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    Vendor Contracts 101: What Every SA Couple Must Know In 2025

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    Why Written Contracts Are Essential

    In South Africa, verbal agreements are rarely enforceable, you need written contracts for clarity and legal recourse. Whether it’s your venue, caterer, photographer, or DJ, any paid vendor should provide a detailed contract. If they don’t, ask for one, no matter how informal or small the service, because a signature agreement helps everyone stay accountable. (pagelschulenburg.co.za) (poplaw.co.za)

    Legal Foundations: South African Contract Law

    South African contracts are governed by principles ensuring consensus ad idem (mutual agreement), capacity, legality, certain terms, and lawful obligations. If any of these are missing, say the scope is vague or a party was coerced—the contract could be voidable or unenforceable. This underscores the need for crystal‑clear, fair and mutually understood agreements with your vendors.

    Key Clauses Every Vendor Contract Should Include

    Here’s a checklist to keep your contracts watertight:

    ● Scope of Services

    Spell out exactly what you’re paying for: how many hours the vendor works, guest cover for catering, number of edited photos, etc. Clear scope = fewer misunderstandings.

    ● Payment Terms

    Your contract should state deposit amounts, payment milestones, due dates, and refund rules. Avoid unfair penalty clauses that could negate your right to cancel, which the Consumer Protection Act prohibits nvraw.co.za.

    ● Cancellation & Postponement Policy

    Under the CPA, consumers have a right to cancel fixed‑term agreements with 20 business days’ notice and only a reasonable cancellation charge, not a punitive penalty ( vandeventersla). If a vendor fails to deliver services when and where agreed, you may cancel without penalty and reclaim payment (with interest) (The National Consumer Commission.)

    ● Force Majeure

    Include events outside your control, like load‑shedding, civil unrest, or weather as valid grounds for postponement without breach.

    ● Performance Timeline

    When will you receive your wedding photo album or video? Define delivery deadlines in the contract so expectations are formal.

    ● Liability & Insurance

    Ensure vendors carry insurance for property damage, injury, or equipment loss. Liability limits should be fair, not unlimited waiver clauses (which the CPA might regard as unfair) (avianto.co.za)

    ● Dispute Resolution

    Most couples prefer mediation or arbitration. Avoid hidden clauses that require international arbitration or unreasonable legal forums.

    Flagging Red Flags: What to Avoid

    Keep an eye out for these red flags:

    • Terms like “TBD”, “depending on availability”, or vague wording

    • No provision for refunds or cancellation

    • Oral guarantees not confirmed in writing

    • Surprise fees e.g. overtime, travel, hidden service costs

    • Liability waivers that try to exempt the vendor from all obligations, even in the event of negligence

    Be bold, ask vendors to edit or clarify contract language before you sign.

    Statutory Protections Under South African Law

    Consumer Protection Act (CPA)

    The CPA mandates fair, transparent terms, and prohibits unfair penalties and banned clauses (Section 51) such as waivers of statutory rights (ashersons.co.za). If a vendor cancels or fails to perform as contracted, you’re entitled to reimbursement or remedy.

    POPIA (Privacy Law)

    Photographers and videographers must comply with the Protection of Personal Information Act, especially if they intend to publish your wedding photos for marketing. Be sure to include explicit consent clauses around use and distribution of your personal data and images.

    Practical Tips to Stay in Control

    • Always keep copies of all contracts, emails, quotes and receipts in a dedicated folder or digital tracker.

    • After verbal conversations, send an email summary and ask the vendor to confirm in writing.

    • If any clause feels unfair, especially around cancellation, liability, or usage rights, negotiate it or seek legal advice.

    • For larger budgets, consider hiring a wedding planner or a lawyer to review major contracts.

    South African‑Specific Considerations in 2025

    • Load-shedding: Confirm whether the vendor provides backup power (e.g., generator) or services will be affected.

    • Liquor Licenses: If you’re hosting a venue that requires a license, ensure your vendor handles permits and compliance.

    • Cultural & Traditional Ceremonies: Ensure your vendors understand and accommodate your customs—this should be explicitly included in the contract.

