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Michelle and Barack Obama are a powerhouse. The former President of the United States and former First Lady have always leaned on each other throughout their marriage, and rise to power – Michelle has opened up about the difficulties they faced along the way.

In an Instagram post, the former First Lady shared a brand new image from their 1992 wedding, along with a few wise words on marriage.

“Last week on The #MichelleObamaPodcast, Conan and I reflected on our marriages. This relationship can be one of the most foundational pieces of our identities—bringing us so much joy, meaning, and support every single day,” she wrote.

“But one thing is for sure: It also takes a lot of work; a lot of honesty with ourselves and our partners. That’s one thing I’ve learned.”

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The Obama’s tied the knot on October 3, 1992 at Trinity United Church of Christ in Chicago. Almost three decades later, the pair have built an incredible empire and expanded their family with daughters Malia (22) and Sacha (19).

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Speaking on the podcast, Michelle explains that their marriage has not always been easy.

“There were times that I wanted to push Barack out of the window. And I say that because it’s like, you’ve got to know the feelings will be intense. But that doesn’t mean you quit. And these periods can last a long time. They can last years,” she said.

“Young couples, they face these challenges and they’re ready to give up because they think they’re broken. And I just want to say, look, if that breaks a marriage, then Barack and I have been broken off and on, throughout our marriage, but we have a very strong marriage.

“And if I had given up on it, if I had walked away from it, in those tough times, then I would’ve missed all the beauty that was there as well.”

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While the standard assumption is that celebrity marriages don’t last, there are actually some Hollywood couples who have proven that love conquers all. These great talents are also great partners and have shared their wisdom with fans over the years.

Here are our favourite bits of marriage advice from celebrity couples.

Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell

 

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Although not legally married, Goldie and Kurt have been together for more than 30 years.

“Love, gratitude, compassion, because sometimes every man or every woman will drive their partner crazy. Family. Fun. Laughs. Sex,” Goldie told People. “If you don’t nurture that, and remember, you’re done.”

Neil Patrick Harris and David Burtka 

 

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Everyone’s Instagram couple goals, Neil and David aren’t just good on the gram but are actually good at building a strong bond in reality as well.

“In our relationship, communication is super important,” Neil said to Entertainment Tonight. “Good friends of ours said, ‘You need to talk it out,’ and if that means raising your voice, you need to raise your voice. Know what you’re talking about. Know where you’re standing as opposed to letting stuff build up, I guess.”

Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson 

 

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Tom Hanks, everyone’s favourite star/dad gave out the marriage advice you would expect from such a lovely, humble guy. 

“We just like each other,” he said. “You start there … I still can’t believe my wife goes out with me. If we were in high school and I was just funny, I’d never have the courage to talk to her.”

Emily Blunt and John Krasinski

 

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Another favourite pair, Emily and John combine major Hollywood stardom with their down-to-earth, funny style.

“We really trust each other,” she told E! News. “We’re very honest with each other. We sort of have a shorthand and secret language that ultimately is gonna work for us.”

Chrissy Teigen and John Legend 

 

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Everyone knows that Chrissy and John are great together, especially because she teases him so much on social media. Her advice reflects their “all in good fun” attitude.

“I think it’s really important to be complete partners in crime,” Chrissy told Well+Good. “I love the mentality of ‘us against the world.’ Even when you have kids, never forget your relationship as partners and lovers – that’s so important.”

Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard

 

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These two have weathered incredible storms and come out on the other side stronger. Acknowledging you need some help is key and this couple know first hand.
“We have a very healthy marriage and we got there by doing therapy when we needed it, and constantly doing fierce moral inventories,” Kristen once told People.
Gabrielle Union and Dwayne Wade 

 

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Finally, Gabriella and Dwayne have the advice that trumps all others: Don’t listen to advice. The beautiful couple understand that each relationship is personal between those involved so taking on the world’s pressures doesn’t help.
“Stop listening to people who have failed miserably at relationships as they offer relationship advice; that’s the first thing,” she told Ebony. “Second, my ‘perfect’ relationship isn’t the next person’s. Stop comparing your life, your love and your marriage. Everyone [doesn’t] have to match for it to be real, amazing and beautiful. It only needs to be [those three things] to you.”
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Planning your big day is an exciting time, filled with a number of moving parts. Beyond your wedding flowers and seating chart, it’s important to give lots of thought to the legal side of getting married.

As you join hearts with your partner, you also enter into a legal agreement that can have serious repurcussions later on in life. As such, this might be the most important decision you make in the lead up to your big day.

Couples intending to marry will have to sign a marriage contract. South Africa has three main matrimonial property systems, and each option will largely impact on the couple if they decide to divorce later on in life.

