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    In a story entirely fitting for 2020, a bride would not let her positive COVID-19 diagnosis stop her from getting married.

    California couple Lauren (29) and Patrick Delgado (27) have been engaged since May 2019, and had already downscaled their big day due to the pandemic. They changed their venue and guest list three times, and took it in their stride as they were excited to marry. However, things took a turn for the worse when Lauren tested positive for COVID-19 only five days before their wedding.

    “Everything that could go wrong did go wrong,” Lauren told NBC News. “”I was really saddened because everything we had planned was already getting cancelled.”

    Since their marriage license was scheduled to expire the day after their wedding, the pair decided to go ahead with their big day while Lauren quarantined at her mother’s house.

    Their November 21 wedding was so impromptu that Lauren didn’t even have enough time to pick up her wedding dress, and instead just wore a white dress straight from her closet.

    Patrick stood outside the home as Lauren said her vows from her second floor bedroom window. Their 10 guests, who had all tested negative, wore face masks and stood socially distanced outside Lauren’s window or watched from their parked cars to enjoy the 45-minute ceremony.

    In place of holding hands, the pair held each end of a flower-decorated ribbon as they exchanged their vows.

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    “It was the most 2020 wedding I have ever shot during Covid-19,” said Jessica Jackson, the wedding photographer.

    “I was just so happy and excited to be surrounded by my closest loved ones there,” Lauren added. “It wasn’t about a big wedding, it was just about celebrating our love and life together.”

    After the ceremony, Patrick went to his home while Lauren stayed at her mother’s house to continue her quarantine. They ended their evening by watching the Netflix movie ‘Holidate’ and eating dinner separately over FaceTime

    “It’s almost like a funny story we’ll one day tell our children,” Delgado said. “Like, we couldn’t sleep in the same bed the same day we got married.”

    Lauren hopes to have a bigger ceremony with their extended families and friends some day in the future, when it is completely safe to do so.

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    Marriage has been a time-honoured tradition for centuries. While normally considered to be between two consenting adults, it seems marriage has a loose definition in today’s world.

    It’s not only humans tying the knot with each other. Over the years, people have fallen in love with inanimate objects and decided to take the next step in their relationship by getting married. Here are a few of the unexpected things people have tied the knot with.

    The Eiffel Tower

    Erika La Tour Eiffel must have a thing for the tall, strong and silent type because she said ‘I do’ to the iconic Eiffel Tower. The bride is known as an “objectum sexual”, a person who falls in love with inanimate objects. Before the Eiffel Tower, she was in love with Lance, a bow that lead her to become a world champion in archery.

    If you’d like to know more about Erika, there is a whole documentary called “The Woman Who Married the Eiffel Tower,” that tracks her life and her love story with this iconic landmark.

    A ghost

    Amanda Large Teague from Ireland claimed to have tied the knot with the ghost of a 300-year-old Haitian pirate she met while meditating for the first time. She is convinced the pirate was that of Jack Teague, who some believe to be the pirate who inspired the character of Captain Jack Sparrow in the ‘Pirates of the Caribbean’ franchise.

    After months of communicating, the pair married aboard a boat on the Atlantic Ocean in 2016. Unfortunately, the pair did not last, and went their separate ways in 2018.

    A smartphone

    It seems this guy saw the movie “Her” one too many times. Back in 2016, Aaron Chervenak from Los Angeles travelled to The Little Vegas Chapel in Nevada to say ‘I do’ to his cellphone.

    His marriage, while not legally recognised, was done to make a point about society’s growing obsession and reliance on smartphones.

    A sex-doll

    Kazakhstani Bodybuilder Yuri Tolochko recently married his sex-doll girlfriend Margo after proposing back in December 2019. The pair were meant to marry sooner, but were forced to postpone due to the COVID-19 pandemic.

    In an interview, Tolochko claimed to have paid for Margo to have plastic surgery, as she “began to develop a complex” after receiving criticism over her looks following their engagement announcement.

