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    The 1950s were a wild time. The Cold war was escalating, Elvis and his pelvis were gyrating to the amazement of adoring fans and television had not even been introduced to South Africa. It is also in this time period that women were being given some, uh, interesting advice on relationships.

    A 1958 article published in American Women’s Magazine, McCall’s, titled “129 Ways to Get a Husband” gives us insight into what life was like for women in the 1950s:

    The magazine article advises women on the best ways to find a man.

    Kim Marx-Kuczynski from Madison, Wisconsin found the article in a rummage sale and was fascinated by its contents. “I think the article is reflective of the social mores of the era, and I found the comparison between what was acceptable then and what is acceptable now fascinating. It also made me grateful that so much progress has been made,” she told Bored Panda.

    “It’s outdated and absurd and funny, but it had serious intentions,” Kim concluded. “Society has changed so much in the last sixty years, and this article exemplifies the differences between what our moms and grandmas grew up with compared to ourselves and the coming generations. It’s fascinating.”

    The article had invited 16 “experts” to analyse what the “sixteen million women over the age of seventeen who are not married,” and who would presumably like to be married, according to the article, could do to find a husband. The results are nothing short of hilarious. Here is some of the funniest advice from the article:

    On where to find Mr. Right:

    – Have your car break down at strategic places.

    – Look in the census reports for places with the most single men.

    – Read the obituaries to find eligible widowers.

    – Become a nurse or an airline stewardess – they have very high marriage rates.

    – Be nice to everybody – they may have an eligible brother or son.

    – Be friendly to ugly men – handsome is as handsome does.

    – Don’t be afraid to associate with more attractive girls; they may have some leftovers.

     

    How to let him know you’re there:

    – Wear a band-aid. People always ask what happened.

    – Stand in a corner and cry softly. Chances are good that he’ll come over to find out what’s wrong.

    – Buy a convertible. Men like to ride in them.

    – “Accidentally” have your purse fly open, scattering its contents all over the street.

     

    On how to look good to him:

    – Get a sunburn.

    – When you are with him, order your steak rare.

    – Don’t tell him about your allergies.

    – Don’t whine.

     

    On how to land him:

    – Talk to his father about business and agree that taxes are too high!

    – If he’s rich, tell him you like his money – the honesty will intrigue him!

    – Never let him believe your career is more important to you than marriage.

    – Point out to him that the death rate of single men is twice that of married men.

     

    Wild ideas:

    – If your mother is fat, tell him you take after your father. If he’s fat too, tell him you’re adopted!

    – Rent a billboard and post your picture and telephone number on it!

    – Paint your name and number on the roof and say, “Give me a buzz, pilots.”

    – Stand on a busy street corner with a lasso.

     

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    Wedding receptions are the time to celebrate and rejoice the new marriage. They usually consist of food, tearful speeches, fun and dancing. When it comes to the dance floor, everyone knows great music makes the party. Here are a few old school songs you need in your wedding playlist:

    50s

    Fly Me to the Moon – Frank Sinatra (1954)

    70s

    Isn’t She Lovely – Stevie Wonder (1976)

    Play That Funky Music – Wild Cherry (1976)

    Stayin’ Alive – Bee Gees (1977)

    Y.M.C.A – Village People (1978)

    What you won’t do for love – Bobby Caldwell (1978)

    Don’t Stop ‘Til You Get Enough – Michael Jackson (1979)

    80s

    Celebration – Kool & The Gang (1980)

    Just The Two Of Us – Grover Washington Jr. (1981)

    Don’t Stop Believin’ – Journey (1981)

    It’s Raining Men – The Weather Girls (1982)

    True – Spandau Ballet (1983)

    Girls Just Wanna Have Fun – Cyndi Lauper (1983)

    Wake Me Up Before You Go-Go – Wham (1984)

    Love song – The Cure (1989)

    90s

    End of the Road – Boyz II Men (1992)

    Macarena – Los del Río (1993)

    Wonderwall – Oasis (1995)

    Gettin’ Jiggy With It – Will Smith (1998)

    I Want It That Way – Backstreet Boys (1999)

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    Wedding dresses are one of the most spoken about elements of any wedding. After having such a big role in your big day, preserving the dress may be your decision. If you decide to store your dress, it may need a polish after a couple of years. Here’s how to clean your wedding dress after the big day, to keep it beautifully preserved and in tip-top condition.

