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    Being the wedding couple is awesome, and the day revolves around you. However, one of the biggest components of the day is your photographers, and connecting well with them will ensure that the day is a success for both parties. We interviewed stellar photographers Ebert and Mikayla from Ebert Steyn Films to get the inside info on what a day in their lives is like.

    Q. What is trending in wedding photography 2020?

    A. Drone photos. This is a very tricky situation though as there are lot of laws that govern drone photography especially if you are charging for your services.

    Q. What part of shooting a wedding is the hardest for photographers?

    A. Getting family members and guests to co-operate for the family photos and group photo. Sometimes the day can get really long, especially if there are other traditional or religious elements worked into the day and as much as we love our job we are only human and do get tired too.

    Q. What are things couples should keep in mind when hiring a photographer?

    A.  Most established photographers have a certain look and style not only to their photos but also the way they shoot. Make sure that you look at lots of examples of work of the service providers you are considering. It’s also important to make sure that your photographer and videographer have a similar style and approach. You could even reach out to past clients to chat about what their on the day experience with the photographer/ videographer was like.

    For example, some photographers prefer to use flash photography throughout the day. If you intend on booking a videographer as well this will be a problem as the constant flashing interferes with the video footage, which means that you might end up having to do everything twice. Not only does this disrupt the natural flow of the day but will inadvertently cause some friction between the photographer and videographer.

    It’s also important to make sure that you click well with your photographer and are comfortable with them. It’s a little bit daunting to be in front of a camera sometimes but if you’re able to have a laugh with them and know that they genuinely care about your big day, it’ll make it a lot easier. This is why pre-wedding meetings are super important to us, because it gives both the couple and ourselves a chance to get to know one another a bit better.

    Q. What’s your favourite part of a wedding? 

    A.  Mikayla: I personally love the getting ready and couple shoot-parts of the day. There are beautiful details and emotions to capture and I love being able to photograph those pre-ceremony nerves, tears and excitement all rolled into one. I also love it when couples do a first look before the ceremony!

    Ebert: For me it’s the “party section” – when all of the formalities are over, the day’s heat has passed and the couple and their guests can finally let their hair down and do what they came to do in the first place; celebrate the newlyweds. I enjoy celebrating with the couple throughout the day and I feel that this allows me to connect with them on a more personal level as well as make them more comfortable in front of the camera, especially when we’re on the dance floor.

    Q. What is your least favourite part? Why?

    A. Family photos and group photo. It’s often a nightmare to coordinate and although they’re important to capture, no-one really enjoys the process. Super long ceremonies is a close second!

    Q. What do brides/grooms do that makes your job harder?

    A. We always try to get the couple to feel as comfortable and to act as naturally as possible, especially during the couple shoot. However, this sometimes leads to excessive chatter which makes it hard for us to get nice shots.

    Q. Photographers spend hours on their feet. How do you cope with it?

    A.  Ebert: You become “wedding fit” quite quickly, actually. I would recommend staying hydrated and eating a good breakfast beforehand as well as making sure you snack throughout the day but really, what works for me is staying active during the day and partake and enjoy the wedding in a way that is still professional.

    Mikayla: Staying hydrated is key but wearing comfy shoes is a big one for me – we often rock a pair of Nikes on the day itself. But I won’t lie, I’m pretty tired the day after a wedding, and if you have two or three weddings back to back then it’s seriously next level.

    Q. Any funny/weird/interesting weddings you have photographed?

    A. There was the wedding where the couple (and all their guests) flew in from Brazil but none of them spoke much English so nobody really knew what was actually going on (coordinator included). Another wedding we filmed in Greece ended with half the guests skinny-dipping at 3am, including the bride. We also recently filmed a couple from Switzerland and the groom’s family must have taught the bride some “inappropriate” Afrikaans words, as she ended her speech by yelling out “Groot k@k!” (Big sh*t!) And lastly, the coolest couple on the block who rode a bicycle to their wedding.

    Here is another one of their favourite weddings that took place in Singapore:
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    You don’t have to carry a floral wedding day on your big day. Yes it’s expected but then again, do you want to be? Stand out in the crowd with a unique flowerless bouquet that speaks to your personality.

    From fruit to feathers, buttons and bottlecaps, there are a host of materials you can use to supplement flowers. Here are a few ideas:

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    Puffed sleeves, delicate lace and frothing tulle. There is something incredibly romanic about Victorian-era fashion. If you’re a lover of vintage fashion, then this one’s for you.

    Victorian fashion has been having a moment recently, and celebrities like Kate Middleton, Nicky Hilton and Ellie Goulding were seen donning this trend. Take bridal inspiration from yesteryear with these stunning designs:

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    Modern couples are increasingly more conscious of their impact on the environment, and are planning their big day with sustainability in mind. As a wedding guest, it’s a great idea to treat your newlyweds with an eco-friendly gift that will put them on the right path for their life together.