    Expert Tip:

    “Contracts are about more than money, they’re about memory. If it’s not in writing, it doesn’t exist in law.”
    – SA wedding planner

    “I always tell couples, if it’s not in writing, it doesn’t count. Contracts are not just about protecting your money, but your memories.”
    – Zanele Moyo, Johannesburg-based wedding planner

    Wrapping Up: Protect Your Wedding Day with a Solid Contract

    Even amidst the romance, a wedding is a formal business transaction. A strong contract protects your vision, your budget, and your rights. As you finalize your vendor lineup, focus on clarity, fairness, and documentation and never settle for verbal promises alone.

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    Keeping things cheap with these budget-friendly wedding trends

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    More and more bridal couples are looking to cut their spending. Whether it’s purchasing affordable wedding dresses on SHEIN or throwing an intimate ceremony for friends and family, “cheap” is the new word on the wedding streets.

    The latest wedding trends seem to reflect this as brides and grooms-to-be look to splurge on items and memories that are closest to their hearts (like a honeymoon for instance), and it’s all thanks to our post-pandemic world.

    So, just what are these wedding trends?

    The bar revamped: 

    Alcohol can add quite a hefty sum to your wedding budget and appears modern bridal couples are unwilling to pay the price. They’re opting out of offering guests a bar tab but are choosing to switch this with a variety of non-alcoholic beverages.

    Winter weddings are a whole lot cosier as hot beverage stations are available throughout the event. From spiced rooibos to non-alcoholic sparkling wines, bridal are looking to switch things up in the best way possible.

    The intimate wedding 

    One of the best things to come out of the pandemic is the trend of the intimate wedding. Brides and grooms are ditching the big wedding day affair in favour of smoothing smaller.

    After all, this is a time to connect with loved ones and celebrate something loving and special. The guest list has gotten smaller and so have the locations, and this bodes well for couples looking to keep things simple and affordable.

    Stepping outside the box 

    Tradition has been thrown out the window when it comes to wedding attire. Gone are the days of brides walking down the aisle in a white or wedding dress as more trends looking towards colour. Think untraditional colours such as black, red, pink – anything the bride fancies. Cosplay outfits are also fast becoming a “thing” for couples looking to indulge their adventures selves.

    Supporting small businesses

    Many small businesses suffered under the intense lockdown restrictions during the COVID-19 pandemic. This has led many individuals, including brides and grooms, to favour small business owners – a trend we hope will continue.

    Aspiring home cooks and food vendors getting on their feet are now the go-to as the new wedding trend looks to skip “traditional” wedding vendors in favour of small businesses.

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    5 Incredible ways you can avoid wedding planning burnout

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    We all know how stressful planning a wedding can be, making wedding planning burnout a very real possibility. Whether you’re trying not to pull out your hair as wedding costs skyrocket or you’re obsessing over every little detail to ensure that everything goes the way you’ve pictured it, feeling overwhelmed is guaranteed to happen if you’re not careful.

    Thankfully, this isn’t something new and there are endless resources to help the modern bridal couple looking to keep costs and anxiety low.

    Here are a few things to keep in mind when attempting to avoid wedding planning burnout:

    Don’t rush 

    This may not always be possible but last-minute wedding planning is not fun for anyone, especially the soon-to-be bride and groom. While there’s nothing wrong with wanting to hop, skip, and jump right into the part where you say “I do,” making sure that you have enough time to plan your dream wedding is always advised as this will give you a spacious timeline to ensure things are handled well and that the process is smooth.

    Don’t be afraid to ask for help 

    The number one reason for wedding planning burning is not asking for help. While it’s not always easy to ask for help, it is a necessary practice if you’re looking to keep your bridal party or the partner you’re set to marry, make sure you delegate tasks to ensure everything on your list is ticked off and that you’re not Atlas attempting to carry the world on your shoulders.

    Be normal! 

    It’s so easy to get wrapped up in planning that you may forget why you’re actually getting married – love. A great way to keep your mental health in tip-top shape is by making sure that you get out and spend some quality time with each other. Plan an epic date night with your partner with a strict “no wedding talk rule,” this will allow you to keep some sense of normality.

    Have some fun

    Can wedding planning be fun? Well, you’ll need to find out. A big reason for something being incredibly stressful is because it’s just not bringing you the joy you need, so why not endeavour to pull out the fun card? For example, if you’re deciding what you should serve at your wedding, why not turn it into an adventure by setting it up as a “culinary tour” that could also double as a date night?

