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    Inviting your friends and family to your wedding day should not be taxing on the environment. The idea of posting your wedding invites is a thing of the past (or it should be) purely based on the carbon emissions that it takes to get your invite to each individual guest. Save costs and save the planet with these eco-friendly wedding invites.

     

    E-vites

    Inviting your guests to your wedding by way of email is a sure-fire way to protect the planet. Not only does it eliminate the risk of the invite getting “lost in the mail” but it gives your guest an effortless response mechanism. You can detail your invite as elaborately or minimalist as you please. It also allows you to keep track of who is and isn’t able to attend. Voila, planet saved.

     

    Seed paper invites

    If you’re old-school and want to send physical invites, fine, but be sure to use plantable seed paper. This can be sourced online. The paper is customisable and durable. Seed paper gives back to the planet by growing new plant life, in return for your carbon emission – unless you hand-delivered the invites in an electric car, of course.

    Make your own invites

    Again, if you want to keep things traditional, add an eco-spin. Make your own invites using compostable or seed paper, use environmentally-friendly ink and ensure no glue, wax, glitter or plastic is used in the process. Request that your guests RSVP electronically to you over email so that nothing gets lost along the way. By doing this you’ll have a digital record of attendees that can be used to send thank-you mailers out after the wedding. A win-win.

     

    Tips to remember:

    – Delivering invites means carbon emissions are offset into the atmosphere.

    – Glitter is a micro-plastic and is harmful to the natural world so avoid it at all costs.

    – Use seeded paper for all your wedding stationery, it helps the planet and small local businesses to thrive

    – An e-vite really is the most eco-friendly option available if you’re looking to keep your wedding as clean as possible.

     

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    Weddings can be filled with many surprises, but none quite compare to a famous celebrity dropping in for a quick hello. From Tom Hanks to Emila Clarke, here are the best celebrity wedding crashers.

    Snoop Dogg

    In 2014 Snoop Dogg was getting out of a limo in Chicago, when a photographer of a wedding at a Hard Rock Cafe spotted him. The photographer convinced him to jump in a photo and he hung out at the reception for a while afterwards.

     

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    Jus got Married

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    Bradley Cooper

    While visiting Georgetown University in 2016, Bradley Cooper, who attended the university, surprised a bride and groom. While they were having their wedding photos taken around the campus, Cooper jumped in on the fun and congratulated the couple.

    Tom Hanks

    The kindest man in the world, Tom Hanks, veered off his run in Central Park to congratulate two newlyweds. He also offered to officiate their wedding. Hanks is a serial wedding crasher, according to Insider. While filming Angels & Demons in Italy, Hanks crashed a wedding and escorted the bride to the church.

    Jon Bon Jovi

    A singer spotted Jon Bon Jovi in attendance at a wedding and began singing her version of “Livin’ on a Prayer” when eventually she coaxed the legend on stage. Watch the video below.

     

    Jennifer Hudson

    Jennifer Hudson surprised a same-sex couple at their wedding in Huston. The surprise performance happened shortly after the Obergefell case that legalized gay marriage in the USA.

     

    Ed Sheeran

    Who wouldn’t want Ed Sheeran to crash their wedding? Sydney-based radio show Kyle & Jackie O, who paid for the wedding after learning that the couple had to postpone their ceremony for financial reasons. The radio duo attended the wedding and brought along Ed Sheeran to sing their first dance song.

     

    Maroon 5 crashed a number of weddings for their “Sugar” music video

    In 2014, Maroon 5 took it upon themselves to crash as many weddings as possible in one day. The band were filming their music video and the result is epic. Despite some claiming some of the crashes were staged, a few wedding photographers from the ceremony spoke to USA Today confirming they weren’t all staged.

     

    Serena Williams

    Minding her own business on Miami Beach in 2014, Serena Williams was spotted by a wedding party. A friend of the bride and groom went to chat to her and she obliged to meeting the couple. She congratulated them and took pictures with the couple while sporting a gorgeous leopard print one suit.

