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    Reminiscent of sunshine, yellow is often considered the happiest colour. It is bright, bold and vibrant yet soft at the same time.

    PANTONE 13-0647 Illuminating, a warm yellow shade, is one of the Pantone colours of the year, which means this hue is about to be all over the runways and the wedding world.

    While many flowers come in yellow, our favourites are tulips, dahlias and, of course, sunflowers. The best way to pull off this trend is to opt for a variety of yellow shades and throw in some white flowers to break up the colour.

    Here are some bouquets to inspire you:

     

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    Weddings can change even the most rational person into a bridezilla. Unfortunately for these bridesmaids, their bride got a bit too controlling and laid down the law, giving them a 37-rule contract of do’s and don’t to follow in the lead up to the big day.

    According to the Mirror UK, the bride demanded her bridesmaids may not alter their hair colour, gain more than 3kg or intentionally fall pregnant before the wedding.

    Bridesmaids also required a doctor’s note to miss dress fittings or any bridal activities like the bachelorette party.

    The bride even went so far as to ban her bridesmaids from wearing false eyelashes, ban colourful nails and glossy coloured lipstick.

    Here are the rules in full:

    – I will not try to convince the bride to change anything in her wedding.

    – I will not talk negative about anyone in the wedding.

    – I will wear only black or dark brown hair on the day of the wedding (highlights may be accepted with prior approval).

    – I cannot wear any lashes the day of the wedding unless professionally installed.

    – I have to attend the bridal shower and bachelorette party, fitting and rehearsals and wedding (only time this can be missed is death or jail, pregnancy over five months and some sickness with recent doctor’s note).

    – I will take care of my skin, hair and nails from now until the wedding.

    – The bride will choose my make-up artist the day of the wedding.

    – I will agree to wear the dress the bride chooses regardless of my own opinions, style or colour.

    – I will not wear any extra accessories, items of clothing or jewellery the day of the wedding except my wedding or engagement ring.

    – I will not intentionally fall pregnant before the wedding. (Pregnancy under five months will not be excused from attending wedding events.)

    – I will support the bride in everything she chooses.

    – I will not consume more than seven units of alcohol during any event except the bachelorette party (there will be no limit).

    – I will not bring a date to wedding or reception without bridal approval.

    – I will not bring any outside people, except kids, to any meeting.

    – I will not bring my kids to the wedding unless they are a part of the wedding party (no exceptions).

    – I will make sure I have an accountable babysitter the day of all events and I understand that no show for no babysitter will not be an acceptable excuse.

    – I will not make any advances towards males in the wedding party.

    – I will not date anyone in the wedding party that I wasn’t dating before I signed this contract.

    – I will be happy and positive at all times during wedding and reception.

    – I will not grow sensitive and angry with the bride because I understand that she has a bossy attitude.

    – I will not attempt to outdo the bride in any way.

    – I will wear the hairstyle the bride chooses for the wedding day.

    – I understand that I have to purchase my own dress and shoes and hairstyle for the wedding.

    – I understand that the bachelorette party may be a destination getaway.

    – I understand that I have to purchase a bachelorette party T-shirt and fund my own trip if it is away.

    – I understand that the maid and matron of honour will need help funding some of the events.

    – I understand that the bride does not want any suggestion and this agreement is on here twice, two different ways, because the bride wants it to be clear. Only suggestion allowed is a way to get her exact item at a cheaper price.

    – I will not drop out of the wedding party for any of the reasons listed above. If I do not like anything listed, I will not sign the contract and I will be replaced. I understand that if I do not agree to the above terms it will not ruin the bride and I’s friendship. But if I sign and agree and later want to drop out, then it will ruin our friendship.

    – I understand that no friendship to the bride is bigger than anyone in her wedding party and everyone will be treated equally.

    – I understand that I may have to do physical activity at the reception and this requires practices provided by the bride.

    – No coloured contact lenses allowed.

    – No black drawn-on eyebrows or thick drawn-on (matter of fact, revert back to make-up law above).

    – No glossy coloured lipstick allowed (the kind that looks very, very shiny and bright).

    – No colourful nails the day of the wedding. Only colours allowed are American, French or Nudes.

    – I will provide the bride with my normal seven-day schedule within five days of signing this contract.

    – I will agree to save at least $50 (about R740) a month for expenses for the next 14 months.

    Unfortunately for the bride, not all of her bridesmaids were on board with her expectations. Only six of the ten bridesmaids ended up agreeing and signing the contract.

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    The world breathed a collective sigh of relief when the clock struck midnight on New Year’s Eve and brought 2020 to an end. As the old year ends a new one begins, bringing with it new trends to try.