    Technology is your friend 

    There are countless wedding apps that are ready to lend a helping hand as you attempt to navigate the minefield that is wedding planning. Whether you’re looking to make your life easier by setting up a wedding website and forgoing physical invitations or looking for a nifty app to help you sort out your budget, there’s something for everyone in need.

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    8 Romantic engagement ideas to help you pop the question!

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    You’ve gathered all the necessary ingredients for the perfect proposal: a gorgeous engagement ring, a heart-tugging engagement speech, but oh, how to pop the question in a way that will make her heart flutter?

    Going down on one knee and asking your soulmate to marry you is a stressful affair, and if all that stress has you feeling overwhelmed and confused about your perfect wedding proposal, try a few of these engagement ideas on for size. 

    Make sure to add your own personal and creative twist: 

    Loud and proud, for everyone to see: 

    These are for those brave souls out there who don’t care a hoot about who is watching!

    Have a caricaturist at your side

    It’s the stuff rom-coms are made of! There are a number of caricaturists and artists in South Africa that will make the perfect accomplice to your wedding proposal. Hire them on the day and have them sketch the words: “Will you marry me?” And voila! 

    A favourite landmark  

    This doesn’t have to be everyone’s favourite landmark, but just you and your soon-to-be betrothed. It can be anything from a mountain, fountain, hotel to shopping mall, as long as it’s a place that’s special to both of you!

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    Keep it close to home 

    Who needs to be amongst people? If you and your future bride are both homebodies, here are home wedding proposals. 

    Re-create your first date

    This can be both out and about or at home – you decide. However, nothing is more romantic than re-enacting your first date before creating a beautiful new memory by popping the question. 

    A custom jigsaw puzzle

    This is the perfect proposal idea if you both love board games or it’s a rainy day. Make sure to get a custom-made jigsaw puzzle with your picture and the words: “Will you marry me?” If you’ve completed the puzzle enough that you can clearly see your picture and the words, it’s time to go down on one knee. 

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    Embrace Mother Nature

    If you love the great outdoors then check out a few of these ideas.

    Hot Air Balloon 

    There’s nothing like letting your love soar to new heights, and popping the question while doing just that is a fantastic idea! Well, as long as a fear of heights is not on the table. 

    Message in a bottle 

    If you’re looking for a unique beach proposal, then why not add a cute little message to a bottle? Write a heartwarming poem or letter on a piece of parchment and add it to the bottle with cork before burying it in a designated spot under the sand. Don’t forget them to find the bottle, but make sure you have the ring ready to go! 

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    Adorable proposal ideas

    You’re looking for fun. You’re looking for excitement. You’re looking for unique, here are a few ideas:

    Escape Room 

    Escape rooms are all the rage right now, so why not add your own wedding proposal spin on things? Contact your favourite escape and try and work on a way that will allow you to incorporate your wedding proposal into the adventure of trying to escape the room!  

    Gift Delivery 

    You were looking for cute? Why not get a box that’s tall enough for you (a refrigerator box is a great start) and add a little note for your soon-to-be fiance that may allude to what’s really inside the box.

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    15 Most requested first-dance songs to help you turn up the romance!

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    You’ve walked down the aisle, you’ve said “I do,” and now it’s time to get down and boogie! The first dance as a married couple is deeply personal and oh-so-romantic, so making sure you have the right song to sway back and forth to is sure to keep those wonderful wedding day memories alive. 

    If you’re looking for the most romantic songs out there, you’ll be happy to know that a survey conducted by The Black Tux found the perfect playlist thanks to over 900 married couples from all age groups revealing their favourite tunes. 

    The most requested first-dance song, you ask? “Unchained Melody” by The Righteous Brothers with classic love songs from Etta James, Frank Sinatra, and Elvis Presley also making the list.

    If you’re stumped on what to play as the MC welcomes you as newlyweds, why not take a peek at the 15 most requested first-dance songs: 

    1. “500 Miles,” by Sleeping at Last

    Loved-up Lyrics: “But I would walk 500 miles/And I would walk 500 more/Just to be the man who walked a thousand miles/To fall down at your door.”