    Ask your sales consultant 

    When you purchase your wedding dress from a boutique, be sure to inquire about the cleaning. Your sales consultant should be able to advise on how to properly clean it. There may also be special instructions that come with the gown on how to clean it.

    Sooner the better 

    If you do decide to store the dress, it’s very important to clean it before packing it away.

    Dry cleaners 

    If you’d rather not chance it or perhaps don’t have the time, you could always look for a special dry cleaner. They should know how to clean the wedding gown and the specific materials used correctly.

     

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    Simple dresses 

    If your gown is made from simple materials and fabrics, you could clean it yourself – just be sure to do some research before attempting it.

    Light

    When your gown is drying, keep it away from natural and artificial light.

    Know your fabric 

    If you decide to wash it yourself, know what type of fabric the dress is made of. Be aware of what type of embellishments are on the gown. Odds are, you can probably gently wash it by hand. Also, be aware that some fabrics can stretch when hung up, and because a wedding gown is particularly heavy, it’s best to let it dry while flat.

     

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    Spot clean 

    If your wedding gown is very detailed and large, you may have to opt for spot cleaning. This would involve pinpointing the stains and just cleaning those instead of the whole dress.

    Whatever option you choose, just make sure you know what your wedding dress consists of and what it’s made of. Lastly, be gentle with your gown, especially if it’s big and consists of lots of detail (for example beads).

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    Gone are the days when monetary gifts are seen as rude and unthoughtful. Nowadays most people live together before marriage so they often don’t need the traditional gifts. Giving money is an easy option but how much should you give as a cash wedding gift?

     

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    There are many reasons why a couple might request a cash gift. Many couples prefer receiving money because it can contribute to the honeymoon or big purchases. Maybe the couple would prefer to buy their own things from various places and therefor one registry wouldn’t work.

    But as a guest, how much money should you give? You don’t want to give too little but at the same time you don’t want to be bankrupt.

     

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    Things to consider

    Firstly, your final amount depends on your relationship with the soon-to-wed pair. If you’re an intimate family member or a very close friend, you would obviously be expected to give more.

    If you’re a distant relative and you don’t really see the couple often or if you’re a co-worker then you wouldn’t give as much.

    Ask yourself, how much would you spend on a gift? The amount you gift should be similar.

    Base your figure on your own budget. What can you afford to give? If you’d like to give a large amount then you could perhaps save a little money each month.

     

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    Drum roll please..

    An acceptable amount for a wedding gift can range anywhere from R300-R1000.

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    Trends are ever-changing in the wedding world. If you’re looking for inspiration or maybe want to avoid what’s been overdone, then have a look at what’s trending in the wedding world of fashion accessories. Whatever the reason, these trends are great additions to your wedding look.

    Barrettes

    Complete your hair style with a bridal barrette. These pretty embellishments add a little pop to a minimal look especially if you’re not wanting to go too over the top. Opt for a bridal barrette if you’re looking for a sleek and trending look. 

     

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    Gloves

    What’s more ‘royal’ than bridal gloves? This graceful embellishment is trending and will give you that extra ‘princess’ touch.

     

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    Bold earrings

    Gone are the times of delicate diamond studs. Make a statement with your earrings. Go big or go home they say.

     

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    Headbands

    Forget the flower crown and opt for a bridal headband if you’re looking for something a bit different. Think of it as a fashion forward tiara.

     

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    Belts

    Tying a bridal belt around your wedding gown gives you an edgy yet elegant look. The belt also accentuates the waist and gives you that sought after cinched-in look.

     

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    Hats

    If flower crowns, tiaras and headbands aren’t your thing, bridal hats are trending and gorgeous. Oversized bridal hats make for a graceful and stylish statement.

     

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    Whether it’s been five, 10 or 20 years, renewing your wedding vows is a great excuse for a ‘second wedding’. Let all those around you know, that your love is just as strong as it was when you first said ‘I do’. If you’re looking to reignite the love here’s how to renew your wedding vows.

     

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    Renewing your wedding vows is a great way to celebrate a marriage milestone like an anniversary. Many couples start renewing as soon as one year after marriage. Usually you host your own vow renewal ceremony but sometimes the couple’s children plan and host the party for their parents.

     

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    The main focus is your vows. Put a lot of effort in to it and speak from the heart. You should have new and different things to say compared to your wedding day vows, since you’ve grown as a married couple.