    Pantone released its highly anticipated annual Pantone color of the year, coming out with not one but two shades that will dominate trends in 2021.

    The two shades picked are PANTONE 17-5104 Ultimate Gray + PANTONE 13-0647 Illuminating, meant to convey a message of strength and hopefulness that is both enduring and uplifting, perfect for wedding season.

    “PANTONE 17-5104 Ultimate Gray + PANTONE 13-0647 Illuminating, two independent colors that highlight how different elements come together to support one another, best express the mood for Pantone Color of the Year 2021,” the website explains.

    “Practical and rock solid but at the same time warming and optimistic, the union of PANTONE 17-5104 Ultimate Gray + PANTONE 13-0647 Illuminating is one of strength and positivity. It is a story of color that encapsulates deeper feelings of thoughtfulness with the promise of something sunny and friendly.

    “A message of happiness supported by fortitude, the combination of PANTONE 17-5104 Ultimate Gray + PANTONE 13-0647 Illuminating is aspirational and gives us hope. We need to feel that everything is going to get brighter – this is essential to the human spirit.

    “As people look for ways to fortify themselves with energy, clarity, and hope to overcome the continuing uncertainty, spirited and emboldening shades satisfy our quest for vitality. PANTONE 13-0647 Illuminating is a bright and cheerful yellow sparkling with vivacity, a warming yellow shade imbued with solar power. PANTONE 17-5104 Ultimate Gray is emblematic of solid and dependable elements which are everlasting and provide a firm foundation.

    “The colors of pebbles on the beach and natural elements whose weathered appearance highlights an ability to stand the test of time, Ultimate Gray quietly assures, encouraging feelings of composure, steadiness and resilience.”

    While unusual shades at first glance, this yellow and grey pairing has such a sweet message that will be especially meaningful in 2021.

    Yellow bridesmaid dresses, and sunny decor can be calmed down with modern grey touches. They work especially well with outdoor summer and spring weddings.

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    On your wedding day, it’s important to feel comfortable and stay true to yourself. Many brides may opt to up the sexy factor but if that does not feel authentic to you, don’t worry about it.

    Dressing modestly does not have to be boring. You can still make a stylish statement while covering your cleavage, legs and arms if that is what makes you feel most comfortable. The important aspect then comes in the design of your wedding dress.

    Lace, embellishments and beadwork do wonders for bringing life to an otherwise simple silhouette. If you’re not one for sparkle, opt for a more modern cut like a cape that will still cover your arms while giving you a fashionable edge at the same time. A super-long train and subtle corset detailing are also subtle ways to add a unique touch to your look.

    Here are some stunning brides who rocked modest bridal fashion on their big day:

     

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    We live in a culture that values “experiences”. These are often promoted in the media, and by those selling them, as vital to enhancing our well-being.

    We all know big life events like marriage, parenthood, job loss and the death of loved one can affect our well-being. But by how much and for how long?

    We set out to measure the effect of major life events – 18 in total – on well-being. To do so we used a sample of about 14,000 Australian adults tracked over 16 years. Some of our results were expected. Others were surprising.

    Overall, our results show good events like marriage improved some aspects of well-being, but bad events like health shocks had larger negative effects. For good and bad events, changes in well-being were temporary, usually disappearing by 3-4 years.

    Here are some of our most interesting findings.

    Happiness versus life satisfaction

    Our study distinguished two different aspects of well-being: “happiness” and “life satisfaction”. Researchers often treat these as the same thing, but they are different.

    Happiness is the positive aspect of our emotions. People’s self-reported happiness tends to be fairly stable in adulthood. It follows what psychologists call “set point theory” – people have a “normal” level of happiness to which they usually return over the long run.

    Life satisfaction is driven more by one’s sense of accomplishment in life. A person can be satisfied, for example, because they have a good job and healthy family but still be unhappy.

    Life events often affect happiness and life satisfaction in the same direction: things that make you happier tend to also improve your life satisfaction. But not always, and the size of the effects frequently differ.

    In the case of having a child, the contrast is stark. Right after the birth, parents are more satisfied but less happy, possibly reflecting the demands of caring for a newborn (eg. sleep deprivation).

    Changes are temporary

    After almost all events (both good and bad), well-being tends to return to a personal set point. This process is known as the hedonic treadmill – as people adapt to their new circumstances, well-being returns to baseline. This has been found in other studies as well.

    The good news is that even after very bad events, most people seem to eventually return to their set-point well-being level. Even after an extremely bad event such as the death of a spouse, people’s well-being generally recovers in two to three years. This doesn’t mean they don’t carry pain from the experience, but it does mean they can feel happy again.