    2. “Unchained Melody,” by The Righteous Brothers

    Lyrics of Love: “Oh, my love, my darling/I’ve hungered for your touch”

    3. “Amazed,” by Lonestar

    Lyrics of Love: “I want to spend the rest of my life with you by my side/Forever and ever”

     

    4. “Perfect Duet,” by Ed Sheeran and Beyoncé

    Lyrics of Love: “But darling, just kiss me slow/Your heart is all I own/And in your eyes, you’re holding mine”

     

    5. “All of Me,” by John Legend

    Lyrics of Love: “Give your all to me/I’ll give my all to you/You’re my end and my beginning”

     

    6. “I Don’t Want to Miss a Thing,” by Aerosmith

    Lyrics of Love: “The sweetest dream will never do/I’d still miss you, babe/And I don’t want to miss a thing”

     

    7. “Like I’m Gonna Lose You,” by Jasmine Thompson

    Lyrics of Love: “So I’m gonna love you/Like I’m gonna lose you/I’m gonna hold you/Like I’m saying goodbye”

     

    8. “The Way You Look Tonight,” by Frank Sinatra

    Lyrics of Love: “There is nothing for me but to love you/And the way you look tonight”

     

    9. “At Last,” by Etta James

    Lyrics of Love: “At last my love has come along/My lonely days are over and life is like a song, oh yeah”

     

    10. “Sons and Daughters,” by Allman Brown

    Lyrics of Love: “And I, I’ll wrap myself/Around your heart/I’ll be the walls of his heart”

     

    11. “Yours,” by Russell Dickerson

    Lyrics of Love: “I came to life when I first kissed you/The best me has his arms around you/You make me better than I was before/Thank God I’m yours”

     

    12. “Kiss Me,” by Ed Sheeran

    Lyrics of Love: “And your heart’s against my chest, your lips pressed in my neck/I’m falling for your eyes, but they don’t know me yet/And with a feeling I’ll forget, I’m in love now”

     

    13. “Escapade,” by Janet Jackson

    Lyrics of Love: “Come on baby, let’s get away/Let’s save our troubles for another day”

     

    14. “Sweetest Thing,” by Allman Brown

    Lyrics of Love: “You’re the sweetest thing that I ever did see/Like a bird taking way/Tears that set you free”

     

    15. “Speechless,” by Dan + Shay

    Lyrics of Love: “And I’m speechless/You already know that you’re my weakness/After all this time I’m just as nervous”

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    Can sleeping in separate beds save your relationship?

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    Modern couples are increasingly looking for new ways to add a little “spice” in the bedroom, but it may not be in the way you think. 

    Couples choosing to sleep apart has become a rather common practice with studies backing the growing trend and according to sleep scientists, 1 in 4 couples are opting to sleep in separate beds. 

    While more and more couples are enjoying the covers all to themselves, there’s still a certain level of stigma attached to this choice, however, it’s nothing new. The wealthy have been doing it for decades and you only need to pop on an episode of Netflix’s The Crown and check out the sleeping arrangements of Queen Elizabeth and Prince Phillip to find examples of this. 

    One newlywed couple recently went viral for sharing their out-of-the-ordinary sleeping arrangements. Hailing from the United Kingdom, Nelly and Andrew Grecian claim that sleeping separately has benefitted their relationship as they often feel refreshed and revitalised when they wake up in the morning. 

    But while some couples are reaping the benefits, just what does science have to say about it? 

    When sleep is measured objectively, people will actually sleep worse with a partner. This makes sense when you consider that having a partner who snores is basically a recipe for a disruptive night’s rest. However, when asked whether you’d prefer to sleep with your partner in the same bed, you’d likely answer “yes.”

    According to scientists, this suggests that our social brain prioritises a need for closeness and security at night, even when traded in for a good night’s rest. However, no matter your sleeping preferences, couples need to prioritise sleep when it comes to their relationship. 

    A rather interesting study found that when the sleep and relationship quality of heterosexual couples were analysed, it found that when male subjects slept worse, they often reported their relationship quality suffered the next day. In contrast to this, on days when female subjects were not happy about their relationship, both her sleep and her husband’s sleep suffered that night. 

    Wendy M. Troxel PhD, a senior behavioural and social scientist and the woman behind “How to sleep like your relationship depends on it,” reiterates this. But what’s her conclusion on the matter?