    If you’re attending the wedding of an eco-warrior, or just want to be more conscious of your own purchases, give one of these gifts a try:

    The Wonderbag – R206 – R933 on Wonderbagworld.com

    The Wonderbag is a simple but revolutionary non-electric, portable slow cooker. It continues to cook food (which has been brought to a boil by conventional methods) for up to 8 hours without the use of additional electricity or fuel. The Wonderbag business model is based on a buy one, donate one. For every retail Wonderbag bought, $1 is donated to the Wonderbag Foundation to subsidize Wonderbags and host WonderFeasts in vulnerable communities around the world.

    EcoPlanet Bamboo Charcoal Filter – R135 on Faithful to Nature

    Ensure the water your newlyweds drink is clean, healthy and safe with with high-grade bamboo charcoal filter that has a high and positively charged adsorbent surface area that draws impurities out of the water. The filter can effectively absorb and remove bacteria, chlorine and other chemicals, while improving the taste and freshness of any water. All this while being natural and non-toxic.

    The Great Living Co Sustainable Bamboo Kitchen Utensils Set – R125 via Faithful to Nature

    Fast-growing, renewable and long lasting, bamboo is an incredibly sustainable product that can be used in a variety of ways. This miracle plant can also absorb greenhouse gases and supports economic development in a variety of less developed areas of the world. Replace plastic with bamboo for an eco-friendly alternative to serving utensils.

    The Joinery recycled plastic bottle wine tote – R495 via The Joinery

    The Joinery is a sustainable and ethical product design brand based in South Africa that focuses on finding solutions to environmental and community issues through design. Their products are made of recycled plastic and crafted by local sewing co-operatives in the informal settlements of South Africa, by up-skilled artisans and by sustainable production houses. This wine tote is a great way to travel in style while making a difference.

    Sealpod Afficionado Capsule 10pk – R2399 at @Home

    The Sealpod allows coffee-fans to reuse their coffeepods and is designed to work with Nespresso and Nespresso compatible coffee machines. This reduces the amount of coffee pods you have to purchase and is also better for your health and there are no plastic toxins leeching into the water. The Aficionado edition contains 10 stainless steel pods, 102 aluminium seals and an acrylic refilling station so you can fill 10 pods at a time.

    My Butchers Block Salt & Pepper Holder – R519 via YuppieChef

    Proudly made in South Africa from sustainably sourced Knysna Blackwood, this beautiful salt and pepper holder is ideal for holding salt, pepper and other spices.

    MicroGarden Reusable Sprout Bag with Lentil Seeds – R99 via YuppieChef

    This reusable microgarden sprout bag is designed to be highly productive, sustainable, and energy and space efficient. This bag comes with 50 gsm lentil seeds which will yield approximately 130 gsm sprouts, and allows you to grow sprouts over and over again. Simply sterilise the bag, soak the seeds overnight, drain and rinse the seeds twice daily. Within 3-5 days your sprouts will be ready to harvest.

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    Sitting down for a meal with your loved ones is always special, and your wedding day should be no different. Embrace the intimacy with beautiful banquet tables.

    Whether you’re hosting a small or large event, banquet tables are easy and stylish options to seat your guests. These rectangular tables run the length of the room, drawing your eyes ahead and making the space seem larger than in is. While it may seem intimidating, this table shape is incredibly easy to decorate. Depending on your wedding style, you can adorn your table with lush greenery, dried botanicals or rows of candles and glasswear.

    Here are some ideas to get you started:

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    Tranquility, serenity, peace: three words that come to mind in the African bush. A place of wild nature and escapism, the bushveld makes for the perfect place to spend quality time with your loved ones.

    Celebrate the beauty of nature by saying your ‘I do’s’ in the great outdoors. It’s the perfect ode to Africa. In South Africa we are spoilt for choice with stunning landscapes and exciting game reserves to meet our wildest dreams.

    There are a host of dreamy bushveld wedding venues throughout the country, but one that stands above the rest is Monate Game Lodge. Nestled in the peaceful Limpopo Province, Monate Game Lodge is a 3000-hectare private game reserve that tailors every event to the couple. Here, you’ll receive a personalised experience that is both memorable and magical.

    Say you ‘I do’s’ beneath their Rock Fig, under a majestic Marula tree, in a natural cave or a traditional chapel.

    Monate Game Lodge is making it easier for couples to have their perfect day. Book your dream summer wedding at Monate Game Lodge during the month of December 2020 or January 2021 and receive complimentary venue hire! Enquire now: 014 718 7000 or [email protected].

     

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    Everybody knows getting married is a package deal. You might adore your new spouse, but that doesn’t mean you will necessarily get along with their family. However, as much as we’d love to tell you it doesn’t matter, it does. Family is family, no matter what and building good relationships with your in-laws will make for a healthy relationship with your partner. Here are a few things to try if you’re faced with a monster-in-law.

    – Don’t judge a book by its cover

    This is true of all relationships. The way people seem is not always the way they are. Even if they behave in what comes across as rude or mean, it might have nothing to do with you. There might be a deeper insecurity or issue that leads to certain behaviour. Always give people the benefit of the doubt. Also remember that people have different personality types, and not everyone will always get along. That doesn’t mean you can’t be civil towards each other for the sake of your partner. Try spending some one-on-one time with the person and find common ground. You might just be pleasantly surprised.