    Since it is a more ‘relaxed’ commitment, the event can be hosted anywhere. From a place of worship to your house. If a place means something to you and your partner then that’s all that matters. Any person of your choice can ‘officiate’ your wedding.

     

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    This is a very special occasion and it’s best to be surrounded by loved ones and those closest to you. However if you want a huge soiree then the more the merrier.

    The attire is completely your choice. If you and your partner want to go super fancy then so be it. This is your time to do whatever you want, especially if you had to do what others wanted on your big day.

     

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    Have fun! Think of it as a big party with the focus on you and your partner. A part of the night is dedicated to declaring your love for one another (again) but a lot of it is a celebration.

     

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    You probably know what it is, but maybe the name itself is unfamiliar. So what exactly is a boutonniere? It’s a spray of flowers that is attached to the left lapel, as many believe that when it’s placed on the left, it’s closer to your heart. A great idea is to have a flower from the bride’s bouquet feature in the boutonniere to create some sentiment and unity.

    Boutonniere, which is French, translates to ‘buttonhole’ in English.

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    As small as they may be, boutonnieres can really make a simple and beautiful statement.

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    Go as big and bold as you like!

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    Boo-tin-near.

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    Don’t forget to play with colours! How gorgeous does that pop of colour look?

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    Customise your boutonniere. Add things of meaning to you.

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    Have fun with it! After all, it is your wedding day.

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    Your partner popped the question and the wedding planning begins. After much consideration, you’ve decided to take on the role as wedding planner. With so much to do, it’s easy to forget a few things here and there. So we’ve created the ultimate wedding planning checklist, to help you on your journey.

    Most checklists start 12 months before, but not everyone plans their wedding a year in advance. No matter the length of time, there are many things to plan from start to finish:

    All things planning 

    Budget 

    You and your partner need to figure out how much you’d like to or can spend for the big day. You will also need to decide who is paying for what. Try and list the NEEDS and the WANTS. It’ll be tricky since you and your partner will have different perspectives, but it has to be done.

    Guestlist

    Decide on who you’d like to invite. Keep your budget in mind as more people mean more money. It’s easier to start with family, then friends and finally extras (for example co-workers).

    Rentals

    There are many things that have to be rented such as chairs, furniture, dance floor, linens and draping. Keep all those in mind.

    Transportation

    If you and your partner are wanting to arrive and exit in a special type of vehicle then it’s time to book. Make sure to shop around to see what type of deals you can get.

    Finish payments 

    Make sure you have paid all your vendors in full, or according to their stipulations.

    Seating

    It’s time to decide where everyone is going to sit and who will be placed where.

    Escort cards

    Once you’ve planned where everyone will be seated, you’ll have to make an escort card. This will direct your guests on where they have been placed.

    Communication 

    Wedding website

    If you are wanting one, it’s best to get your wedsite going as soon as possible.

    Invitations

    Are you going to have physical invitations or keep things digital? Either way, you need to start thinking about how you’d like them to look.

    Save-the-dates

    Let your guests know the date of your big day. Maybe you don’t have everything finalised, but at least they will know what day to keep free.

    Invitations

    Finally, it’s time to invite your guests! They should already know when the wedding will be but now they will finally have all the details. Don’t forget to update your wedsite if you have decided to go that route.

    Don’t forget to send out the rehearsal dinner invitations.

    Fashion

    The wedding dress 

    It’s time to start looking around for styles you like. Window shop if you must or gain inspiration from social media. Start researching wedding dress shops in your area, to get an idea of what’s available.

    Buy your wedding dress

    After looking around, it’s time to decide and purchase the wedding gown.

    Bridesmaids’ dresses

    After you’ve sorted out your dress, you’ll have to start thinking about your bridesmaids’ dresses. Think about the style and colour and how it’ll tie in with your overall theme. Keep them in mind though! Ask them for suggestions as well.

    Groom’s outfit

    Decide if you’re purchasing or renting. Shop around and see what’s out there.

    Groomsmen outfits

    It’s time to sort the groomsmen out and have them look dashing next to the hubby-to-be. Pick out what type of suits or outfits you’d like them to wear and schedule a fitting.

    Wedding bands

    Time to purchase your nuptial bands – the rings that will be exchanged during the ceremony.

    First dress fitting

    It’s important to have your dress fitting well in advance, just in case any alterations need to be made.

    Final dress fitting

    After a few weeks and just before the wedding, have your final dress fitting.

    Clean the ring

    Have your ring cleaned by a jeweller so that it’s extra sparkly on the big day!