     

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    Billy Murray

    Bill Murray was being himself when he sat in on a few pictures of a couple’s engagement. Looking totally chill and unassuming, Murray makes for a good photobomber.

    Chris Hemsworth

    A couple had gotten married in Byron Bay in Australia and the best man spotted the actor surfing. He approached Hemsworth and asked if he would take some photos with the couple. The bride had no idea who the actor was and even asked, “Who is this person?”.

    Emilia Clarke and Nathalie Emmanuel accidentally crashed a “Game of Thrones” themed wedding

    Unlike the weddings in Game of Thrones, this was a happy ending. Emila Clarke and Nathalie Emmanuel were staying at a hotel where a GoT-themed wedding was being held. Watch below to hear what happened.

    Read: Lil Nas gatecrashes Disney-themed wedding

     

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    Everyone loves a rose, a hydrangea, stargazer lilies or orchids in their bouquets. These exquisite flowers are staples in many a flower arrangement but dare we say, they’re outdated?

    If you’re looking to bring some flair to your flowers, make your bouquet out of these gorgeous indigenous flowers:

    The King Protea

    Yes, yes this is not a revelation and has been popular in many a bouquet. It’s easy to see why, though. The National Flower of South Africa is a seriously beautiful plant that deserves a spot in your flower arrangements.

     

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    Impala lily 

    St Joseph’s and stargazers are spectacular, we can’t deny it. The pollen, while fragrant, will leave a whole mess on your white dress. Switch it out for some beautiful impala lilies, which will bring the best of the white and pink to your bunch.

     

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    Never a dull moment ?#impalalily #wildflowers #flower #oursingita #sabisands #southafrica #nature

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    Yellow arum lily 

    If you really want to make a statement, pop a few yellow arrum lilies into your bouquet. These beautiful plants look otherworldly and the colour is captivating.

    Watsonia

    If you want to splash some pink into the mix, the elegant and dainty watsonia is your plant. These flowers are subtle yet sophisticated and will tie your flower arrangement together.

     

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    Barberton daisy

    These robust beauties come in many different colours, so the choice is yours. In the South African context though, this specific flower is bright red, giving your bouquet an edge.

     

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    Agapanthus or lily of the Nile 

    While not only found in South Africa, the lily of the Nile is common in many gardens across the country. These flowers bloom in purple and white, so if you want to tone your bouquet up or down, this is your flower.

     

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    Sunflowers 

    Cute and quirky, sunflowers are a marvellous plant. Again they are not endemic to South Africa (we know) but they beloved by us. A bouquet of sunflowers could be a simple yet bold move.

     

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    Dried English lavender 

    Dried bouquets are a massive wedding trend. If you’re looking to keep things neutral and want to add a hint of colour to your flowers, opt for some dried English lavender. It still retains some of the deep purple but without being over the top.

     

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    Our online dried flower shop is incoming! Keep on the look out for updated inventory. & Email for custom bouquets!

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    Pampas grass

    This versatile, South American plant can be used in so many ways throughout your wedding. They can be shaped, twisted and dyed to suit your wedding colour theme. They will also add an effortless elegance and feathery femininity to your bouquet.

     

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    Pampaslarimiz yol kenarindan toplama degil,özel yetiştirme ürundür. Lutfen yol kenarlarindan toplanmis yabani pampaslar ile fiyat kiyaslamasi yapmayiniz.. Stoklarimiz sinirli sayida olmayıp daimi olarak binlerce siparis temin edebiliriz.. Toplu alimlarda iskontomuz vardir. Turkiyede bircok ile toptan satis tarafimizca yapilip, yurt disi gönderilerimiz icinde anlasmali kargo sirketi ile cok uygun fiyatlara gondermekteyiz. Yurt ici ve yurt disi referanslarimiz icin lutfen sayfamizi takip edip inceleyiniz.#pampas #pampasotu #pampastag #pampasgrass #pampasbitkisi #pampaswedding #sözmasası #pampasçiceği #pampasorganizasyon #nikahmasasi #nişanorganizasyonu#sazlıkotu #tarzevlerr #nişanmasası#tarzevler#organizasyon #organizasyonmalzemeleri #organizasyonçiçekleri #kınaorganizasyon #dugunorganizasyon #gelincicegi #gelintagı #gelinmasası #gelinmasasıçiçeği #evdekorasyonu #evdekorasyonfikirleri #evinizdekitarz #tagyapimi #tag #gelintagıarkafon