    She has changed a lot. At first it was hard to accept, but I got used to it later on. It was at a real clinic with real doctors,” he said. 

    A tree

    Back in 2018, mother of two Kate Cunningham said ‘I do’ to an elder tree at Rimsose Valley Country Park in order to bring attention to how green spaces in the area were being destroyed.

    The Daily Mail reports that she changed her last name by deed poll to ‘Elder’ after the species of the tree she married.

    The marriage idea began as a way to prevent the local government from building a bypass road that would run through the Valley.

    A hologram

    Akihiko Kondo from Japan married a hologram of cyber celebrity Hatsune Miku back in 2018. He fell in love with her a decade before when he first heard her music.

    After falling into a deep depression, Kondo explains that the hologram, which is programmed to speak and respond, helped bring colour to his life. His bride lives in his Gatebox device, which creates the flickering hologram of Miku.

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    South Africa will be getting more regional courts to adjudicate civil disputes in December. This increase will make it easier for people to get divorced.

    Justice Minister Ronald Lamola announced that changes to the Magistrates Court Act will take effect from December 1, 2020. Every regional court has been appointed as a place for the holding of a civil court.

    Until recently, regional courts were reserved for more serious criminal offenses and civil disputes, like divorce matters. This change will make it easier for people to access civil law services closer to where they live.

    “Up until the end of November only a few of the regional courts could hear civil matters,” said the Ministry of Justice and Correctional Services on Tuesday, December 1. “Prior to this change being made, people often had to travel long distances, and at great expense, to litigate and be able to access civil law services offered by the regional courts, including having their applications for divorce heard.”

    More seats have been appointed, making it easier for people to take divorce matters and civil disputes to court nearer to their homes.

    “Many of the seats are in the historically Black areas and rural villages. As an example, in the former Transkei area of the Eastern Cape, persons would have had to travel to Mthatha for their divorces to be heard.  With the new changes, they can now go to any of the 25 Regional Courts spread around the region. There are, in total, 72 proclaimed civil regional court seats across the Eastern Cape province,” added the Ministry.

    In the Southern Cape, people previously had to travel to George to get divorced. Now, they can travel to Heidelberg, Mossel Bay, Oudtshoorn, Plettenberg Bay, Riversdale, Swellendam, Thembalethu or Uniondale to access civil law services.

    The Western Cape has 32 seats to serve the population.

    “Regional courts are vital to ensure access to justice. Enhancing access to justice means taking the courts closer to the people which, in turn, minimizes costs and inconvenience when matters are to be heard. By establishing these civil seats, we are taking justice to the doorsteps of peoples’ homesteads,” said the Minister.

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    Despite Daft Punk’s famous lyric, it seems that many newlyweds aren’t ‘up all night to get lucky’.

    A recent campaign by Compare.bet/en-au/ surveyed 980 couples across 44 countries with the highest populations to find out if they consummated their marriage on the night they tied the knot. They then created a map showing the top 10 countries most likely to consummate their marriage on their wedding night, and the bottom 10 countries who didn’t find the time to make it ‘official’.

    The results are in:

    The newlyweds most interested in getting jiggy straight after they tied the knot were from Finland, with a whopping 89% saying they consummated their marriage on their wedding night.

    Following closely behind was Egypt, with 88% of couples saying they had sex on their first night being married, whilst 12% didn’t.

    In third place was unsurprisingly the hot-blooded Brazilians, with 87% doing the deed on their first night as man and wife. South Africans ranked pretty high, with 82% consummating the marriage on wedding night.

    Japan and Russia had the second and third lowest percentage of consummating couples. And it was bad news for the Australians, who came trailing in last place, with only 36% getting laid on their wedding night, compared to 64% of couples who didn’t mark the occasion.

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    Eight years of marriage is a massive achievement. Things may have changed, but hopefully your love is still as strong or even stronger.

    Every year is a special year for a married couple, as it marks another 365 days of their union. However, each anniversary has its own special meaning, according to tradition.

