before and after this image remains a mystery.

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    Your bridesmaid is usually responsible for making sure you have your bouquet and keeping a makeup bag handy. Not this bridesmaid though. She arranged an actress to come and prank the groom during the ceremony by pretending to be a pregnant lover.

    A video currently trending online shows a ‘pregnant’ woman wearing a prosthetic pregnancy vest before crashing the private ceremony. In the prank, the actress accused the groom of getting her pregnant.

     

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    The bride was shocked but she kept calm, and when the pregnant lover went into ‘labour’ she called for help.

    The actress then pulled out her fake stomach and they told the couple it was just a prank. Both bride and groom were stunned by the drama, until all of them burst into laughter.

    Now, that’s one way to have a memorable wedding.

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    There are many different venues and locations to host your wedding. Some prefer destination weddings, or indoor weddings, while others wish to say ‘I do’ while at sea.

    A boat wedding can be anything from a yacht, a small boat, or a cruise ship. Boats come in different sizes, and it depends on which one you think is best for your special day.

    If you’re leaning towards exchanging vows on board, you may want to consider the pros and cons below in order to understand what you’re getting yourself into and whether it’s the right choice for you personally.

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    The pros:

    Affordability

    Cruise weddings are generally affordable for yourself and your guests. Many cruise lines offer a range of packages per guest. Most things like the decor and catering is included in the package, so you won’t have to fork out extra for decorations.

    You can request to adjust the packages to fit in with your wedding budget and the budget of your guests.

    Accommodation and Food

    The getaway wedding on cruise ships already comes with space to do everything. There are bars, restaurants and sleeping cabins.

    Yacht weddings often have a whole team of vendors they work with which might make you feel more at ease.

    Beautiful views

    If you have a wedding onboard, no matter what kind of boat you take, you are guaranteed views.

    The Cons:

    Small spaces

    Depending on the type of boat you are using, space could be limited. The floors usually carry no more than 50 people maximum.

    Sickness

    Some people suffer from sea sickness, so you might have a case of illness on your hands and that could derail the proceedings. You will also probably need to pay for the first response services.

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    Some weddings are so extravagant they deserve an award. This three-day luxurious Indian wedding in Dubai was so spectacular that it has received a famed international award for wedding planners.

    The wedding won the ‘Wedding Concept Award’ at the Belief Awards, an online contest created to celebrate wedding Planners and designers around the globe. Winners were chosen by a panel of judges selected by Belief Wedding Creators.

    The 13th edition of the awards crowned wedding planners Rahul Kumar and Arun Bablani, from Vivaah Weddings for their extravegant three-day celebration they hosted for couple Prerna and Shaun.

    In 2019, the couple said ‘I do’ in a stunning ceremony in Dubai. The bride and groom are both of Indian descent, and wanted a glamorous wedding infused with tradition.

    The multi-day celebration began with a welcome dinner and afterparty on the first day, followed by the Mehendi afternoon and Sangeet evening on the second day. The couple tied the knot on the third day of celebrations, which ended with a glamorous reception in the evening.

    The celebrations were spread across venues like the Hilton, V Hotel and Habtoor Palace, and featured 350 guests.

    Take a look at their special day:

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    South Africa has quite a high rate of divorce. According to Stats SA, four out of ten marriages end in divorce before their tenth anniversary. The truth is, nobody wants their story to end in a separation, but sometimes you have no other choice.

    DivorceLaws.co.za, a website established by Family Law and Divorce Lawyer Bertus Preller at Maurice Philips Wisenberg in Cape Town and author of the book Everyone’s Guide To Divorce and Separation, published data about divorce in South Africa. According to the website, the divorce rate declined from 2017 to 2018 but despite this, the numbers remain high.

    Data based on 25 284 divorce forms obtained by Stats SA showed a decline of 0.4% (from 25 390 in 2017 to 25 284 in 2018). Most divorce proceedings are started by women.

    “The 2018 data reveal that more wives than husbands, 13 218 (52,3%) women in comparison to 8 791 (34,8%) men started divorce proceedings and 1 523 (6,0%) divorces were started by both husband and wife,” they said on the website.

    Additionally, Business Tech reported that since the beginning of lockdown, divorce in the country has increased by 20%.

    With such high divorce rates, one begins to wonder how much divorce actually costs. The total cost depends on the complexity of the settlement, with issues which may include division of assets or child maintenance.

    According to Parent24, in the case that a couple collaborates to finalise all of these complexities and reach an agreement, the divorce can have a total cost coming to R7000 to R10 000. If the divorce is contested, however, it will be much more expensive.

    When both individuals do not agree on the terms, they incur additional costs by going back and forth and keeping lawyers for longer, and having to go to court.

    Attorneys charge big money for their services. Some who are well-experienced charge between R2000 and R3000 an hour. So, by increasing the time you spend with them, you increase your fees tremendously.

    One might think that doing it yourself is the best option in an effort to save money. However, Lee Hancox, head of channel and segment marketing at Sanlam told Business Tech that it may cause more trouble.

    “Sometimes there’s the temptation to rush into a ‘quickie’ DIY divorce that seems cheaper and faster – perhaps you want to get out of the emotionally stressful scenario as fast as possible,” she said. “This can be risky. Particularly if you’re not a legal expert, what you may be putting into your divorce agreement could be called into question when you get into a divorce court, or, worst-case scenario, could be to your detriment in the long run. ”

    The result of this could cost you more in the end, so it may be better to stick with a professional.

    If you’re wondering what else may increase your spending during or after divorce, here are some expenses that result from separation:

    – Two households instead of one,

    – Additional child care expenses,

    – Separating contracts like medical aid, cell phone contracts, insurance, bond payments and others.

    David Thomson, senior legal adviser at Sanlam Trust told Business Tech that professional help to guide you in the process makes a huge difference.

    “You have to consider the impact of divorce on the whole financial picture. In a partnership, one person may have taken responsibility for the finances, so following a divorce, sudden financial independence could be daunting for the other partner,” he explained.

    “Additionally, divorce might mean that one has to go back to work. Plus, it has potentially big consequences if there are children involved as arrangements must be made regarding payment of school fees; medical aid and the like.”

    “Divorce is complicated, no matter who you are and how wealthy you may be.”

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