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    Tip: Consult with your florist as to when these flowers are in season and what their availability is. Some may not bloom en masse, making it tricky to hero it for the entire flower ensemble.

     

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    Does the thought of planning a fancy dinner for hundreds of people, a year in advance, with the focus of everyone’s attention only on you scare you or excite you? If it’s the former and this sounds like your worst nightmare of a wedding, then why not elope?

    Skip the excessive and unnecessary spending and choose a destination you and your partner have dreamed of visiting. Do some research on local wedding officiates and choose somewhere. Pack a bag and be gone.

    If you want to be a little less dramatic, tell your family that your wedding is going to be extremely intimate: you, your partner, the officiate and a photographer. They can’t disown you for wanting to celebrate your special day the way you want to. It’s your day, not theirs.

    If the idea of an intimate wedding excites you, here is some inspiration to hopefully get you to commit to your authentic happily ever after.

     

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    We’ve been going to Yosemite regularly for about 5 years now. And by the end of every season we’re pretty much ready to hit the road and get out of the valley scene (especially now that we work during most of our time there). After weeks of keeping Charlie on leash (and keeping ourselves in invisible leashes ?), we all look forward to that moment we get over the pass and stop in some BLM or National Forest land to slip our collars and let loose. – But then…without fail, there comes a time when I start missing Yosemite like hell and dreaming of our next trip back! And while I’m certainly no where near ready to leave Moab yet, I’ve been dreaming of lazy days in the meadows and sunset after sunset at the top of my favorite cliff this summer season. I know we’ve made Moab our physical home, and I truly wouldn’t choose anywhere else in the world for it, but I’m pretty sure I’ll never stop day dreaming of Yosemite when I’m away. I’ve been saying this for years…but being torn between two places in this way is such a gift. Today I’m soaking up the sun in the Moab desert and dreaming of the breeze in Yosemite Valley. I wouldn’t have it any other way!

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    Are there any dog lovers in the followers? <3 I have done many wedding portraits with my couples dogs and this elopement became so close my heart since they had their dog with them all day. Did you know that in Colorado (America), your dog can sign as your wedding witness on your marriage license? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Sent via @planoly #planoly #adventurouscouple #adventureelopement #adventurewedding #belovedstories #elopementinspiration #elopement helloelopement #adventurealways #mountaingirls #elopementphotographer #hike365 #helloelopement #elopementwedding #icelandelopement #icelandwedding #icelandweddingphotographer #icelandweddingplanner #wanderingweddings #destinationwedding #dogsofinstagram #dogslife

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    Two years ago….. ?#Anniversary #TheDrsRichardson #WeEloped #NYC #CentralPark ? @iamreginafleming

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    Let’s get creative with your engagement pictures. Boy meets girl…Major “Notebook” vibes with this one, and I love it! Thanks to Mason and Mary for trusting me!! @mary_bullock22 @mason_armstrongg . . . #engagementpictures #wereengaged #engagementphotos #engagementphotosession #alabamacouplesphotographer #alabamacouples #alabamaphotographer #alabamaweddingphotographer #outdoorphotography #outdoorphotoshoot #boatengagementsession #boatphotoshoot #notebookengagementsession #moodyengagement #moodyphotography #bohowedding #bohoweddingphotographer #bohoweddingvibes #bohophotography #destinationphotographer #destinationwedding #destinationweddingphotographer #elopementphotographer #elopementphotography #weeloped #elopementwedding #mountainelopement #beachelopement #woodsyelopement #outdoorelopement

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    There is a global movement toward living a more environmentally conscious lifestyle. People are more aware of their day-to-day impact on the natural environment and so eco-conscious weddings are rapidly growing in popularity. Here are some ways you can make your wedding as eco-friendly as possible.