Marriage in community of property:

Legal Wize explains that marriage in community of property essentially combines the estates of the married couple. Property and debts acquired prior to or during the marriage are shared equally in undivided shares (50%). Both spouses are jointly liable to creditors.

South African law automatically opts for this marital regime unless another regime is selected. This is the most popular agreement in the country, although it’s not the advisable option for many reasons.

This contract makes you responsible for all debt incurred by your spouse, including debt incurred before your marriage. Your financial position could thus be weakened by your partner. In the event your assets are seized by a court order to pay creditors for money owed to them, all of your assets can be taken because your estates are joined.

Beyond this, if your spouse dies without a will in place, the surviving spouse is only entitled to half of the assets. The other half are automatically granted to any dependents like children, or the deceased’s nearest relations in the absence of kids.

Of course, if the marriage ends in divorce then all assets will be split equally, regardless of what you came into the marriage with.

This option makes the most sense for couples who enter into the marriage with little assets. However, you cannot predict the future. You might hit it big later on in life and your relationship with your partner may turn sour, but you will still have to share your assets equally in the event of divorce.

Marriage out of community of property with accrual:

Another option is to marry out of community of property with accrual.  The accrual system is a formula that is used to calculate how much the larger estate must pay the smaller estate if the marriage comes to an end through death or divorce.

Only property acquired during the marriage can be considered when calculating the accrual. The accrual system does not automatically apply and must be included in an ante-nuptial contract.  

An ante-nuptial contract is a contract entered into to regulate whether a marriage will be out of community of property with/without the accrual system. It must be signed by the persons entering into a marriage, two witnesses and a notary public, and it must be registered in the Deeds Registries office within the prescribed time period.

Marriage out of community of property without accrual:

If a couple decides to marry out of community of property without the accrual system, the spouses have their own estates which contain property and debts acquired prior to and during the marriage (“what is mine is mine and what is yours is yours”). Each spouse is separately liable to his/her creditors. Prior to the marriage, an ante-nuptial contract must be entered into to indicate that the marriage will be out of community of property. 
This marriage contract protects your individual assets, but disadvantages the spouse who earns less. The breadwinner of the relationship will end up with greater assets because they likely paid for it, disadvantaging the other spouse and all of their unpaid efforts in the marriage. This is especially damaging for those who stop working to raise their children while their partners work, as their reproductive labour goes unrecognised by the law.

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Ethereal: Extremely delicate and light in a way that seems not to be of this world. Float down the aisle in a dreamy creation of soft fabrics and silhouettes. Ethereal dresses are perfect for the bride wanting to exude a subtle sophistication.

This style is all about softness. Opt for airy cuts with billowing sleeves and a-line skirts that move with your every step. Adding layers builds on this fantasy and produces an even more delicate touch.

Think of fabrics like tulle, silk and lace to create this dream. Incorporate delicate applique details on top to perfectly finished it off.

Turn your dreams to reality with these magical gowns:

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Food, glorious food. Everybody loves a little snack to tide them over during the day. While you will likely have a yummy spread set out for your guests during cocktail hour, you can also use food for another function.

Escort cards are small personalised items to guide your guests to their seat. Unlike a seating chart, they can take the card with them. This card can really be made of anything, from seashells and marble slabs to pot plants and mini booze bottles.

Food-lovers can extend this theme and give their guests something to nibble on by using bite-size snacks as escort cards. Any treat will work, as long as its small and individual-sized. You can go fruity with lemons and berries, use blocks of your favourite cheese on skewers or label chocolates.

Here are some delicious bites you should think of adding to your big day:

Seat and eat: Food-inspired escort cards
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Seat and eat: Food-inspired escort cards
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Seat and eat: Food-inspired escort cards
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Seat and eat: Food-inspired escort cards
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Seat and eat: Food-inspired escort cards
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Seat and eat: Food-inspired escort cards
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Seat and eat: Food-inspired escort cards
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Seat and eat: Food-inspired escort cards
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Seat and eat: Food-inspired escort cards
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Seat and eat: Food-inspired escort cards
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Let’s toast to the good life! A wedding day is often made much more entertaining with some bottles of your favourite booze. While an open bar is aways welcomed by guests, there are more ways to bring in your favourite drink in your big day.

Couples who have a deep appreciation for alcohol can get creative in showcasing their passion. Go big with unique drink displays, incorporate it into your seating chart or even give it out as wedding favours.

Here are some awesome ideas to sip on:

Seating charts and escort cards:

Use you leftover wine bottles as escort cards! Simply clean them out and remove the labelling, then use a marker to write out the names of your guests or print it out on paper and paste it to the bottle. Think beyond bottles and use decanters or even cocktail shakers as seating charts!