    The eighth year is traditionally symbolised by bronze. As bronze is made of copper and tin, it represents the blending of two elements together, thus creating a stronger product. These elements are individually strong, but made even more durable when they come together.

    Here are some traditional bronze gift ideas to give your partner:

    – Jewellery

    – Bookends

    – Wine goblets

    – Belt buckle

    – Personalised wine bucket

    – A sculpture

    – An ornate vase

    – A bronze-trimmed mirror

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    It has been two years since iconic celebrity couple Nick Jonas and Priyanka Chopra said ‘I do’ in a lavish, star-studded ceremony in India.

    On their anniversary, the pair both took to social media to express their love and devotion to one another.

    “Two years married to the most wonderful, inspiring and beautiful woman. Happy anniversary @priyankachopra I love you. ❤️,” wrote Nick.

     

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    Chopra Jonas followed up with a message just as sweet, writing: “Happy 2 year anniversary to the love of my life. Always by my side. My strength. My weakness. My all. I love you @nickjonas

    Nick and Priyanka’s December 1, 2018 nuptials were done in spectacular fashion with a three-day wedding blending Hindu and Christian traditions. They said ‘I do’ at the Umaid Bhawan Palace in Jodhpur, Rajasthan. Kevin and Joe Jonas, Sophie Turner, 30 Rock actor Jack McBrayer and Elizabeth Chambers Hammer were just a few of the notable guests at this lavish wedding.

    Every member of the bridal party stunned in Ralph Lauren, with Chopra stealing the spotlight in a Ralph Lauren designed dress that was hand-embroidered and hand-beaded with more than two million mother-of-pearl sequins sewed into it. It was her veil, however, that truly stole the show. A 22-metre veil, that is! Chopra’s veil required assistance from five people to bring to the altar where Nick Jonas was awaiting her.

     

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    The amount of stress we’ve had to deal with this year has been immense. Not just on personal mental health but there has been, a knock-on effect on our relationships, too.

    We’ve been locked indoors together for months on end. We’ve had to endure loss of income, health issues and separation from friends and family.  Parents have had to take on the daunting extra duty of home-schooling. . Within this context, many relationships have taken strain. That’s why it’s essential, if you can, to try and get away from it all and treat yourself to a well-deserved break. A chance to rekindle that romantic spark and reconnect as a couple after this crazy year.

    Here’s how a trip away can benefit your relationship with your significant other:

    Nature

    Remember when we could only exercise in that one small time period each day? Parks, forests and streets were packed with people simply breathing in the fresh air and communing with nature as we found a renewed appreciation in the power of nature to lift our spirits. So, pick a holiday destination where nature is abundant and the outdoors are celebrated, like the Maldives, with its open spaces, white sand beaches, swaying palm trees and abundant sea life.

    There are so many land and water sports, and outdoor activities to enjoy in the Maldives – most of which are all-inclusive if you book in a resort like Club Med (who have great deals to the Maldives at the moment!). The Maldives is also one of the few places which South Africans can travel to without quarantining, plus you simply get a visa on arrival (super easy!).

    Self-care

    The adage of putting your own oxygen mask on before helping others applies here too. You can’t build a strong relationship unless you are strong inside yourself. A holiday is certainly a form of self-care, especially if you go somewhere which offers the things which help you recharge – indulge in quiet time, outdoor activities, beauty treatments, wholesome food or something else entirely. Whether you practise self-care together or separately, your relationship can only be better for it.

    Laughter

    The saying “laughter is the best medicine” was so apt this year because where would we have been without humour? Whether it’s watching silly sitcoms on Netflix during lockdown, laughing at ridiculous situations or witty memes on social media– humour can be a lifeline in stressful times like these.

    Holidays can give you space to relax and unwind, and make time for spontaneity, happiness and laughter – things we all really need after this pandemic. If you choose an all-inclusive holiday package all your needs are taken care of from the moment you arrive, leaving more time for enjoying the moment and making new memories!