    There is no one-size-fits-all when it comes to couples and their sleeping strategies, but couples will need to learn the art of prioritising sleep for the betterment of their relationship and lives. After all, sleep occupies around one-third of our lives with research indicating that when you’re well-rested, you’re a better communicator, happier, more empathetic, and more attractive. 

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    The perfect wedding accessory: The headband

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    If you’re looking for the hottest new wedding trend, there’s nothing trendier than the statement headband.

    Aside from looking hotter than hot on your wedding day, this accessory can easily be incorporated into your everyday aesthetic, and we do love a piece that is versatile!

    Whether you’re eager to stick to something that’s more on the “classic” side of life, or you’re looking to wow guests, here are a few of our favourite pieces to help gather some inspiration:

    The Pearl Headband

    Pearls are not just for royalty and this wedding trend has been a big year. If you’re looking to hop on the trend train but you’re not willing to go all out, opt for pearls on your headband for a subtle and trendy addition to your attire.

    A Subtle Flower Crown 

    This ethereal statement headband is the perfect inclusion for any bride looking to add even more romance to an already romantic day. It’s another subtle piece that doesn’t scream “look at me” and is a great way to incorporate a flower crown if that’s the look you’re after.

    The Birdcage Veil 

    If you’re attempting to add a touch of vintage to your wedding day look, the birdcage veil is a perfect option. This bridal headband and veil is a modern combination that will definitely get you plenty of compliments on your big day.

     

    While this may be a simple piece, it offers an extra bit of magic thanks to the Swarovski crystals and luminous pearls that adorn this headband, and the side tassels are a stylish addition.

    A whimsical look

    This spectacular piece has been crafted from Swarovski crystals and provides a whimsical look for those looking for that “wow” factor without going over the top. While many may say that this look is the stuff of fairytales, this is definitely the look of a goddess.

    Fit For A Princess 

    Meghan Markle, eat your heart out. This rather elegant headband is the perfect addition to your wedding accessory collection and offers a not-so-dainty headband that’s adorned with crystals and pearls.

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    Wedding grinch steals groom’s fire by spiking him

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    There are plenty of things couples worry will spoil their wedding day. Uncooperative weather, a guest who enjoys the bar tab a little too much, or worst of all – another couple getting engaged on the same day.

    However, while most of these worries never come to be, sometimes an unexpected spoil emerges thanks to a wedding grinch.

    Such was the case for an American couple. Taking to TikTok, bride Brandy told the story with footage of her husband, Billy, who began acting strangely and couldn’t even say his vows coherently.

    It turned out that the groom’s drink had been spiked, causing massive discomfort, confusion and an unhealthy racing heart for him. Brandy claims that he was spiked with crushed Adderal.

    His symptoms included sweating, being red in the face, emotional ups and downs and being unable to form words as well as anger, confusion and memory loss according to Brandy. She says that he was drug tested and that this kind of thing happens at weddings so that people can have more duration to party longer.

    The video quickly went viral (reaching almost 1 million views) on the video-sharing app, and soon TikTok users were ready to fight the culprit. Brandy had shared the video with the intention to help prevent the same thing from happening to anyone else.

    “Our poor kids were traumatized by the experience. Billy doesn’t remember anything after I walked down,” said Brandy.

    In the comments, many people demanded that the couple have a redo, with some wondering whether the newly-weds could sue for the entire wedding cost. Others suggested that they renew their wedding vows the following year, so that Billy could remember the special day – with the costs coming out of the culprit’s pocket.

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    9 Ways to update your wedding manicure

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    We have all seen the standard French manicure one too many times. While the classics are still great, it’s always a good idea to keep an eye on new trends that the season has to offer. We detail just a few that have caught our attention.

    Double French Manicure

     

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    Double French #drybynails Manicure by Elitsa @drybylondon

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    For the simple, yet classic bride, the double French manicure uses precision and negative spaces to achieve the desired look. Using a fine tip brush, paint white, or any colour for that matter, along the top of your nail and along the part of your nail that starts growing over your finger.

    50 Shade of nude

     

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    Gradient nudes are quite on trend at the moment, with an array of shades available. Solid colours for each nail is all the look requires, so there isn’t any detail to be concerned about. As long as the colours have a similar undertone (such as a cool or warm shade), they can work well together. Browns, taupes, light pinks and beiges are perfect nude options for all skin tones.