    1. Leaf Confetti

    Say goodbye to the harmful dyed paper that is confetti and hello to compostable confetti punched from fallen leaves. You can use a punch that is either the traditional circular shape, or spice things up and find a punch that cuts heart, star or even flower shapes. The use of leaves means no one has to clean up the mess that other confetti leaves behind. Rice is not an eco-alternative as it is a waste of food and petals are not an alternative option either. Yes they are biodegradable but spending an exorbitant amount of money on flowers, only to rip them apart, is just illogical. Fallen leaf confetti for the win!

     

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    Gum leaf confetti ❤ Making progress #wedding #weddingconfetti #leafconfetti #gumleafconfetti #environmentallyfriendly

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    2. Compostable cutlery and crockery

    Rather than bleeding the bank dry and renting a dinner service large enough for your wedding, purchase compostable cutlery in bulk for your special day. From plates, to bowls, straws, knives, forks and spoons – compostable crockery and cutlery exists in all shapes and sizes. No one remembers the plates you used for your wedding dinner, but they may want to copy your trendsetting notion to save the planet. At the end of the reception, no water or electricity has to be used to clean dinner plates and dessert bowls. Just pop them into a biodegradable bag and use them to start a compost heap. It’s a win-win for Mother Nature.

    Check out Green Home for all your compostable crockery and cutlery needs.

     

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    3. Take meat off the menu

    Do you want to save money, protect the atmosphere and nourish your guests? Then take meat off the menu for your wedding reception. The idea may cause an outrage among your guests but remember, this is your wedding not theirs. They will survive one night without it. The meat industry contributes greatly to global warming from its CO2 emissions. Did you know that one beef burger with toppings and a bun requires around 3,140 litres of water to be made? So why not lay off the globe’s most precious resource and indulge your guests in a delectable vegetarian (or even better, vegan) menu? With ample vegetarian and vegan food catering companies across South Africa, there really is no excuse for keeping meat on the menu.

     

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    Pasta with tomato & cream sauce by @beferox Follow us @vegadishes for daily vegan recipes Ingredients • 1 small onion, very finely chopped • 3 tbsp. vegan butter • 2 tbsp. flour • 150ml vegetable broth • 250ml unsweetend plantbased milk (I like to use oat milk) • 1 tsp. dried oregano • 2 tbsp. Nutritional yeast • Salt and pepper • 1 tsp. sugar • 1 tsp. lemon juice • • • Instructions 1. Melt 2 tbsp. vegan butter in a saupan over medium heat. Add very finely chopped onion and cook for about 2 minutes or until onion becomes translucent. 2. Add another tablespoon of butter. Once the butter is melted, whisk in 2 tbsp flour. 3. Add vegetable broth and oat milk and whisk everything together until smooth. 4. Then, turn up the heat to high, add oregano, nutritional yeast, a pinch of pepper, sugar and lemon juice and continue whisking until the sauce starts to boil. 5. Once the sauce is boiling, turn off the heat, whisk for a few more seconds and add more salt if needed. . . . . #vegancheese #vegan #veganfoodshare #plantbasedrecipes #veganfood #plantbasedmeal #whatveganseat #veganfoodporn #veganrecipe #plantbased #vegandinner #plantbasedfoodie #vegetarian #healthyrecipes #plantbasedvegan #vegetarianrecipes #veganrecipes #veganpasta #veganbowl #plantbasedfoods #veganlunch #vegansofig #vegancomfortfood #plantbase #plantbaseddiet #vegans #plantbasedrecipe #plantbasedmeals #plantbasedfood #vegetarianfood

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    4. Solar power

    Try find a wedding venue that operates only on solar power and keep your wedding off the grid. You won’t have to worry about load shedding mid-I do, or rely on a back up generator if the power goes out during your first dance. Renewable energy will help keep your wedding eco-friendly. Alternatively, you can swap out the candles and use battery operated fairy lights or Console jars that will help keep your wedding lit well into the night.