If you’d like something your guests can sip and savour, use glasses of your favourite drink as escort cards. Wine walls are super trendy and double as an amazing art installation. For a more casual vibe, have shot glasses and mini wedges of lemon set up for your guests to get the party started.

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Interactive bars:

There are so many interesting and fun ways to serve up your alcoholic beverages. Instead of a boring bar, get more interactive with booze carts. A dedicated stand to your favourite drink like a champagne cart acts as an extra feature and adds a cool edge to your big day.

You can also set up some DIY drink stands to allow your guests to help themselves. Think of a gin or prosecco bar with an assortment of fruits and mixers to pimp out your drink.

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Wedding favours:

Give your guests something to enjoy on their way out of your festivities with miniature bottles of your favourite drink. From whiskey and tequila to bourbon and bubbly, each little drink can be complimented with a fun and cheesy slogan. Drunk in love, anyone?

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Being a wedding photographer is a tough job. Tasked with capturing one of the most special days in a person’s life can be daunting, but South Africa has a wealth of talented individuals ready to rise to the occasion.

Photographers, like all wedding vendors, have been deeply impacted by the COVID-19 pandemic. For months, photographers were left without gigs as infections surged and people stayed indoors to avoid contracting the virus.

As the industry slowly reopens under Level 2 lockdown, vendors will have to adjust to the new reality. Wedding ETC spoke to Cape Town-based photographer Micaela Peters of Micaela Sling Photography to hear the reality of weddings in lockdown.

Peters has been seriously shooting for about a year, and her love for the art form is continuously growing. What started out as her being tired of being in front of the camera as a model and blogger turned into a more permanent post.

However, the lockdown was a massive blow, forcing her to change tactics.

“Lockdown has impacted my business immensely. At the beginning, no photoshoots were allowed at all, meaning no income for photographers – and we had to adapt by doing product shoots for business that continued their digital marketing.

“With companies losing profits and people losing their jobs, many stopped doing photoshoots. Weddings that were planned were cancelled or postponed, which made it really tough for photographers who relied solely on photography as their income.”

Weddings are now allowed under Level 2 lockdown, however strict health and safety regulations must be in place. No more than 50 may gather, and all guests are required to wear a mask at all times except when eating and drinking.

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A wedding is all about love, laughter and joy. How does one go about this big day when you’re not supposed to hug and kiss? Peters recently shot a lockdown wedding, and the experience was unique, to say the least.

“I think one thing that stood out for me was how impersonal some pictures had to be when it came to the elderly. The wearing of the masks, the sanitisers, social distancing has become a norm. However, its tough for people to abide by these laws at a wedding because they’re around close friends and family whom they ‘trust.’ The churches are less full, and more impersonal during the wedding because guests need to social distance, therefore you need to be more creative with making the pictures not look impersonal.”

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She continues: “Photographers are needing to adapt their lens to keep a distance, as well as constantly sanitising to protect themselves and others. Wedding parties are smaller, and extremely intimate, making you ease up and be more comfortable with people, making it easy to forget about coronavirus.”
In general, photographers have had to change their tactics in light of the pandemic, but not that much has changed. Peters explains that it has, however, forced her to become a lot more creative and resourceful.
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“Location scouting has been tough, especially because so many restaurants and locations have closed down due to the pandemic, resulting in more research being required. Other than those, shooting in the pandemic is not a major change.

“Taking precautions have just become a norm, and being responsible when it comes to sanitising yourself and letting your client know if you’re feeling sick and need to postpone or having an open conversation with them about their health. “

Now that weddings are back on the cards, it’s important for couples to do their research before booking a photographer. Here are Micaela’s top tips:

– Check the photographer’s previous work before agreeing to the shoot as once the 50% is paid, you can’t get it back if you don’t like their work.

– Skype calls or meet ups are important to clarify expectations and what the package entitles couples to

– Some wedding photographers are willing to negotiate the prices or adapt the package to accompany your needs and budget (many have had financial strain during lockdown)

– Signing of a contract protects both you and the photographer, so make sure to read it carefully

– Do a couples shoot before the wedding to build a good chemistry with the photographer and get to know them.

If you’re in need of a wedding photographer, Micaela is your girl. Besides weddings, she also does lifestyle photography and works with bloggers. If you would like to work with her, find her Wedding Package HERE. Check out her work on her Instagram page, at Micaela Sling Photography or her Facebook page. Also make sure to visit her website www.micaelasling.co.za  
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Flowers are stunning, but they’re also a bit expected for a wedding day. Why not swop them out for some adorable puppies instead?