    Bad events affect us more

    The detrimental effects of bad events on well-being outweigh the positive effect of good events. Negative effects also last longer. This is partly because most people are happy and satisfied in general, so there is more “room” to feel worse than better. In fact, we can’t confidently say there is any positive cumulative effect of good events on happiness at all. However, marriage, retirement, childbirth and financial gains all temporarily improve overall life satisfaction.

    Our finding that “losses” hurt more than “gains” mirrors decades of behavioural economics research showing people are generally “loss averse” – going to more effort to avoid losses than to chase gains.

    The bad events that have the largest total effects are death of a spouse or child, financial loss, injury, illness and separation.

    Small, fleeting effects

    Starting a new job, getting promoted, being fired and moving house are events that people often fixate on as either stressful or to be celebrated. But, on average, these don’t seem to affect well-being that much. Their effects are comparatively very small and generally fleeting.

    This could be because of differences in the nature of these events for different people, or that they frequently occur. For example, being fired can be devastating. But for someone close to retirement who receives a large redundancy payment and moves to the coast, it might be a positive experience.

    An important caveat to our study is that it reflects the average experiences of people. There are likely to be some people who experience long-lasting improvements in well-being after good events. There will also be people who experience sustained decreased well-being after bad events. In future work we hope to identify these different people and isolate the characteristics that predict what responses to different events will look like.

    The things that matter

    Our results caution against chasing happiness through positive experiences alone. The impact, if any, seems small and fleeting, as the hedonic treadmill drags us back to our own well-being set point.

    Instead, we might do better by focusing on the things that protect us against feeling devastated by bad events. The most important factors are strong relationships, good health and managing exposure to financial losses.

    In 2020 we might also take consolation from the fact that, although it will take time, our well-being can recover from even the worst circumstances.

    We humans are a resilient bunch.The Conversation

    This article is written by Nathan Kettlewell, Chancellor’s Postdoctoral Research Fellow, Economics Discipline Group, University of Technology Sydney; Nick Glozier, Professor of Psychological Medicine, BMRI & Disciplne of Psychiatry, University of Sydney, and Richard Morris, Research scientist, University of Sydney

    This article is republished from The Conversation under a Creative Commons license. Read the original article.

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    As we bid 2020 goodbye and ring in 2021, with no end in sight yet to the Covid-19 pandemic that has forever changed our world, it’s worth taking a look at how Wrapistry has evolved to help couples – and their loved ones – celebrate their most important moments.

    Wrapistry is a local online registry and gift store aimed at making happy couples (and their guests) even happier by creating the ultimate registry experience. They’ve already proven themselves market leaders in the wedding gift registry space and now they’ve evolved, just like the couples they help celebrate do, by creating baby registries to welcome new bundles of joy to the world.

    “Weddings are just one part of a couple’s journey together. We want to be a part of every chapter. So, it makes sense for reimagining the baby registry to be our next adventure,” comments CEO, Jed Shein.

    Brick-and-mortar shopping has quite rightly developed into the click-and-mortar variety: you order online and have it delivered to your home. Wrapistry uses design and technology combined with exceptional customer service to help couples – and their loved ones – browse through a curated selection of everything that new parents and the new arrival may need. Couples can choose from an amazing range of products. From stylish cots and sleek strollers to everyday essentials (think cutlery sets and vests), Wrapistry has created the ultimate baby registry. Plus, new, beautiful items are added to the online store each week.

    Let’s face it, traditional gift registries don’t leave much room for creativity. With Wrapistry, though, couples can ask for what they actually want. They can register for gifts and cash funds – all in one place – so their loved ones have options. And when they really desire a big-ticket item (a baby stroller or bassinet, for example), simply turn on group gifting and give guests the opportunity to contribute what they can. No stress, no hassle and no fuss of keeping tallies of who gave what – Wrapistry does that all for you.

    “Creating a gift registry should be one of the most fun experiences,” says co-founders Pat Berman and Linda Shein.

    Family and friends may not always be able to celebrate a baby’s arrival in person during a pandemic, and that makes giving them the option of gifting something special that they know the couple chose themselves so much more special. For the couple, the Wrapistry team is on hand to help. The team has learnt much over the years: from the most popular gifts to the average amount people spend. Answer a few questions and they’ll recommend how many gifts to add to the registry, based on price point and category. This way not only will the new parents get a variety of items, but also accommodate different budgets.

    Each Wrapistry registry includes:

    – The option to play around with photos, background images and customise the welcome message.

    – Notifications every time guests shop the registry.

    – Free delivery. Plus, the option to choose when to have gifts delivered.

    – Free exchanges before closing the registry.

    – A 10% registry completion discount.

    – Support for the couple and their guests.