    Painted Cuticles

    The half-moon shape at the bottom of our nails is actually called a lunula. Not everyone’s lunula can be seen on their nails, however, this wedding nail trend exaggerates them in the most beautiful way possible. Start with a solid nude shade across the whole nail. Once dry, use white nail polish to form the half-moon across the base of the nail. This wedding nail trend keeps your nails neutral yet chic.

    Say it with a heart

    Subtle nail art speaks louder than over-the-top gestures in some cases, and this is definitely one of those times. A simple heart decal or even one done free-hand adds that romantic touch to a light pink manicured nail.

    Golden Edges

    Gold always adds that something extra to a nail design and draws your attention in. This look simply uses gold nail polish along the edges of the nail, from the base to the tips. Each nail is done differently to create variety within a look but still keep it cohesive.

    Mother Pearl

    Pearls are a wedding staple, and this look is no exception. Keep it subtle by only including pearl details on one of the fingers from each hand. Be sure to include the pearls while your polish is still wet so the pearls are held in place.

    Vertical Manicure

     

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    Turn the standard manicure on its side with this vertical French manicure. To create sharp line edges, use tape to block out the sections you wouldn’t want paint to get onto. To keep this look even more trendy, ensure the index finger is the only one with the manicure running the standard, horizontal way. Finish the look with a clear gel top coat and you’re good to go.

    Monograms

    Monograms are a personal touch to add on your special day. You are also able to include them on any nail colour, from darks to nudes. Including the monograms on your ring finger just emphasizes your wedding ring that much more. If you don’t have a steady hand to free-hand the letters, use vinyl stickers and ensure it’s sealed with a top coat to avoid any nicks and chips.

    Subtle Bubbles

     

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    With these nails, you might hear the bride shout ‘bubbly, please!’. A simple look, yet a stunning effect with just two colours. Begin with white nail polish and a dotting tool, creating larger white circles closer to the top of the nail and smaller circles around the middle, keep the bottom of the nail remaining clear. These dots can then be outlined using a gold fine brush and the entire nail look sealed off with a clear top coat.

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    Are expensive weddings overrated?

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    They say that money can’t buy everything (and certainly not love), but often when wedding plan talks are in the works, it’s easy to get caught up in the tale that “expensive is better.”

    But is it, actually?

    Recently, Reddit users decided to weigh in on the topic.

    u/11sam111 kicked off the conversation with the concept that expanding one’s budget to focus money beyond the big day (ie: on honeymoons!) is a better way to go than cashing it all in for a day where “you miss everything because it’s so busy.”

    Other Reddit users were quick to share their responses and shed light on what actually makes the day memorable that more often than not, doesn’t come with a price tag.

    Here’s what people’s thoughts were: 

    Stick to what you can afford

    “We had a $300 wedding and spent the $20k that would have gone to a bit wedding on a house down payment and medical bills for having our kid. On the other hand my friend had a $35k wedding that was two full days of having a blast with all of her loved ones and that’s okay too! No shame either way as long you stick to what you can afford and don’t hurt anyone.” – ThrowRA_SILspilled

    There might be better uses for the budget

    “I’ve talked with several people that did a similar thing, they all regret nothing. One took all the wedding money he was gonna spend and used it on a down payment for a house, and another used it to take a month off with his husband to travel.” – Jan_Itor_Md_

    If you spend it, don’t regret it

    “I have no regrets about spending money for an event that was meaningful to the people I love.” – the_lemon_lobster

    Don’t let your wedding put you in debt

    “One of my friends spent 30k on his wedding. Then was upset because he and his new wife couldn’t afford to get [an] apartment together because they were in debt for 25k cus they took a loan to pay for it. Just insanity” – keyboardstatic

    It’s your money

    “I mean honestly, it’s your money and people waste the majority of their money on frivolous stuff anyway so if that’s what you chose to spend your money on and it made you happy, then kudos to you. I’m not really knocking the people who do per se, I just don’t understand it. But I totally don’t need to.” –SonOfSet1

    A little first-class travel couldn’t hurt

    “I eloped with my now husband in feb of 2020 (pre lockdown) we used the money we save to fly to Thailand first class and spent two weeks travelling for only 8grand total! Waaaay better use of our time.” – MidnaMarbles

    What are your thoughts? Are you team “as expensive as possible” or team “save it for something else meaningful”?

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