     

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    Just some lights in a jar . . . . . . #console #consolejars #sunsetshoot #lionshead #fairylights #goldenhour #fairylightphotography

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    5. Give the gift of spekboom

    If you’re planning on giving a thank you gift, give your guests a spekboom cutting each. Spekboom is South Africa’s endemic wonder plant. This shrub is packed with Vitamin C and the succulent leaves are pro photosynthesisers, the process of making plant food from sunlight. This produces oxygen as a by-product, and we all know how important that is. Spekbom, also known as pork bush and Elephant’s food, is more effective than the Amazon rainforest at sucking carbon dioxide out of the atmosphere. Specifically, spekboom can sequester over 4 tonnes of carbon dioxide per year per hectare planted. Spekboom is a water-wise, drought resistant plant that is also edible. Spekbooms can literally be cut and stuck in some soil in a pot and left to thrive. Keep things green with this carbon dioxide sequestering machine. 

    Other eco-friendly tips:

    – NO balloons! Balloons are one of the largest contributors to oceanic waste, they are as deadly to marine life as they are pretty to humans.

    – NO glitter! Glitter is essentially a microplastic that pollutes the environment and can be harmful to wildlife if consumed. The definition of ‘environmentally friendly’ glitter differs from producer to producer and so its best to just avoid, avoid, avoid.

    – NO fake flowers! Fake flowers may be a pretty element to your decor and theme but by using them you create a demand for the plastic industry and this is what your eco-wedding is trying to avoid.

    – Use a local dress and suit maker for your attire: Supporting a small business is a great way to give back to the community and to cut your carbon emission by avoiding having a dress and suit made somewhere that requires excessive travel.

    – Have a bouquet made up from endemic plants only. This will not only bring a local flair to your day but is a conservationist approach to the flora you use.

    – Use an electric vehicle for your wedding car. Lay off the fossil fuels and roll up to your wedding venue in an eco-friendly, electric vehicle.

    – Serve vegan wines. With less harmful toxins, higher resveratol, lower sulphates and a low impact on the environment – switch out the traditional for the environmentally friendly wines. There are ample South African wineries that offer vegan wines, so you have plenty of choice.

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    Amanda Bynes announced her engagement on social media on Valentine’s Day. She uploaded a photo of the diamond ring to Instagram with the caption “Engaged to tha love of my life.”

     

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    Engaged to tha love of my life

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    According to The Blast, her fiancé is Paul Michael. The couple met at AA classes and have been together for three months. Bynes is under a parental conservatorship. This means her parents have been appointed by a judge to manage her financial affairs and/ or daily life due to mental or physical limitations. In order for the marriage to be legal, Bynes would need a judge to sign off on it.

     

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    On Valentine’s Day, Emirates shared a video of a couple getting engaged on board one of their flights. According to the airline, the woman, Vasti, had always wanted to be proposed to in the air.

    Her boyfriend, William, took the opportunity to pop the question while en route to Johannesburg on board an Emirates A380 flight.

    William led Vasti to the First Class lounge where the Emirates cabin crew had created a romantic setting. The lights were set to red, creating a loved-up ambiance.

    In the video, William can be seen speaking to Vasti, before getting on one knee. Watch the heartwarming moment below:

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    Austrian countess Olympia von und zu Arco-Zinneberg married Prince Jean-Christophe Napoleon Bonaparte on 19 October 2019 in a magical ceremony in Paris.