    Visit wrapistry.shop today to create the perfect registry for the new chapter you’re about to enter as parents.

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    Your wedding decor can make or break your overall theme. However, you don’t need to go bankrupt to make a statement.

    There are so many household items that just need some dressing up, and they will look spectacular on your wedding table. Think bottles, mirrors and candles. They key is to add variety with different heights and shapes.

    Spraypaint your items to match your colour scheme, and add fairy lights for a romantic touch. The possibilities are endless.

    Here are some ideas to inspire you:

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    What began as a simple COVID-19 vaccination ended as a sweet marriage proposal for this healthcare couple.

    Robbie Vargas-Cortes (31) who works as a paramedic and EMS supervisor, was one of the first healthcare workers in Canton, South Dakota to receive the COVID-19 vaccine. His partner Eric Vanderlee, a registered nurse, was one of the vaccine administrators at Sanford Health.

    Vargas-Cortes then decided to use this opportunity to plan the perfect surprise proposal. During the appointment, Vargas-Cortes rolled up his sleeve to reveal his arm and receive the vaccine, but to Vanderlee’s surprise there was already tape on his arm.

    Initially, Vanderlee thought it was his partner’s way of jokingly showing him where the vaccine needle should go. Upon closer inspection, however, he realised that there was a ring taped to his partner’s arm.

    “It just kind of dawned on me and I was like, ‘absolutely, of course, yes.’ It was just an amazing moment after I figured it out,” Vanderlee told CNN.

    “Robby got his vaccine – and an enthusiastic yes from his now fiancé. Congratulations, Eric and Robby!” wrote Sanford Health in a Facebook post.

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    Food Network star Ina Garten, also known as the Barefoot Contessa, and husband Jeffrey are celebrating a momentous 52 years of marriage.

    Taking to social media, Garten shared a sweet throwback of the couple on their wedding day to honour the occasion.

    “Fifty-two years and still having so much fun! You gave me a life I could never have dreamed of. Happy Anniversary my love. (What’s up with that cake??)”

     

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    The pair met in 1964, when Ina was visiting her brother at Dartmouth University, which they all attended. Jeffrey marvelled at her beauty from the library window, telling a friend “Look at that girl, isn’t she beautiful?”

    Funnily enough, the friend knew Ina as she was the younger sister of a friend who actually had a date with her that very night. Luckily, that date did not lead to anything more and Jeffery jumped at his chance to start something. He began writing Ina letters in the hopes they would meet one day.

    Months later, the pair finally met up for their first date. Afterwards, Jeffrey continued to write to Ina almost daily.

    Ina and Jeffrey tied the knot in 1968 when she was 20 and he 22. They married at her parents’ home in Connecticut.

     

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    Since then, Jeffrey has been a major support as Garten’s culinary career blew up with her Food Network show. He often features in episodes, and has become a welcome addition to the show for many fans.

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    “I do”, said the bride to her laptop. No, this isn’t a dystopian telling of our future in which robots are our new partners, it’s a reality for many separated by thousands of kilometres amid the COVID-19 pandemic.

    Amid the pandemic, some couples forced apart are still going ahead with their wedding day, albeit in a much less traditional format. If you thought Zoom weddings were novel, wait till you hear about double proxy weddings, the hot new trend in 2020.

    A proxy wedding or proxy marriage is a wedding in which one or both of the individuals getting married are not physically present for the nuptials, and are represented by other people standing in for them. A double proxy wedding is when both partners are physically absent and two other people stand in for them.

    This is legally permissible under certain circumstance in some parts of the world, like if one partner is enrolled in military service, imprisoned or due to travel restrictions. Importantly, this marriage is not legally recognised by most countries as common law requires both parties to be present.

    Marriage by proxy was very common among nobility centuries ago. Marie Antoinette married Louis-Auguste by proxy in 1770 and French emperor Napoleon married Archduchess Marie Louise by proxy in 1810. This service became even more popular in the early 1900s in America during the war efforts.

    In 2020, it has seen a resurgence thanks to the COVID-19 pandemic. The New York Times writes of Randy Nuñez and Sasha Nuñez-Carvalho, who married via double proxy in October while he was quarantining in San Diego and she was deployed in the Navy in Europe.

    Proxy marriage is legal in the state of Montana and several other American states, all the couple has to do is sign their right-of-attorney over to two stand-ins who them get married for them and sign the marriage licence on their behalf with an officiant present.

    The couple who stood in for the Nuñez’s, Chris and April Coen actually specialise in double proxy marriages. For $675 (about R9910), the Coens will stand in for couples wanting to to tie knot. In fact, business has grown by 400% amid the pandemic and by the end of 2020 alone they would have performed about 2500 double proxy marriages.

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