    Venues

    Wedding venue

    Chances are, you probably have a place in mind, but if not, a great idea is to list a few and get quotes for each. Make sure you write down a little bit about each place and what will be included in the package.

    Rehearsal-dinner venue

    If you’re opting to have your dinner at a different venue, it’s important to book it well in advance.

    Decor 

    Vibe and theme

    Decide on what the atmosphere is going to be like at your wedding. Think of the theme. This will be a lot easier when you’ve decided on a venue.

    Colour theme

    What colours are going to be prominent throughout your wedding? Pick your favourite colours or opt for the classics.

    Flowers

    Florists

    Think about what flowers you’d like at your wedding and research florists in your area. Explain the vibe of your wedding and show them examples if you can. If you’re not sure of what you want, they should be able to advise based on the information you’ve given them.

    Floral test 

    Your florist can show you a sample of how the final flower centrepieces will look. If you have any changes or add-ons, you can inform them.

    Food 

    Caterer

    Who is going to feed your guests? What type of food do you have in mind? Whoever you choose needs to be able to accommodate what you and your partner want, along with all sorts of dietary needs.

    Final taste 

    After deciding on who’s going to feed your guests and what type of food you may like, your caterer should prepare a tasting menu of everything. This is your chance to tweak anything you may not like or would rather prefer. Be sure to take someone whose tastebuds you trust!

    Cake

    Start looking for wedding cake ideas. Once you more or less know what you would like, set up a meeting with a bakery or cake maker. Decide what flavour and style you want.

    Plan the menu

    You’ve chosen a caterer and tasted the food, now you need to finalise the whole thing and set the menu.

    Documenting

    Book

    Don’t forget to book your wedding photographer, videographer, DJ and band. It’s important to look or listen to examples of these professionals. Do you like their style? Do they play your type of music? Don’t be shy to ask for recommendations.

    Engagement photos

    Some wedding photographers include an engagement photoshoot in the full package!

    Gifts 

    Registry

    Yay! Pick a place for your wedding registry and start choosing what you and your partner will need or like! Alternatively, many couples now ask for cash donations or ask guests to donate to their favourite charities, so consider these options as well.

    Gift bags

    Getting presents is great but gifting your guests with something is fabulous. Make a list of ideas that you can give your guests as party favours.

    Wedding-party gifts

    As a little thank you to your bridesmaids and groomsmen, you can buy them all a little gift.

    Entertainment 

    Ceremony musicians

    If you are wanting musicians to perform at the ceremony, it’s important to book in advance.

    Song selections

    You and your partner should by now have a list of must-plays for your wedding. Discuss which songs you’d like the ceremony musicians to play and what the band or DJ should play at the reception.

    Marital things

    Officiant

    Who’s going to marry the two of you? Decide and book them!

    Pre-marital counselling

    This is a great way to receive relationship counselling. It’s important to be set up with the right tools and information for issues that may arise later in a marriage.

    Vows

    If you’re choosing to write your own vows, it’s important to start early to avoid stressing about it later. Don’t leave it for last minute. Take the time to reflect on your relationship and think about what your partner means to you and the promise you will make.

    Marriage license

    In order for your marriage to be seen as legal, you’ll have to obtain a marriage license.

    Honeymoon

    Honeymoon

    If you can your partner are deciding to have your romantic getaway straight after the wedding, then it’s time to start planning and booking. Look for various package deals and what you will have to obtain (passport, visa etc.) The sooner you book your tickets, the cheaper they are.

    Pack and finalise

    Don’t forget to pack and remember your documents. Be sure to call and confirm all of your travel arrangements and bookings.

    Beauty 

    Hair and makeup trial

    Start researching beauty artists and their work. Ask for prices and available packages. Set up a trial so you can see the final look. Many artists include the trial in the fee.

    Beauty treatments 

    Time to get your hair, nails, skin treatments and hair removal done – the works! Don’t forget to include your partner in the journey as well.

    Cute extras 

    Write a note to your loved one to be exchanged on the big day.

    Practice your vows (trust us).

    Night before

    Eat a great meal.

    Have your personal items and little things you might need in a small bag. 

    Go to bed early!

    On the big day

    Don’t forget to eat something.

    Get ready nice and early to avoid any unnecessary stress – work out a schedule.

    Exchange the cute note 🙂

    Say THANK YOU to everyone.