    Honest communication

     We may have spent most of this year inside the same four walls, but that doesn’t mean that we’ve always been communicating effectively. In fact, you may have spent much of your leisure time on your individual laptops watching Netflix in separate rooms!

    This trip can be a time to stay away from screens, and really spend time together with no work or household chores to distract you. You can really talk about what’s happened in 2020, how this made you both feel, and how you can work together to tackle issues and be stronger, together.

    Reflection and planning

    Using this rare time to communicate, now’s a great opportunity to reflect on the kind of lives you want to achieve. 2020 has forced us all to re-evaluate what really matters to us, showing us how important our loved ones are, how valuable our physical health is and why it’s vital to slow down our lives to enjoy simple pleasures. Time away from the mundane gives you space to do this reflection exercise together, so you can make a plan to work towards the life you envisage in the new normal.

    This year has had a detrimental effect on our stress levels, and holidays are one science-proven way to improve on that. In a 2009 study, Canadian researchers found that taking holidays helped to buffer job stress among a sample of 900 lawyers. We may not all be lawyers but we’ve certainly all experienced stress this year – so dust off that suitcase, get planning and get packing. You deserve it and your relationship needs it.

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    Actor Jonathan Bennett, best known for his role as Aaron Samuels in the cult-classic film Mean Girls, is engaged! The actor said yes to boyfriend Jaymes Vaughan, who proposed in a truly memorable way.

    According to PEOPLE Magazine, Vaughan went down on one knee and proposed with an original song he wrote for Bennett.

    “He wrote me a song! We would always hear songs and think, “Oh that would be our song if just this part or that part were different,” so as a result we didn’t have a song that was “ours”, Bennett told PEOPLE.

    Jaymes added: “So while he was in Canada filming The Christmas House for Hallmark, I took a melody that up until now had only be accompanied by chopsticks on my voice notes, and got together with my friend Tanzer, who happens to be a really talented producer and my favorite person to write songs with, and said “Let’s make this magical for Jonathan.” ”

    Under the guise of taking family Christmas card photos, Vaughan gathered their closest family together to share in the special moment. He held a sign that read: “We never did find our song, so I wrote it for you,” which caused Bennett to burst into tears when he realised what was happening. 

    As their song played in the background, Vaughan got down on one knee to propose.

     

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    Getting cold feet before your wedding day can be disastrous. Getting married is a major life step and it’s natural that doubts will creep in, but a full change of heart is a huge issue.

    While the phrase is common in the English language, it is often related to engaged couples who experience a sudden change of feelings. But where does this saying come from? As with any tradition in the wedding world, it has a unique and complicated origin.

    Having ‘cold feet’ can refer to any instance in which someone loses courage or confidence for a specific event. According to the Oxford English Dictionary, the earliest use of the phrase can be attributed to writer and poet Stephen Crane.

    In the 1896 edition of “Maggie: A Girl of the Streets,”, the author wrote: “I knew this was the way it would be. They got cold feet.”

    By the early 1990s, the phrase entered the common lexicon and was mostly used on college campuses before the term ‘coldfooter’ became synonymous with those too afraid to fight in the Great War.

    Soon, the saying extended to more spheres of society and became common parlance. It became especially popular in the wedding world in the 1990s after the film ‘Runaway Bride’ premiered.

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    American Horror Story star Taissa Farmiga has been hiding a pretty big secret. The actress secretly tied the knot with long-term love, filmmaker Hadley Klein back in August.

    The pair said ‘I do’ in a small ceremony on August 8, 2020. Farmiga announced their recent union on Thanksgiving Day [ November 26] by posting a sweet image from their big day.

    “Married my best friend. 08.08.2020,” she captioned the image.

     

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    The pair have been together for four years, and share a low-key relationship. However. they have been calling each other ‘husband’ and ‘wife’ on social media, leading fans to speculate they had secretly tied the knot.

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