     

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    I’m happy to report that our photo of our lovely Paris couple from last Saturday is gracing the cover of French magazine Point de Vue today. Check out the cover in our stories! ✨ . . . . Bride’s Dress by @oscardelarenta , Hair + Makeup by @gerhardmeir_salon, Christian Bräuer, Jean-Luc Minetti @alexandredeparis_coiffure . . . . . . #pariswedding #weddinginfrance #royalwedding #oscardelarenta #weddingphotography #destinationwedding #boda #destinationweddingphotographer #wanderingphotographers #fineartwedding #hochzeit #junebugweddings #greenweddingshoes #authenticlovemag #loveintentionally #ruffledblog #magnoliarouge #wayupnorth #firstandlasts #soloverly #thehappynow #iconoclashphotography #heyheyhellomay #weddingphotoinspiration #weddingdress #bridalstyle #classicbride #novia

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    Prince Jean-Christophe is the great-great-great nephew of Napoleon Bonaparte and Countess Olympia is the great-great-great niece of his second wife, Archduchess Marie-Louise.

    In a symbolic union, one can say that history has repeated itself as the (former) Imperial House of France and the Austrian House of Habsburg wed once more. Minus the political motivation.

    In 1810, the wedding of Napoleon Bonaparte I and the Archduchess Marie-Louise of Austria that took place was a strategic move by the Archduchess to end the conflict between Austria and France.

    The bride looked elegant and beautiful in her satin-and-lace Oscar de la Renta gown. The dress had a cut-out fern monogram that fit her perfectly. To match, she sported a caplet for the ceremony which was taken off for the reception, held at the historic Palace of Fontainebleau.

    Traipsing behind the gown was a gorgeous veil, trimmed with matching lace. Atop her head sat a bejewelled tiara.

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    When you find the person who you want to spend forever with, you are aware of the different personality traits you each possess.
    We spoke to Helen Searra, a qualified life coach about wedding planning and here is what she had to say about grooms who have no interest in wedding-planning.
    “While planning a wedding may be of interest to you, he may not share the same feeling. This does not mean he isn’t interested in the wedding.
    “Having different interests and hobbies make a relationship interesting. You can learn from one another. Find out if something you’re interested in might be something he’s interested in but has never had the opportunity to explore, and vice versa.
    F”ocus on each others strengths.  Some people have no idea or desire to party plan.  Don’t take this personally!
    Find a group of friends or family who love party planning.
    “Share the fun of planning with people who are interested, that is the best way to generate fabulous, creative ideas.
    “Have fun putting the event together and sharing the progress with your partner rather than setting him up to fail.
    “The couples attitude and behaviour during the wedding planning can set up a repetitive dance in the marriage going forward, should they come from overly invested expectations of each other.” concluded Searra.
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     Helen Searra is a Cape Town-based life coach. She has been practicing for 10 years in her field. She offers individual counseling sessions and couples counseling both in person or remotely over Skype. She offers package deals of either 4, 6 or 8 sessions. To enquire for a rates card, contact Helen on [email protected]
    Counselling is an imperative part of getting married. Couples can get swept away in the planning of a wedding, losing sight of the reasons why they are getting married. Speaking to a counsellor is essential for a couple as it will assist in mediating and fine-tuning the individual needs of each person’s expectations of marriage.
    Helen Searra, Cape Town-based life coach, says it is imperative to start off such a huge commitment on a positive note.

    “By getting a professional involved, it will allow both parties to be heard, without interruption, so that clear communication can be made. It offers a safe environment for couples to access their emotions and concerns thereby addressing issues that may otherwise lay dormant for years,” said Searra.

    Her other advice is: Marriage is about being real and counseling allows you to get real with each other, without losing your identity while you are in the “contracting” stage of your relationship.
    “When we meet our life partner we not only bring 2 people into the contract, we bring our families, friends, childhoods, different belief systems, cultures and life experiences. Investing in emotional support in building the best foundations for your relationship from the beginning  is  vitally important.”
    With the help of a counsellor, there is no worry to small or obstacle too big for a couple to overcome before getting married.
    Helen Searra is a Cape Town-based life coach. She has been practicing for 10 years in her field. She offers individual counseling sessions and couples counseling both in person or remotely over Skype. She offers package deals of either 4, 6 or 8 sessions. To enquire for a rates card, contact Helen on [email protected]

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