    And finally…

    Enjoy your big day! After all the planning and stress, it’s time to celebrate. The day will go by so quickly so don’t miss a moment.

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    After the big proposal comes all the planning. You and your partner will usually decide on who you’d like by your side on the big day, which will include friends and family. It is both an honour for them and a huge favour they’re doing for you, seeing as they’ll be helping you with most of the planning.

    That said, it’s important to put a little effort into asking your wedding party to be a part of your day. Especially since weddings can be quite pricey. Choose something special instead of just sending a text or asking them nonchalantly. Here are some ideas:

    Custom box 

    Put together a few items that mean a lot to you and your selected wedding party. You can customise the boxes to suit the theme of your wedding and what your loved ones would appreciate.

     

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    Alcohol labels 

    Purchase a bottle of alcohol and customise the bottles with labels ‘proposing’ to your bridesmaids and groomsmen. Switch up the liquor depending on what your nearest and dearest like.

     

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    Scratch off cards

    These cool cards come with a special design and a solid filled section. Your wedding party will then scratch and win, or rather, receive their proposal.

     

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    Custom card

    It’s better than a text! You can also make it really cute and sentimental.

     

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    For the guys…

    Special flask

    Your buddies will love a unique flask as a proposal, especially since it’s very practical.

     

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    Special socks

    Custom socks are great as gifts and you can have your groomsmen wear them on the big day. If they’re funky, they’ll make for great pictures.

     

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    Cuff links

    Cuff links will count as a ‘proposal’ and serve as a cool embellishment for the wedding.

     

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    Cigars

    Gift your guys with a memorable cigar. You can have a paper ring placed around each cigar with the ‘proposal’ message.

     

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    For the girls…

    Bracelets

    There are great custom jewellery options that you can gift your bridesmaids. It’s a lovely option as it’s something practical that they can wear to the wedding as well as afterwards.

     

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    Candles

    Pick a wonderfully scented candle and turn it into a ‘proposal’ for your ladies.

     

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    Custom Hanger

    You can have special hangers made for your bridesmaids. This is quite cute and your besties can use them on the big day.

     

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    Hair ties

    This can be quite punny but also a practical gift, because we all know how easy it is to lose them!

     

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    Flowers play a huge role in most weddings. They are used in many parts of the wedding decor, from ceremony to reception, and add a romantic and personal touch to the big day. A big question, however, is if you’re going to use fresh or fake flowers. But before deciding, you should know what the differences between real and artificial flowers are.

    Before weighing out the pros and cons, it’s important to keep a few things in mind:

    – Both options can be expensive, especially if a florist is involved.

    – Most of the time, your guests won’t be able to tell what’s real and what’s fake.

    – If you can’t decide, you can always mix and match with both. Use fake flowers for certain things and real for others.

    – You can save money by having multi-use floral pieces. For example, you can use some of the floral arrangements from your ceremony and bring it over to the reception decor.

    The differences:

    Real flowers 

    Nothing compares to fresh, beautiful flowers. They are authentic and sweet-smelling. Using real flowers is genuine and no matter how realistic a fake flower is, it will never be able to compare to the real thing.

    Besides originality, there are a few downsides to having fresh flowers:

    – They can be more expensive, especially if you are having them arranged by a florist or imported from overseas. You will also pay a lot more if you’re looking for a specific flower and it’s not in season.

     

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    – As beautiful as delicate flowers are, they’re unfortunately higher risk in terms of being damaged. They will eventually wilt and if it’s hotter, they fade faster. Fresh flowers are easily damaged, whether it’s a wild flower girl having fun or a bumpy car ride.

    – The real deal can also be a lot heavier than opting for the fake alternative.

    Artificial flowers 

    Fake flowers aren’t as plastic as you think. There are natural-looking silk or other fabric-based flowers available that almost look like the real thing. If you decide on artificial flowers, you’ll never have to worry if they’re in season or not. These fake alternatives are also a lot lighter than the real thing and therefore easier to carry around, transport and arrange.

    Artificial flowers can last for a long time and you will be able to keep them for sentimental purposes. You might even be able to reuse them in future events, depending on the quality. Since they’re fake, there won’t be any allergy issues either, which is great if you or any of your guests are allergic.

     

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    Fake flowers can be a lot cheaper depending on the quality, specifics and where you buy them from. If you’re not looking to purchase the fake flowers, then renting it is also an option. Since you can purchase artificial flowers in advance, you can buy a few each month, thereby not having to fork out a huge amount in one go.

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