Puppy bouquets are a great alternative that offers more than just a few extra cute wedding guests. Couples work with animal shelters and rescues to showcase the sweet pups at their weddings in the hopes that someone in the crowd will adopt them. This way, you help dogs in need find their forever home.

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If you love this idea and would like to include it in your big day, there are a few things to keep in mind. The health and safety of the dogs must be a top priority, so it is important you have structures in place to protect them.

Before bringing the dogs, make sure a welfare check has been conducted. Things to consider are whether they are old enough to be taken away from their mother, whether they have been vaccinated, and whether any of them have any injuries or anxieties that may affect them being outside.

These puppies are not toys, and not meant to be held throughout the ceremony. Instead of carrying them down the aisle, the bridal party can simply swop out their floral bouquets for the pups during the official wedding photoshoot. This limits the time they have to be held down.

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For the photoshoot, make sure to brief your party on the proper way to hold a dog as those without pets may to be familiar how to do it.

It’s also important to be considerate of loud noises. If you plan on having dogs present, a fireworks display is a really bad idea as it can make them very nervous and scared. Loud music, horns or just the general traffic of a busy wedding can all contribute to their anxiety.

Having a safe space where the pups can rest, away from the guests will also be really helpful.

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Your wedding vows is a time to express how much you love your partner. Now is the time to be as honest and heartfelt as possible.

However, being so emotional is not easy for everyone. So why not refer to the experts? If you’re in need of inspiration, simply turn to your favourite musician. There is a wealth of love songs that perfectly explain your deepest feelings.

Here are a few special songs that give us all the feels:

Your Song – Elton John

Best line: ‘I hope you don’t mind / That I put down in words / How wonderful life is while you’re in the world’

Best Part – Daniel Caesar

Best line: ‘You’re the coffee that I need in the morning / You’re my sunshine in the rain when it’s pouring’

The First Time Ever I Saw Your Face – Roberta Flack

Best line: ‘The first time ever I saw your face / I thought the sun rose in your eyes’

Stuck on You – Lionel Richie

Best line: ‘Stuck on you / I’ve got this feeling down deep in my soul that I just can’t lose’

Dangerously in Love – Destiny’s Child

Best line: ‘Baby, I love you, you are my life / My happiest moments weren’t complete if you weren’t by my side / You’re my relation in connection to the sun / With you next to me there’s no darkness I can’t overcome’

At Last – Etta James

Best line: ‘At last my love has come along / My lonely days are over and life is like a song, oh yeah’

I Won’t Give Up – Jason Mraz

Best line: ‘I won’t give up on us / Even if the skies get rough / I’m giving you all my love / I’m still looking up’

Waiting For A Girl Like You – Foreigner

Best line: ‘I’ve been waiting for a girl like you to come into my life / I’ve been waiting for a girl like you, your loving will survive / I’ve been waiting for someone new to make me feel alive’

(They Long To Be) Close To You – The Carpenters

Best line: ‘On the day that you were born the angels got together / And decided to create a dream come true / So they sprinkled moon dust in your hair of gold and starlight in your eyes of blue’

Back At One – Brian McKnight

Best line: ‘One / You’re like a dream come true / Two / Just want to be with you / Three / Girl, it’s plain to see / That you’re the only one for me’

Make You Feel My Love – Adele

Best line: ‘I’d go hungry; I’d go black and blue / And I’d go crawling down the avenue / No, there’s nothing that I wouldn’t do / To make you feel my love’

All of Me – John Legend

Best line: ‘‘Cause all of me / Loves all of you / Love your curves and all your edges / All your perfect imperfections’

Songbird – Fleetwood Mac

Best line: ‘To you I would give the world / To you I’d never be cold / ‘Cause I feel that when I’m with you / It’s all right I know it’s right’

Come What May – Moulin Rouge soundtrack

Best line: ‘Seasons may change, winter to spring / But I love you until the end of time’

Such Great Heights – The Postal Service

Best line: ‘I am thinking it’s a sign / That the freckles in our eyes / Are mirror images / And when we kiss they’re perfectly aligned’

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All the focus in going to be on your hands as you show off your ring on your wedding day. Keep your fingers in tip top shape with some adorable nail art.

A massive trend right now is tip-focused nail art. It’s basically a modern take on the French manicure. Instead of framing nail tips in white, people are opting for fun detail. There is no limits to this design. You can incorporate print, colour or even an ombré finish.

This nail art trend is great for the bride who wants some type of detail but in a more subtle way. It can be classic or bold, depending on the detail you opt for.

Here are some tip-tastic ideas to inspire you:

 

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