    – Stand your ground

    If you have tried getting to know them better and being kind, but nothing’s changed, it might be time to stand your ground. There’s a line between being nice and getting walked over, which no one deserves. If things get so heated that they make you uncomfortable or the other person is downright condescending, you may want to set boundaries and be straight with them. Don’t compromise on your own values just to get them to like you. It’s important for them to know that they should also respect you and your beliefs, even if they don’t agree. Try to explain your point of view in a calm and open-minded manner, giving reasons for your view points.

    – But not too much

    That being said, always keep in mind that your relationship with your partner comes first. You don’t want to end up hurting them or worse, forcing them to choose between you and their family. If you have tried to be the bigger person, stated your take on things and set some boundaries, but the conflict is still not resolved, you might actually want to take a step back. This might include politely declining from family gatherings. It’s not worth losing your partner over a feud with your in-laws.

    – Always be respectful, even if they’re not

    The golden rule in every situation is respect. Accept the fact that you may never get along, even though you tried. However, and this especially applies during the “stand your ground” phase, always be respectful. That way, you don’t give them any ammunition to fight with, plus you’re showing your partner that you respect them too. Never stoop down to verbal abuse, immature games or using children as a means to manipulate their grandparents, for example. As long as the in-laws are not actually doing anything illegal or harmful, there’s no reason for you to keep your partner or children away from them. The battle is between you and them.

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    Wedding dresses are gushed over and are often made the centre of attention on the big day. This may leave you, as the groom, feeling as though your suit is not of much importance. Well, that’s definitely not true! You surely want to look your best on your special day.

    For some, a custom-made suit is the best way to achieve that. Others, however, may be on the fence about whether a bespoke suit is worth it.

    Here are some pros and cons of custom-made suits to help you decide:

    Pros:  

    – Fit 

    Nothing looks better than a suit that fits you perfectly. This is particularly worthy of noting for those who don’t have a “typical” body. Off the rack suits are catered almost exclusively to the “average” body type.

    – Look 

    Material, design, patterns, and style can all be tailored to your exact needs and wants. The look of the suit will be nothing short of what you imagined. You won’t have to settle for the generic offerings of stores.

    – Attention to detail

    Since your suit is being made by a tailor, you’ll get a final product that has been paid careful attention to from start to finish. As a result of this attention to detail, you’ll get the best possible quality.

    Cons: 

    – Cost 

    Since you’re paying for higher quality material as well as the time and labour it takes to create the suit, you’ll be paying quite a bit more than you would for a suit off the racks. You’ll have to consider whether your budget allows for this.

    – Time consuming 

    Bespoke suits are usually made by hand, with minimal machines involved. On top of that, you’ll have to go for a few fittings in order to ensure the suit fits you perfectly. This will take much more time than simply purchasing a suit at a store.

    – May not get your money’s worth 

    Custom-made suits are great, and it’s always good to have one in your closest for special occasions. However, if you’re a guy who doesn’t wear suits very often, splurging on an expensive suit may not be worth your while. If it’s just going to collect dust in your closet, consider a store bought suit instead.

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    Some couples go all out with wedding themes, like this pair who had a Harry Potter themed wedding. Others prefer to keep the themes mellow and low-key, opting for ideas such as “rustic” or “vintage”.

    Wedding themes were, in the past, one of the most important decisions to make about your wedding. These days, its really more of a personal preference; whether you have a theme is neither here nor there.

    The draw towards a themed wedding, in general, is the idea of personalising an event that is quite common. For this reason, some may consider a wedding theme imperative. But, in the end, it’s not necessary.

    In fact, choosing to forgo a wedding theme completely may make your life a whole lot easier. A theme limits your options with regards to food, drinks and decor. Having no theme means you can have whatever you want without worrying if it fits with the theme. This connects to the next reason why themed weddings complicate your life.

    Having a theme also means you have to connect all aspects of your wedding to this theme. More often than not, this will take much more time and planning than a regular wedding and can end up costing much more money.

    Guests, usually, have trouble with a themed wedding. Their outfits need more planning and they may have to purchase entirely new items just for your event. For many, this puts them off from attending the wedding at all.

    Instead of going for a full on wedding theme, you could opt to centre your wedding – including food, decor and drinks – around two or three colours. This is much easier and always looks classy.

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    If you already have your heart set on a themed wedding. That’s okay too, it’s your special day and you should do as you please! Just be sure you’re ready for some extra planning. Here are some themed weddings to help you gather some inspiration:

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    Photo booths have been incredibly popular over the years, but why not step it up a notch? A wedding backdrop offers a cool and unique way for your guests to take photographs on your big day.

    Let’s face it, your guests want to take pictures at your wedding. They’re all dolled up, in a cool new venue and love is in the air. Give them something to marvel at with a stunning wedding backdrop. This feature adds personality and creativity to your big day. It will also look amazing in your wedding album and Instagram pictures, just saying.

    From romantic to whimsical, it’s easy to personalise the backdrop to fit your couple. Here are some ideas to get you started.

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